As soon as I come in the door 3 pogs walk out in uniform, no combat patches. My bitterness seeths upword but I swallowed it down. I get into the store a few isles and a couple more pass me, again no combat patches. Jealousy seeths up but I force it back. Then we walk into another isle and there are 2 of them standing there making fun of people walking through the store. Rage fills up inside me but I force it down again. Then I turn the corner and another one is buying all the fixins for a BBQ. I wonder if its a unit bbq or a personal. Then I realize I dont care, I hate the fact that yet another dude lacking a patch is in costco shopping. Which ever bbq its for, he will be there, with his friends, safe, eating real food, sleeping on a real bed, being able to shower each night. For his lack of combat patch shows he is totally oblivious to whats going on on the other side of the world. I glance at his unit patch and what do ya know, he is ADA, that dude isn't going anywhere "dangerous" Then as I watch his buddies over in the other isle having a good time and see him loading up the basket I start to feel tears well up. We went into the next isle which ironicly was appropriate for me, it was tissue paper. As 2 tears fell I sucked it back in and got the rest of my things. Trying to remind myself not to be angry/bitter/jealous, trying to remind myself that my energy is best spent on praying for my husband. But that thought always remains, Why MY husband and not him? :tears

:hugehug i'm so sorry girl. if you ever need to talk pm me. dh doesn't have the chance to be going to iraq but i just want to let you know that i'm here if you need to talk

i can see how that would be frustrating to a woman who has a deployed husband!! however, you don't know what their story is -- perhaps the bbq they're preparing for is a pre-deployment or goodbye bbq... perhaps their unit is scheduled to deploy soon... just because they currently don't have a combat patch doesn't mean they aren't going soon... maybe they just arrived at their unit? you never know!! i definitely understand the bitter feeling to see guys home when yours is away, though... so hang in there, girl!! :hugs


ETA: i just re-read your post and saw the part about the ADA... so i definitely see your frustrations!

i can see how that would be frustrating to a woman who has a deployed husband!! however, you don't know what their story is -- perhaps the bbq they're preparing for is a pre-deployment or goodbye bbq... perhaps their unit is scheduled to deploy soon... just because they currently don't have a combat patch doesn't mean they aren't going soon... maybe they just arrived at their unit? you never know!! i definitely understand the bitter feeling to see guys home when yours is away, though... so hang in there, girl!! :hugs


ETA: i just re-read your post and saw the part about the ADA... so i definitely see your frustrations!

Completely agree. I just walked past EOD guys the other night, outside grilling. Some I know have been, some haven't, but everyone gets their share eventually.
I just remain proud of my husband's service and pray for him.

:hugs I'm sorry hon. :hugs

i can see how that would be frustrating to a woman who has a deployed husband!! however, you don't know what their story is -- perhaps the bbq they're preparing for is a pre-deployment or goodbye bbq... perhaps their unit is scheduled to deploy soon... just because they currently don't have a combat patch doesn't mean they aren't going soon... maybe they just arrived at their unit? you never know!! i definitely understand the bitter feeling to see guys home when yours is away, though... so hang in there, girl!! :hugs


ETA: i just re-read your post and saw the part about the ADA... so i definitely see your frustrations!

i agree. at least theyre apart of the military and not just some slacker kids disrespecting the military or saying bad things about it. i dont know what ADA is, but maybe they wont be that forever and will end up going eventually. even if not, i dunno.. my husbands in the navy and i dont know about the "patches" youre talking about, but my husband is deployed for 8 months and is serving too. maybe not as long as yours, but he does his part and theyre needed too.

Ok this wasn't a tell me I am not allowed to have my feelings post.

Thank you to those that lent your support. I appreciate it (L)

:hugehug I'm sorry hun, if you wanna talk let me know

Ok this wasn't a tell me I am not allowed to have my feelings post.

Thank you to those that lent your support. I appreciate it (L)

I didn't tell you you're not allowed to have your feelings. I told you that I understand your frustration. This wasn't in "venting" so I figured giving my two cents was acceptable. I also was offering you an alternative way to think about the situation so you wouldn't feel so angry. Sorry.

I didn't tell you you're not allowed to have your feelings. I told you that I understand your frustration. This wasn't in "venting" so I figured giving my two cents was acceptable. I also was offering you an alternative way to think about the situation so you wouldn't feel so angry. Sorry.

It wasn't you. I understood your point and appreciated it. :)

I am sorry you had to go through that :hugs

:hugs Let me know if you need to talk lady, you know I am always here for you :D

thanks shep. :hug

thanks joy (L) You've been so great.

i was trying to give you a differnt way of seeing it too. you can have all the feelings you want, but reading right from the beginning you kinda gave off the impression that people in the military arnt honorable unless the have a certain job.

i was trying to give you a differnt way of seeing it too. you can have all the feelings you want, but reading right from the beginning you kinda gave off the impression that people in the military arnt honorable unless the have a certain job.

