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dream
02-19-2006, 12:01 PM
What would you do if you caught your SO in a lie, and found out they've been hiding things from you?

Brialee
02-19-2006, 01:48 PM
I don't think I can say it in public...I'd be pretty pissed.

Shaky
02-19-2006, 07:23 PM
Depends on what he is lieing about or hiding from me. I would be pretty pissed but the results depends on what he was lieing about. Plus I hate when people lie, no matter how big or small the lie is, he would be in BIG trouble.

Breezy
02-19-2006, 07:51 PM
I like Sonias quote the other day
cut his balls off and fry them up for breakfast :hehe
Mine would suffer tremendously though

Rach
02-19-2006, 09:43 PM
The consequences would depend on what he has been lying about and what he's been keeping from you.

If he slept w/ someone else....woooo doggies!!! That's all I can say!

If it isn't that, but still something that hurt you (and lying does do that), he loses my trust for a bit until he shows he can be trusted and if he keeps it up, I'd leave him. He'd either have to get his act together than while I was gone if he truly loved me or we'd be done. There is no possible way I can have a good relationship w/ someone if their constantly lying to me so there would be no reason to stay together. I'd be miserable, thus he'd be miserable.

Sorry hon :(

Breezy
02-19-2006, 11:05 PM
Well and I was basing my opinion off of her previousl post
so my above statment still stands

Debra
02-20-2006, 07:40 AM
Ditto what Shaky said!

I hope everything is ok! :hugs

Cat
02-20-2006, 11:30 AM
i agree with shaky too. it all depends on what he was lieing about. some lies are easier to forgive than others. so it really all depends.

Bex
02-20-2006, 12:11 PM
the question you have to ask yourself is this... what is a relationship without trust and the ability to tell each other everything? the very foundations for every good relationship should be trust and respect... (among other things) in lying to you, he showed you that you cannot trust him and that he didn't respect you enough to tell you something...

i'm not sure what i would do, but i'd seriously question my relationship.

CoffeeGirl
02-23-2006, 03:53 PM
the question you have to ask yourself is this... what is a relationship without trust and the ability to tell each other everything? the very foundations for every good relationship should be trust and respect... (among other things) in lying to you, he showed you that you cannot trust him and that he didn't respect you enough to tell you something...

i'm not sure what i would do, but i'd seriously question my relationship.


Well said Becky!:thumbsup

Purplekittie
02-23-2006, 06:55 PM
i agree. i think trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.

dream
02-23-2006, 08:42 PM
Trust is defitiely an important thing and honestly right now i don't trust him and he knows it. My dad said something that really stuck in my head, he said "trust is an important thing when someone takes advantage of it in the slightest it take twice as much to gain it back. It is hard to establish trust in a long distance relationship." My dad wasn't happy with James still isn't but he's understands my wanting to try to work on things, I gotta say I love my dad he's been really good for advice lately.

BubblesAngel13
02-23-2006, 09:00 PM
the question you have to ask yourself is this... what is a relationship without trust and the ability to tell each other everything? the very foundations for every good relationship should be trust and respect... (among other things) in lying to you, he showed you that you cannot trust him and that he didn't respect you enough to tell you something...

i'm not sure what i would do, but i'd seriously question my relationship.

Well put! :D