So how many of my army ladies are completely devestated tonight?

why whats going on

what happen?:hugs :pray

WASHINGTON (CNN) -- Tours of duty for members of the U.S. Army will be extended from 12 months to 15 months effective immediately, Defense Secretary Robert Gates announced Wednesday.

Not an Army wife, but I think asking people to do 12 months is asking SO MUCH, to make it 15 is just, I don't know, I have no words.

You most certainly have my sympathy over this :(

My DH is on a MiTT team and they are the only ones they haven't decided on yet...we will know within the next 24-48 hours for sure:(

Apparently im not allowed to have feelings about this ...

However- i do. Im dissapointed. I thought for awhile things were going to clear up- but they are just getting worse.

I am devastated. I guess I will find out for sure here soon. It's not looking good though.

I just can not imagine.:no

I started crying when I saw it on the news. I just started dating my guy so our whole first year is gonna be apart. :tears

im so sorry for you ladies, I think that there are going to be so many problems after that announcement :(

Through my job I work with the Col of PAO and he is FLAMING mad because they released the info to the media BEFORE they even know so they could tell the families...he told me that we should all write our reprsenatives. Complete BS!

I think this is going to effect every single person affiliated to the army.

present deployments, upcoming deployments, future deployments-

were all in it for the long haul now...

Im not devestated because I knew already that Dh is getting deployed and getting deployed for a long time.

It sucks, but Im not devestated

This I think is compete bullshit...I don't care if there was a "one person leak" this is what the Col is really mad about.

The announcement marked one of the rare occasions when the military has not first told soldiers and their families about extended deployments, before going public with the news. And in a rare flash of temper, Gates acknowledged that a leak within the Pentagon forced his hand.

"I'll be very blunt. Some very thoughtless person in this building made the unilateral decision yesterday to deny the Army the opportunity to notify unit commanders who could then talk to their troops 48 hours before we made a public announcement. And I can't tell you how angry it makes many of us that one individual would create potentially so much hardship, not only for our service men and women, but their families by giving -- by letting them read about something like this in the newspapers," he said.

Through my job I work with the Col of PAO and he is FLAMING mad because they released the info to the media BEFORE they even know so they could tell the families...he told me that we should all write our reprsenatives. Complete BS!

Wow, that's so wrong. My DF is in the Guard.. but I totally feel for you ladies. :hugs

[QUOTE=JEMGK;880277]This I think is compete bullshit...I don't care if there was a "one person leak" this is what the Col is really mad about.

The announcement marked one of the rare occasions when the military has not first told soldiers and their families about extended deployments, before going public with the news. And in a rare flash of temper, Gates acknowledged that a leak within the Pentagon forced his hand.

"I'll be very blunt. Some very thoughtless person in this building made the unilateral decision yesterday to deny the Army the opportunity to notify unit commanders who could then talk to their troops 48 hours before we made a public announcement. And I can't tell you how angry it makes many of us that one individual would create potentially so much hardship, not only for our service men and women, but their families by giving -- by letting them read about something like this in the newspapers," he said.[/QUOTE

I already knew. Ive known for a few weeks now how long the deployemnt would be

I would have been ok had I been mentally prepared. But, they told us our MiTT teams would not be extended...now they are acting like they will change that. This is what they said in an email:

OIF/OEF deployment tours extended

The Secretary of Defense and Secretary of the Army announced this afternoon that active component Army unit deployment tours will be extended from 12 to 15 months in Iraq, Afghanistan, and Kuwait. Active component units that have already deployed in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom and Operation Enduring Freedom will be extended to serve a total of 15 months, under the new policy.
According to Secretary of Defense Robert Gates, the policy was meant "to provide better clarity, predictability and sustainability" of the U.S. military readiness. The secretary said deployments would be for "not more than 15 months" and that soldiers will return home to home station "for not less than 12 months."
Gates stated that he understands this is a sacrifice by Soldiers and families, but that "this policy is a difficult but necessary interim step" until a return to 12- month deployments" and that the extensions are necessary to meet surge requirements. He also said the Army will continue to do everything in its power to support families during this difficult time.

