I've been a supportive Navy wife for over 20 years and for the first time in my wonderful life with that wonderful man that I have been with for 25 years..I feel threatened! He travels..as they all do...and he's currently on an overseas trip with a female from his office. Just the 2 of them.. working on the boat..dining out..sight seeing..and now that they are finished with the boat..they are staying an extra day to go shopping! He isn't THAT type..but a very nice guy..who thinks of her as a "daughter" so to speak..but this isn't sitting well with me..what do I do?

Tell him how you feel.

First off, welcome to SOS. Secondly, have you tried talking to him about how you feel? You have been married for 20 years and if he is the wonderful guy you know him as there should be no problem in talking to him about it. :hugs

i agree, talk to him about it.

talk to him!

yep..that's what my sister said..and I plan to do just that..when he gets home..but, in the meantime..I'm dyin' here..how do I handle my fears?

How much longer will he be gone? I don't think I'd wait unless he was due back in a day or two. Until then try reminding yourself of what a wonderful husband he is and that you have had no reason to suspect anything. I don't hink there is much else you can do aside from keeping yourself as busy as possible till he gets back

he should be back on Thursday..but he makes his other guys come home when they are done to save money..and yet he is staying to shop with her?? I know..not a big deal right? My gut says otherwise..and yet..I can't believe it!

I'm having trouble figuring out this thread stuff..

I can understand that you're worried. I'd be too. I really don't think I could wait until he got home. If it were my husband I would simply ask him the next time we talked.

i'd have probablt put my foot down on the extra day for shopping.

it would bother me a lot too.. i would talk to him about it

I just checked the flight schedule..as it turns out..the next flight out is on thursday..so he couldn't get home early if he wanted to..! whew..Ok..I feel better..I guess? Not really..need more frangelico..

see..that's the trouble with submariners! all these years..no women! Now..with the "new" Navy..women everywhere! Totally sucks! Equal opportunity..not in this case! No way! Sorry!

see..that's the trouble with submariners! all these years..no women! Now..with the "new" Navy..women everywhere! Totally sucks! Equal opportunity..not in this case! No way! Sorry!

Ha Ha I agree!

If there wasn't any possible way for him to get home early maybe he just decided to make the best of it. Also when guys say "She is just a friend." I tend to worry but as soon as a guy places a female in a position resembling family i.e. Daughter, sister, mother then I don't worry at all. If he sees her like a daughter then he doesn't see her as an equal, and certainly doesn't see her in a way the disrespects her or his relationship with you. However, that is just my opinion, but hopefully it helps some.

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