i'm concerned about having dh feeling left out if i'm the one doing all the feeding, because i am hoping to exclusively BF. how did you involve them?

i won't "exclusively" bf... she'll get "exclusive" breast milk... but i do plan to pump so that jason gets to bond that way with her.

to me, i feel it would be a bit selfish of me to deny that time he could share with her.

then again, i'm not "planning" on doing anything for 100% yet... i've learned that with "plans" and babies, things don't necessarily happen as you "plan" :D

He would get Trent for me, I would feed, and dh would change his diaper and put him back to bed. There are plenty of other things that daddys can do.

There are many other ways he can connect with the baby. Like after you are done feeding, he can burp and rock. Or he can be the one to bathe. Or just plain and simple spend one on one time.
Unless you pump, there is really gonna be no way he is going to a part of the feeding. He can sit next to you, and talk to the baby, but sometimes the baby will be more interested in dad if he does that than eating :teehee

see that was my concern that he'd feel left out and lose alot of that bonding time esp. since he'll be gone for months at a time and whatnot kwim?

Jason never really fed any of them anyhow, even after I stopped BFing :lol So, it was never an issue. He helped with other things, like changing diapers and rocking to sleep, but feeding wasn't really something he did very often...

you can still PUMP and have your kid have exclusive breastmilk... you would just do most of the feedings.

i know i will have to probably pump at some point because i will be going to school at least 1 night a week

maybe that night can be his "special" night with the baby
and the rest of the time you bf? ;)

I didn't have an issue with pumping a few bottles for DH to feed her. I didn't want her to dependant on ME for feeding. But even when I was nursing dh would sit with us.

There are many ways to connect with your child.

Our ped told us that if we were ever going to introduce a bottle to try to start at 4 weeks. I knew even if she used a bottle I wanted it to be breast milk but I would express a few times a week so about once a week he would give her a bottle of expressed milk. Anytime she had a bottle of expressed milk it was DH giving it to her. That was their time. Then when she had a bottle, I would express again. He liked having that time.

thanks ladies

I would feed the babies, DH puts them to bed. That has always been the arrangement (works out well, kids don't cry when they're eating boobie...but they do when they're cranky and tired!). I also pumped, so sometimes DH got to feed them, plan on doing the same with this last one.

My husband was never really involved with the feedings but the times that I was in surgery in which I pumped. Instead, he would do other things like changing diapers, giving her a bath, etc.

If I do only BF then I plan on having him change diapers and burp Bri..lol He has even told me that he wouldn't feel left out.. but I do plan on pumping and possibly BF as well as using formula.

I exclusively BF Taniyah and don't think that her bond with Daddy is any less because of it. He would hold her, change her, burp her, bathe her, snuggle with her, etc. I don't think he felt left out.