It is not known yet if this change affects the Transition Teams, however Fort Riley anticipates receiving guidance very soon.

The last part is what gives me any thread of hope.

I know this might be the wrong thing to say, but its only 3 more months.

well I knew for most units...it was "assumed" this made it official...i'm just blown away becaue they told us NO, MiTT teamers would not get extended:(

Since they told us that there was no chance of extension for us...I planned our "big wedding" for February 9...before he'll get back if he gets extended:(

well I knew for most units...it was "assumed" this made it official...i'm just blown away becaue they told us NO, MiTT teamers would not get extended:(

it sucks when you are told one thing, and another happens. It really does suck. But from what I have learned, is that they could be gone as long as they want them to be gone, and they will be coming home when you knwo for sure.

I dont count on a year, or 15 months, or ever 18. Im counting on him coming home when he calls and says Im coming home.

So for me, a deployment sucks regardless,but 15 months to me isnt to bad, its only a few more months in.

DH is Air Force and he's already on an 18 month deployment... :(

3 months is 3 months until they are deployed, and then it seem like an eternity. Especially when Monday we would have officially been 1/4 of the way done:(:(

Marnie, deployments are hard, emotionally, physically and mentally- 3 months may sound like nothing- but when you are going through the stress of not being with him after a period of time- 3 extra months sounds like a lifetime.

I was never the emotional one, i would never cry or show sad emotions - i had too much "pride" for that- but once dh got deployed- all that changed. When he told me his leave was going to be 4 months later then expected- i went absolutely crazy. I would never have thought i would have reacted the way i did, but i did. It ended up being for the better- but back then it seemed like life couldn't get any worse.

Marnie, deployments are hard, emotionally, physically and mentally- 3 months may sound like nothing- but when you are going through the stress of not being with him after a period of time- 3 extra months sounds like a lifetime.

I was never the emotional one, i would never cry or show sad emotions - i had too much "pride" for that- but once dh got deployed- all that changed. When he told me his leave was going to be 4 months later then expected- i went absolutely crazy. I would never have thought i would have reacted the way i did, but i did. It ended up being for the better- but back then it seemed like life couldn't get any worse.

yeah I understand that 3 months can seem like a lifetime. And I guess its just different for me, because my husbands orders say 16 months on them. So for me I know 12 is not gonna happen. So from the begining I have been preparing myself for it, and for it to be that long.

But I guess its different if you are told 12 and they get extended for 3.

Like I told my mom, I know it's the "way of the Army" to be unpredictable, but everyone has some sort of hope that it will work out a certain way...and especially when you have brigade cdr's telling you no extensions you tend to believe it...so of course it's going to feel like shit...and feel unexpected.

So for me, a deployment sucks regardless,but 15 months to me isnt to bad, its only a few more months in.

:agree

It goes by quickly..

I sure hope so, I have so much respect for you...I can't imagine 18 months.

yes it does suck..my db told me it was a possibility yesterday. Then my mom calls me at work and tells me and he didn't even know yet i had just gotten off the phone with him.So I found out the news before he did...

yeah I understand that 3 months can seem like a lifetime. And I guess its just different for me, because my husbands orders say 16 months on them. So for me I know 12 is not gonna happen. So from the begining I have been preparing myself for it, and for it to be that long.

But I guess its different if you are told 12 and they get extended for 3.

Yea exactly I was prepared for 12...If I was told 15 from the beginning I would have been metnally prepared for that when it came.

I guess I am just not upset because it was not something that was just sprung on me. I knew from the begining how long it was going to be.

