I'm wondering how many spouses are active in groups on base (support, FRG, etc.) I haven't been at all, although I know I need to be, involved with things at Ft. Sill. My husband is supposed to be deploying in a few months and I just don't know what to do. I just want to be able to know what's going on when he's over there and I don't get to speak with him. What do you ladies do to keep in touch and stay connected during deployment? :sadeyes

stupid question.. but I know ill be asking the same one as you soon, but what is FRG?

Family Readiness Group... I know you've got something similar in the Navy, but I don't think it's called the same thing :oogle When is your man deploying?

FRG used to be FSG and is in some cases FSG still in the Navy, but most commands are changing to the FRG.

Sometimes the FRG's are good about notifying spouses and dependents and sometimes they aren't, but it depends on the command. I would check it out. They usually have get togethers and events and things for the kids and just in general support each other through the deployment. You might meet a few wives that you get along with and help pass the time hanging out and stuff.


Good luck!!! :hugs

FRG = Family Readiness Group... as far as I know.
This is my first deployment being in the geographic area of the ship. So I am quite new to the whole thing.
I actually went to my first meeting last night and I quite enjoyed it. There were a lot of things there that I would know nothing about if I did not go, including getting the chance to have a video conference with my hubby.
Good luck to you. If nothing else you can connect with others and get info you might not get. It certainly can't hurt.

I'll put it like this.

SOS is my FRG.

They are nicer then any FRG group around here.

I have to agree with Simmy. My dealings with the folks who are supposed to be supportive have not been positive so far. I guess it just depends on the location. I hope that yours is a good experience though.

The one here is discouraging.

I've never been much for mothers groups. I take after my mum.

Used to be a group of ladies at my primary school who always left my mum out because she wasn't a SAHM.

It's kinda like that- they want you to be exactly how they are, if your different in the slightest- you are not "in".

Well im not the same, Im different in so many aspects.

SOS has a widely diverse group of ladies here- you don't have to act like something your not, to fit in.

So this is definately my support group. Plus with it being the internet, i can go to my support group whenever and wherever.

Our frg is like a gigantic soap opera, I went to 2 meetings and decided to not attend anymore, extreme high school clique mentality. I know they aren't all like that, but I don't need that kind of negativity. I have a strong support system outside of the military, so I'm always connected. I talk to or email w/dh almost everyday, so tht helps too. It will depend on where your Dh goes and how wel the base is built up. Good luck!!

Ours is just getting started I am not too thrilled so far, but it seems okay.

I always check them out. I have been lucky ( I guess) and have always felt rather accepted in our groups. I like being able to get with other wives and letting the kids get to know other kids. I have always had a good experience with them.

Im kinda involved with the FRG. Im not impressed with them so far. Im staying just involved enought to be "In the know"

That sucks that there is so many bad experiences with FRG, I guess I'm the minority.. I (L) my FRG girls.. We've gotten to become pretty close over the last 19 months.. I really like mine..

im kinda involved with frg but not really. The one here has some usefull stuff, but it can be a lot of nonsense sometimes

I'm involved with an FRG, just not the one attached to my dh's squadron :giggle
It's okay...just a lot of work to get activities set up and nobody wants to be the one to 'set up'. just attend, then complain its boring. :) but most of my 'friends' are in that squad still, and since I'm an ombudsman for them still, I attend. I just loan my dh out for yard work! :)

I only go because it's mandatory for dh to go. So I go to support him. I really only have 1 friend that I really hang out with from the FRG. We are kind of the outcasts. Ours is pretty cliquish. I don't go when dh is deployed, I get all my info from my friend. How she gets it I have no idea, but she's always willing to share. :)

i was the FSG president and am now the FRG secretary. i agree that they can be very cliquesh but they are not all like that. when i first joined ours, it was run by officers wives and they didnt give two hoots about enlisted spouses, now that isnt even close to the case!

thanks girls... I hate that some of you haven't had a very good experience. I know it's supposed to be a place for support, but I've heard a lot about the cliques that go on with the group... that's part of why I haven't looked into, I suppose. We'll see how it works out though, I just want to be able to get info on his unit while he's away in case I can't speak with him directly.

To stay connected we write snail mail and talk on the phone.


FRG. My best advice is to go to a meeting and at least see if you like the group and the info they give. The level of greatness of the FRG varies to each group. I have seen some awful ones and some great ones. There is nothing more frustrating to an FRG leader then going through the stress of getting a meeting up, having NO ONE come and then having all those people call her for the info they didn't get from the meeting. Most FRG leaders work hard to keep you updated on your husbands units progress down range. Most FRG leaders really are in it to help. Just give it a shot and then decide from there.


-Former FRG Leader ;)

I was part of FRG but our group was so small that it made no sense to go anymore!! itll be bigger at homecoming

I only go because it's mandatory for dh to go. So I go to support him. I really only have 1 friend that I really hang out with from the FRG. We are kind of the outcasts. Ours is pretty cliquish. I don't go when dh is deployed, I get all my info from my friend. How she gets it I have no idea, but she's always willing to share. :)


I attended the mandatory meetings, but the way they do it here, if I didn't go to certain ones, that meant he had to. I didn't think it was fair that he was on base all day, and then had to sit through that, so I went. I wish we had a better frg on our base.