Did you decide when to have your first child, or was it a surprise? If you decided, what were the things you considered, if you don't mind me asking.

We weren't using protection when I had Riley. But we hadn't been doing so for about 1.5 years, so we just assumed I wasn't very fertile. Then right before deployment and a move from WA to CA, it happened. :freakout

We had decided we were ready if it happened, but didn't think it was going to happen.. so it was not planned, but not an "accident" either.

Are you guys thinking about trying?

Well, not trying, but adopting. Something has come up with a family member, and we really want to step up, but we have a lot of decisions to make. So just curious how other people decide it's time to be a family.

We knew we wanted to have a baby right away...but we weren't planning on getting pregnant the first week of our marriage :lmao

We decided to start trying right after we got married..I stopped BC a few months before that though. We did because we felt like we were married now and didn't feel like we should prevent..we both wanted a child and felt like if it was to happen the night we got married then it was meant to. Although it took forever! lol We didn't really think about deployments or money or anything like that.

Wow that's really cool! Honestly, I don't think you are ever truly ready... there are so many surprises, good and not so good, along the way that I don't think you can ever be 100% ready. But that's very admirable that you guys are considering stepping up like that! Good luck with your decision! :goodvibes

We decided. Well, I decided :lol I woke up one morning and said "Honey, I'm tired of waiting." He said "<long pause> Ok. " 6 weeks later we had a bean. :D

Wow that's really cool! Honestly, I don't think you are ever truly ready... there are so many surprises, good and not so good, along the way that I don't think you can ever be 100% ready. But that's very admirable that you guys are considering stepping up like that! Good luck with your decision! :goodvibes

I was thinking you are never 100% ready but didn't know if it would seem wrong to think that, according to other mothers. This def wasn't in our life plan, but when I think about a lil boy related to me that nobody wants... I kind of just want to say screw plans and what we we're used to. We can help him.

accident and a big surprise :lol

accident and a big surprise :lol

Haha! Yes, I remember your story! But life worked itself out right? Sometimes surprises can be better than plans I'm thinking.

I'm kind of wishing we would get an accidental surprise! LOL!!!

but then again... we've got a few more things we should take care of before we take on being parents.

I'm kind of wishing we would get an accidental surprise! LOL!!!

but then again... we've got a few more things we should take care of before we take on being parents.

I've always thought that, so I wouldn't have to make the decision!

Mine got through a 2% chance due to pcos AND the pill. Needless to say, she's a surprise.

Miss K was a surprise homecoming baby. lol I was on bcp when I got pregnant with her and I got pregnant the weekend after DH came home from a 3 months patrol. lol

I've always thought that, so I wouldn't have to make the decision!



Yup.... exactly! LOL!! :giggle

I felt ready and told him I really wanted a baby. There really wasn't much discussion about whether it was a good time or not.

We knew we wanted to start trying after we got married, but we never thought that we would have gotten pregnant 3 days after our wedding...lol.

We planned our first two. There were no deciding factors for us we just decided to go for it.

Hubby wanted one right away, but I said let's wait 2 or so year and yep, it was 2 years before we had our first. Now we are on number 3 and can't stop, hahaha!

I will say this.. do what is right for YOU and YOUR husband. You will hear how you should or should not do it, and just research it for the 2 of you, and decide what is best for your family! ;)

We decided having Ethan around a time when we new Bryan was NOT going out to sea for at least the first year of Ethan's life.

I bugged dh for a baby when we were still dating. He wanted to wait til we got married. Needless to say I've been ready forever and we're still waiting. I don't think its ever gonna happen but we will see...

When we were younger Dh wanted a baby in High school. I was 19 and he was 17, I was like "Um no" When we got married, it was like, if it happens it happens. We were really excited when we found out. He got teary eyed but will deny it to anyone! We more planned our second. And we have decided on our 3 also. I think This will be our last baby.

My exhusband and I started trying right before we got married... I was 18 and he was 20. It took us about 18 mths to get pregnant with him. I just have always wanted to and felt the need to be a mommy everysince I was little. I never guessed I would have to be a single mommy 6 months after he was born till he was over 2.
As soon as Josh and I became engaged we knew we wanted to extend our family as soon as we got married. And we have been trying now for 7 months. We are pryaing God will give our family a miracle very soon. (L)
I knew that I wanted to have a child with Josh right away because he stepped up and became the Daddy that Jerron loves and adores and he didn't have to be any of that. He said that he has always wanted a family and it didn't matter to him if Jerron was his biological son or not because in his heart he was his. And I knew then hearing those words that not only did I want to spend the rest of my life with him I wanted to have more children with this amazing man so the 3 of us could share our love (L)

We were trying, so it wasn't a surprise. We knew that we wanted a family pretty soon after we got married. We just "knew" that this is what we wanted, and we were really excited (L)

TOTAL shock!

We've jsut deceided to try. The timing is right for us and it works out with how we want things to go..

We both just wanted to start a family.

we both wanted children together but wanted to wait till we were married in a couple years. Well, it just sort of happened and definetly a suprise but a great suprise :wub

we are trying to conceive our first but we did get pregnant unexpecdily in the beginning of our relationship but miscarried

i'd been telling dh that i wanted to have a child with him and after he got back from his mini deployment he said he wanted to not not try (in other words not actively try or prevent). we got pregnant our first time. so we are expecting our first right now

We knew we wanted to have a baby right away...but we weren't planning on getting pregnant the first week of our marriage :lmao

Same here. We'd beem together for three years before we got married and new that we wanted a baby early in the marriage, especially with him deploying he said it would "give me something to do" :neutral (Boy was he right but that's another story.) We actually got pregnant about two weeks into our marriage.

That is awesome that ya'll are thinking about stepping up and helping family out! I hope things work for you.

Ethan was a big fat surprise!! I was 17 and on the pill. Ex h and I decided to get pregnant with Elizabeth by looking at finances etc.