I cover my pain with booze and prescription medication that I steal from my grandma... :lmao :lmao

God be with you all :hugs :pray

I have to tell DH in about an hour when he calls, he won't know:(:( He's going to be devestated. I think I'll be needing to borrow some meds and booze. Lol...

you can have some of my booze. and i have rice crispy treats

Can't wait for the weekend to drink my sorrows away, hahaha...which takes a whole 2 drinks now that DH isn't here...I never go out anymore. Yes I am now a lightweight.

yes it does suck..my db told me it was a possibility yesterday. Then my mom calls me at work and tells me and he didn't even know yet i had just gotten off the phone with him.So I found out the news before he did...

That's what made me the maddest when DH got extended back in January. They announced the specific brigades and batallions to the media before the families were informed.. I had to hear it on the news driving to work.

It was utter chaos.. All the families ended up getting a formal apology letter from the Col. in charge...

I know this might be the wrong thing to say, but its only 3 more months.

yeah your right... it was wrong to say.

For me that means my sons birthday... ANOTHER Thanksgiving... Christmas....

oh yeah and our 3rd anniversay in a row that he will be deployed for.

Yeah just three months.... not to me it isn't.

I am so sorry Army SO's. I cant even imagine.

yeah your right... it was wrong to say.

For me that means my sons birthday... ANOTHER Thanksgiving... Christmas....

oh yeah and our 3rd anniversay in a row that he will be deployed for.

Yeah just three months.... not to me it isn't.

Oh Lauren i just want to give you the biggest hug :hugs

Wow. That fucking sucks. :hugs

yeah your right... it was wrong to say.

For me that means my sons birthday... ANOTHER Thanksgiving... Christmas....

oh yeah and our 3rd anniversay in a row that he will be deployed for.

Yeah just three months.... not to me it isn't.

yes I understand that, and I am very sorry that your husband will be gone that much longer. I really am. And this whole situation sucks. But for me, I cant just sit here and harp on it, yeah I am upset that my husband will be gone for 16 months. thats a long time to go without. 16 months with possible extention. So for me it dosent seem like that much longer.

I apologise if you think its wrong for me to say, but my husband signed papers, I chose to marry him. I knew he was going to get deployed. And we both knew that when he got deployed he was most likely going to get extended. And for me to hear that his orders already say 16 months, 15 to me does not seem like such a huge deal.

But I am not gonna post anymore on this, because I seem to be the only one not to upset about this. Or suprised its happeneing.

But I guess its different if you are told 12 and they get extended for 3.

It's like this- imagine preparing yourself for the 16 months, then whilst he's deployed, you get told by the media- that everyone over there is gunna stay another 3 months ontop of what he has already. So then 16 months = 19 months. That's one hell of a long time sweetie! You would be upset im quite sure.

I understand what you mean. I just think its very different, as you said, to be told whilst he is deployed rather then before. There is no time to prepare yourself if it's sprung on you.

But I am not gonna post anymore on this, because I seem to be the only one not to upset about this. Or suprised its happeneing.

You just seem surprisingly unempathic, or unsympathetic.

That's great that it's fine to you, how about just saying "sorry, that stinks" to the people it DOES bother and upset?

I'm ususally a "suck it up, quit your pity party" type person, but 15 months is nuts IMO.

You just seem surprisingly unempathic, or unsympathetic.

That's great that it's fine to you, how about just saying "sorry, that stinks" to the people it DOES bother and upset?

I'm ususally a "suck it up, quit your pity party" type person, but 15 months is nuts IMO.

I agree. she doesnt even seem phased about the original deployment...

Oh Lauren i just want to give you the biggest hug :hugs

awe thanks I need it. I have been pretty down the last month or so anyway and then this. Seriously just a couple days ago I was beaming because he was told he might even be coming home a few weeks shy of a year... in time for my son's bday maybe. And now I have to find out this.

I have never claimed to be a tough woman. I try, but that is about all I can promise. We all know oging in orders can be extended but it doesn't make it any less hard.

By the time my hubby comes home for R&R he will have been gone 9 months... I thought if I can just make it until then the last lieelt bit will be easy. Well, I guess I was wrong.

