I just found out yesterday the exact date when my airman will be deploying. He's back in his home state until next Wednesday so I'm pretty much about to go crazy!! I cried and cried all afternoon yesterday. I've never done anything like this or been this personally involved in anything to do with the military so I don't know what to expect or what to do. I CRY ALL THE TIME!!! He doesn't want to talk about it much at all so I feel like I'm walking around blind-folded. He is so extremely moody these days too. One minute he's fine and the next he's mad at the world. Any advice...anything I should know that could help me and him in the next couple weeks before he leaves. I'm a mess!! I feel like I can't breathe most of the time.:tears :tears

:hugehug It does just hit you and become more real once you have an exact date huh? We were both huge messes on his first deployment as well and we did fight alot too. I think you should just both take some time out and talk about how you are both feeling..it sounds like he is worried and upset and might have some insecurities about leaveing. My DH was like that as well and I made him sit down and he told me how he felt and I reassured him that everything would be fine and he felt a bit better. Also promising to write him or sending him things as much as you can might help things too.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time! It was tough for me to let my husband go to Korea for a year :( I would say just calm down a little bit and try not to be too negative about the upcoming deployment... you really can't focus on the bad things that may happen because you'll be at each other's throats until then. I agree with Ash, just talk to each other, as much as he doesn't want to... it needs to be done and you will both feel a bit more confident in going through this tough time spent apart when the time comes. I'll be :pray for you and him both.

Thanks to both of you!! I really do feel if he would just talk to me things would be so much better. He'll be back from his famliy next Wednesday and hopefully we can talk. Thanks for the prayers and advice!

My husband is always so quiet before deployment, I understand the frustration. I have had to find other ways to reach out to him, and comfort him, and let him be sad about leaving. It's hard for me to explain, we just do whatever we need to cope with things and make the best of that time together. And with experience we are getting better. First deployment I was a wreck, second was handled much better!