Every single day since he left I show my son pictures of his Daddy and we watch his video. In the hopes that he will remember him and somehow recongnize his Daddy when he sees him again.

I know 3 months may seem like nothing to some of you, but for me it seems so long. I can literally feel my heart breaking. 90 more days of wondering if I am going to get that "knock" on my door. 90 more days of showing pictures of Daddy to my son. 90 more dinners to eat by myself and 90 more nights to sleep alone.

You just seem surprisingly unempathic, or unsympathetic.

That's great that it's fine to you, how about just saying "sorry, that stinks" to the people it DOES bother and upset?

I have said I was sorry. But Im just not suprised that this is happening. I feel for everyone, and I deal with the fact that my husband is going to be deployed for 16 months. I am just not shocked that they are making deployments longer.

Im not trying to be unempathic, or unsympathetic, but Ive said I was sorry, Ive said that it sucks. But I do have a different veiw on it. Yeah Im sure that when you are expecting one thing, and something else happens it sucks.

But from my experience with the army so far, is nothing has ever gone the way it was suppose to do, so I dont expect anything to be what is said.

I agree. she doesnt even seem phased about the original deployment...

Dont assume I am not phased by it. Ive made threads about it, but alot of what really bothers me or upsets me I chose not to make public on these boads.

I am very phased by it, everyday I wonder if I can do it. But for me, and the type of person that I am, I cant sit here and be upset and just focus on it. I cant do that. So for me Im not gonna dwell on a 15-16 month deployment because I cant change it. Yeah I am upset, I dont think its right. But I cant change it, so for me sitting here complaining, does not help me. It makes it worse for me.

Lauren you made me cry.. now I need a hug :(

My heart is breaking for every single one of you ladies with husbands over there right now..

I also feel like giving you a big hug Lauren :hugs.

I honestly don't think we should turn on Marnie. She is going through stress of her own and she is dealing with it the best way she can. Marnie is a great girl, and perhaps her original post did sound abit off, but she has apologised, and once again she is going through her own problems and perhaps 3 months sounds like nothing compared to the things shes dealing with right now.

I have said I was sorry. But Im just not suprised that this is happening. I feel for everyone, and I deal with the fact that my husband is going to be deployed for 16 months. I am just not shocked that they are making deployments longer.

Im not trying to be unempathic, or unsympathetic, but Ive said I was sorry, Ive said that it sucks. But I do have a different veiw on it. Yeah Im sure that when you are expecting one thing, and something else happens it sucks.

But from my experience with the army so far, is nothing has ever gone the way it was suppose to do, so I dont expect anything to be what is said.

I respect that you have a different way of dealing with deployments or maybe even stressful events in general. And you are right we shouldn't be suprised. I mean extensions happen a lot. You are absolutely correct. I am not surprised really. I mean ever since I knew he was leaving we worried about extensions. I am just dissapointed and sad. It just breaks my heart that he has to be away even longer.

Dont assume I am not phased by it. Ive made threads about it, but alot of what really bothers me or upsets me I chose not to make public on these boads.

Sorry, I guess I just feel like if my husband were to get deployed for 16 months i'd be freaking out. But props to you if you can handle it that well.

Sorry, I guess I just feel like if my husband were to get deployed for 16 months i'd be freaking out. But props to you if you can handle it that well.

I am freaking out, Im scared to death, but I know I cant change it, so I dont harp.

I am freaking out, Im scared to death, but I know I cant change it, so I dont harp.

:hugs im sorry marnie.

I respect that you have a different way of dealing with deployments or maybe even stressful events in general. And you are right we shouldn't be suprised. I mean extensions happen a lot. You are absolutely correct. I am not surprised really. I mean ever since I knew he was leaving we worried about extensions. I am just dissapointed and sad. It just breaks my heart that he has to be away even longer.

I am very sorry for you, I really am. My heart goes out to you. I wish it was different.

I respect that you have a different way of dealing with deployments or maybe even stressful events in general. And you are right we shouldn't be suprised. I mean extensions happen a lot. You are absolutely correct. I am not surprised really. I mean ever since I knew he was leaving we worried about extensions. I am just dissapointed and sad. It just breaks my heart that he has to be away even longer.

I cried for about a week after we got our new orders. I really wished I would have had the ability to just let it roll like Marnie does. :hugs

Maybe we should just all remember that we can't get upset over the things we have no control over..

I'm so sorry ladies :( :hugs

:hugs im sorry marnie.

Its really ok. and sometimes I come off as harsh, but for me I just cant be all sad about it. Or I would literally be writing my suicide note right now.

I cried for about a week after we got our new orders. I really wished I would have had the ability to just let it roll like Marnie does. :hugs

Maybe we should just all remember that we can't get upset over the things we have no control over..

thats why I am not upset. Because I cant control it.

EDIT. I am upset, but you knwo what I mean.

Oh and remember,

were army wives and we should stick together!

I am freaking out, Im scared to death, but I know I cant change it, so I dont harp.


And that's a good attitude to have.

I do apologize for not seeing your sympathetic posts in this thread. I didn't mean to make assumptions, sorry.

I've often taken the wrong way on boards for not being very wordy or flowery with my posts myself ;)

Its really ok. and sometimes I come off as harsh, but for me I just cant be all sad about it. Or I would literally be writing my suicide note right now.

And I really admire you for being able handle it so well. I know i couldnt

That's what made me the maddest when DH got extended back in January. They announced the specific brigades and batallions to the media before the families were informed.. I had to hear it on the news driving to work.

It was utter chaos.. All the families ended up getting a formal apology letter from the Col. in charge...

Well i know that tomorrow i will be getting a call with him cursing up a storm...he already told them not to do it...they would have a redneck white girl coming to whoop some ass...and i am pretty sure he said they don't get to come home for anymore r&r... which sucks...:sadeyes

Yeah, i think we all have to remember we handle events like this differently. No one way is the "correct" way.

I hope I didn't sound harsh to you Marnie when I said that about the 3 months. What I meant by it was that 3 months can be just those days or it can include special events and holidays, you know? I mean I'll be honest... any 3 months would bumm me out.. but man something about missing our anniversary AGAIN (we have never been together for one) and the holidays again... that's tough.

Yeah, i think we all have to remember we handle events like this differently. No one way is the "correct" way.

I hope I didn't sound harsh to you Marnie when I said that about the 3 months. What I meant by it was that 3 months can be just those days or it can include special events and holidays, you know? I mean I'll be honest... any 3 months would bumm me out.. but man something about missing our anniversary AGAIN (we have never been together for one) and the holidays again... that's tough.

no you can say whatever you want. I dont think you were harsh.

Well i know that tomorrow i will be getting a call with him cursing up a storm...he already told them not to do it...they would have a redneck white girl coming to whoop some ass...and i am pretty sure he said they don't get to come home for anymore r&r... which sucks...:sadeyes

they can't send them home for another R&R, because they aren't elegible.. they have to serve a full 12 months in country before they can bank another two weeks..

They did it that way on purpose. Bitches..:vent

they can't send them home for another R&R, because they aren't elegible.. they have to serve a full 12 months in country before they can bank another two weeks..

They did it that way on purpose. Bitches..:vent

thats fucked up.

RED AND YELLOW AND PINK AND GREEN PURPLE AND ORANGE AND BLUE!

I CAN SEE A RAINBOW, SEE A RAINBOW- AND SING A RAINBOW TOO!

Sorry, just thought a rainbow would brighten up the place :sos :grphug :sos

RED AND YELLOW AND PINK AND GREEN PURPLE AND ORANGE AND BLUE!

I CAN SEE A RAINBOW, SEE A RAINBOW- AND SING A RAINBOW TOO!

Sorry, just thought a rainbow would brighten up the place :sos :grphug :sos

I love you simmy.

I just got off the phone with DH, i sent him an email telling him to call as soon as possible. I had to tell him about the extension:( I figured he would want to hear it from me:(

I love you too!

And no one rip off that song! It was the first one i learnt and it's always been my favourite (L)

I just got off the phone with DH, i sent him an email telling him to call as soon as possible. I had to tell him about the extension:( I figured he would want to hear it from me:(

How did he take it?:hugs

He says "maybe I will ETS this is bullshit" he's a guy..not going to be all emotional like me, but he's pissed.

I know this might be the wrong thing to say, but its only 3 more months.

I am usually not the argumentative type, but 3 months and a measly 3000 extra bucks does not replace what these men, women and families are going through. Nobody's life is worth even one more day away from family and in harm's way...nor any amount of crappy bonuses. These people have done their time.

I am usually not the argumentative type, but 3 months and a measly 3000 extra bucks does not replace what these men, women and families are going through. Nobody's life is worth even one more day away from family and in harm's way...nor any amount of crappy bonuses. These people have done their time.

When did I say money replaces anything?

I have said I was sorry. But Im just not suprised that this is happening. I feel for everyone, and I deal with the fact that my husband is going to be deployed for 16 months. I am just not shocked that they are making deployments longer.

Im not trying to be unempathic, or unsympathetic, but Ive said I was sorry, Ive said that it sucks. But I do have a different veiw on it. Yeah Im sure that when you are expecting one thing, and something else happens it sucks.

But from my experience with the army so far, is nothing has ever gone the way it was suppose to do, so I dont expect anything to be what is said.

My experience with the Air Force has been the same. We're only 3 months in to this deployment and it's already been extended to 18 months. I think I'm more like you. I know I can't change it so I don't let it affect me that much. I mean, yeah it sucks. But what can I do?

lovetosing- Marnie has already explained all this, so i think if you read the entire thread you would see that her post is no longer an issue, and honestly i'd like to keep it that way because i don't want to see her beat down anymore when she dosn't deserve it.

My experience with the Air Force has been the same. We're only 3 months in to this deployment and it's already been extended to 18 months. I think I'm more like you. I know I can't change it so I don't let it affect me that much. I mean, yeah it sucks. But what can I do?

exactly, even the small things that dont matter much, are never ever the same as what they are originally from. I mean, everything has changed so much, that I just dont believe things untill it actually happens

lovetosing- Marnie has already explained all this, so i think if you read the entire thread you would see that her post is no longer an issue, and honestly i'd like to keep it that way because i don't want to see her beat down anymore when she dosn't deserve it.

whatever, atleast this thread is making my post count higher.

whatever, atleast this thread is making my post count higher.

:ohsnap

Lol! Mine too haha

exactly, even the small things that dont matter much, are never ever the same as what they are originally from. I mean, everything has changed so much, that I just dont believe things untill it actually happens

that's what DH says.. When I asked him when he would be coming home, he said, "When I'm on the plane.":rolleyes

that's what DH says.. When I asked him when he would be coming home, he said, "When I'm on the plane.":rolleyes

yup. Thats what DH tells me too. I always ask him if he thinks he will be coming home earlier than that ( he isnt gone yet) and he always go, "Have you not learned anything fromt he past year? Ill be back when Im back"

My understanding is for firedawgs their deployments are 14 months long...so not much effect here. He has no orders to deploy, thankfully- yet. :eek My heart goes out to you ladies. :hugs

I was really upset earlier, but now I'm just like ok, time to deal.

I was really upset earlier, but now I'm just like ok, time to deal.

:hugs :hugs :hugs

I'm just relieved right now that he isn't delpoyed and will be under NATO orders for the next 3 years and this won't affect us. I feel for all of you other army girls who's SO's are being extended.

I'm going out on a limb here and I'm going to get judged for what I have to say. Before anyone jumps down my back, let me say that my husband IS deployed and IS effected by this extension. I feel for everyone who is effected by this because honestly, I don't wish a deployment on my worst enemy even more so, an extension turning into something permanent for future deployments.

No, I'm not devastated, upset, angry, etc. because I expected an extension. It sucks but I will go on and do the best I can until he's on a plane to come home. I told my husband a LONG time ago that I had a feeling he would get extended and it was just a matter of time for it to happen, if it was going to happen at all. IMO, there's no reason for me to get all emotional over something I can't change but then again, I handle deployments much differently than most people because of what I went through during the first deployment.

ETA: I didn't find out through the media. My FRG leader contacted me ..

ugh, i am soooo upset and dh isn't even deployed yet. hell he doesn't even graduate ait until tomorrow. i don't want to even think about it. i can not do it right now!!! it makes me sick to even think about it

I'm going out on a limb here and I'm going to get judged for what I have to say. Before anyone jumps down my back, let me say that my husband IS deployed and IS effected by this extension. I feel for everyone who is effected by this because honestly, I don't wish a deployment on my worst enemy even more so, an extension turning into something permanent for future deployments.

No, I'm not devastated, upset, angry, etc. because I expected an extension. It sucks but I will go on and do the best I can until he's on a plane to come home. I told my husband a LONG time ago that I had a feeling he would get extended and it was just a matter of time for it to happen, if it was going to happen at all. IMO, there's no reason for me to get all emotional over something I can't change but then again, I handle deployments much differently than most people because of what I went through during the first deployment.

ETA: I didn't find out through the media. My FRG leader contacted me ..

I feel the same way you do, I dont think you will get jumped. I felt like you did, and I took the jumping, but it all got worked out.

Everyone deals with everything differently, there is no need to "jump" anyone. Just because you think like that, dosent mean its wrong or right. Its just the right way for YOU.

I think all of us on here are brave strong women, we go through a lot. We all just need to remember that even though we think differently, we need to support each other, and be there for each other.

So yet again, I am so sorry to everyone that his is effecting, and I hope the best for you, and your men.

i was crying about this earlier, but i'm better now..i think it was the shock of hearing it is all. df was still mad when he went to bed, and i don't blame him..it just breaks my heart to watch him work so hard and then feel like he's getting nothing back except more time away from home. yes he knew when he signed the contract, and i knew when we started seeing each other that things like this could happen...but that doesn't take away the hurt, you know?
oh well. i think i'm just tired..time for bed..

Well, all I know is that this is a wonderful opportunity for this board and outside military families to pull together and keep on supporting each other. Thank goodness we have a support system.
Thanks everyone.:hugs

After all of this, I think I'd rather that he got extended, then got deployed again right away..

Like that Texas unit that was home for 81 days, then got sent back? I guess I'd rather just get this done and over with..

I'm so sorry about the extension, ladies. I don't even know what to say, I was speechless when I heard about it on the news.
:hugehug

I am so sorry ladies.. I will be keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

well.. looks like mine will be extended... he just confirmed it.... will know for absolute sure in the next couple of days. :tears

:hugs LaurenBeth

I'm so sorry Lauren, Marnie, and the rest of the army wives!!! :(

Marnie, you've got an awesome point when you say you married it, so just try to roll with it, but son of a bitch if it doesn't roll right over you every time, huh? DH is Air Force, works with the missiles, and supposedly his job was non-deployable, because he's already considered deployed.

Scratch that.


Ummm...we'll start deploying them this summer. So, DH's number might come up now, which was something we didn't have to deal with before, so I see both sides. You ladies are wonderful, and strong, and I'm SO glad to have found this board!!

My heart goes out to the Army wives today though. :( I'm sorry about the news. :hugs

The fate of the MiTT teamers has STILL not been determined.

:hissyfit I am....and I won't even go into it or else you guys might have to ban me for all of the bad words that come onto the page....:temper :fight :reallymad :kungfu :slap :irked

I agree... thank god for SOS.

If sos wasn't here, right now we would all be at home crying because we would have no one to talk to.

I LOVE SOS!

Yes I can't believe this!!!!!!!!!!!!! 15 months! Crazy