That is not what I said or implied. I am frustrated that my husband is on his 5th deployment, our 4th together and second to Iraq. I am frustrated that certian MOS'es dont ever get deployed anywhere and that the combat arms guys are in Iraq all the time. I am frustrated but it doesn't mean I dont respect other mos's. I appreciate your trying to "help" but it wasn't a "help me see the other side post" it was a vent.

I'm sorry that happened. I can't even imagine what that must be like. Just be proud of your SO and keep your head up. You have so much strength! Hope the rest of your day was better! :hugs

PS - what does ADA mean?

:hugehug hang in there girl! i know how you're feeling as well...I'm proud of you for keeping it together! You are so strong!! I would have been crying all over the store! :hugs

Isn't that wierd how we can look at a guy and see a CIB or a CAB and make our call about them... I do the same thing, so if there's anything wrong with that, I'm guilty too.. I know what a POG is too... :giggle

I hate to admit it, but when I see ACUs in a store, I turn around and walk the other direction..

Keep praying, it'll make you feel better..

I'm sorry that happened. I can't even imagine what that must be like. Just be proud of your SO and keep your head up. You have so much strength! Hope the rest of your day was better! :hugs

PS - what does ADA mean?

Air Defense Artillery. We are at the AIT for them (the post where they train) and they dont deploy hardly ever. They just deployed to Japan for 9 months and it was ALL over the news. But they never once mentioned our guys going to Iraq for 16 months.

:hugehug hang in there girl! i know how you're feeling as well...I'm proud of you for keeping it together! You are so strong!! I would have been crying all over the store! :hugs
Love ya!

Isn't that wierd how we can look at a guy and see a CIB or a CAB and make our call about them... I do the same thing, so if there's anything wrong with that, I'm guilty too.. I know what a POG is too... :giggle

I hate to admit it, but when I see ACUs in a store, I turn around and walk the other direction..

Keep praying, it'll make you feel better..

:giggle I do that too! And I am glad you know my encriptions :rofl

((hugs!!)) I'm SO sorry! Unfortunately (in this situation), my DH is one of the ones who doesn't deploy, but they're thinking about changing it, and I know how you feel. I still look at other units and say "You want to make mine, who works ON the missiles, deploy and others who sit on their asses all day get to stay home and drink beer?"

I'm always here too, and understand your hurt even though my DH doesn't deploy (understand as in: am not offended by). If you need someone to talk to..

((hugs!!)) I'm SO sorry!

Thanks! :hug I just wanted to tell you that you are one of the sweetest things!

:giggle I do that too! And I am glad you know my encriptions :rofl

Sometimes I feel kinda left out with all the Navy talk around here... The first time someone asked me what DH's "rate" was, I was like, HUH?

Sometimes I feel kinda left out with all the Navy talk around here... The first time someone asked me what DH's "rate" was, I was like, HUH?

:rofl me too, me too. But I am learning LOTS of navy terms! Now I can translate army to navy for my grandpa :lol When I said MOS to him he said "whats that" :teehee Now I know enough to have a convo with him. :lmao I nearly fell over once I saw someone knew army :lol

I am the same way with all of the terms and stuff, theres SO many! :teehee

I am the same way with all of the terms and stuff, theres SO many! :teehee

you should hear me talk to one of my BFF's shes a civilan, It takes me 10 minutes to say something because I have to translate it :lol But I am proud to say shes learning! :mrgreen :mrgreen Her hubby is a former CG Rescue Diver. :wow

you should hear me talk to one of my BFF's shes a civilan, It takes me 10 minutes to say something because I have to translate it :lol But I am proud to say shes learning! :mrgreen :mrgreen Her hubby is a former CG Rescue Diver. :wow

LOL, yes, the learning is definitely a slow process for me, I get so lost on the phone talking to John cause he forgets that I don't know what he is talking about

LOL, yes, the learning is definitely a slow process for me, I get so lost on the phone talking to John cause he forgets that I don't know what he is talking about

:giggle When you two get married (if you do?) you should take the classes that teach you these acronyms. :yes

:giggle When you two get married (if you do?) you should take the classes that teach you these acronyms. :yes

Wow I didn't know there was such a thing! That would def. be helpful

The army has them, I am at a loss as to what they are called, its another acronym :lmao Its right on the tip of my tounge...dangit! Anyway they are offered at the community service centers.

This??


It is called AFTB (Army Family Team Building)

You can take the classes on base through ACS (Army Community Service) or you can take them on-line at:
www.myarmylifetoo.com

I am so sorry that you had such a hard time. I know what you mean my BIL is a Navy musician he will stay in New Orleans oh maybe FOREVER! It frustrates me that he gets to be with his kids and wife and my husband doesn't. I know it is not his fault but it sucks. My husband is a Master At Arms (MP) his rate is world wide deployable. He could explain how it is different from reg Navy deployments, I don't always understand it even though I was in. They changed the MAA rate all around after 9/11.

He has his air and surface pin so no more ships. Unfortunately he has to do three shore/two overseas. When he is on shore they send him away on IA's which is where he deploys alone with a bunch of other MAA from all of the fleets. A trip to Iraq is going to happen we are just waiting on the when. We got lucky and last time he just went to Kuwait.

Feelings are not always logical and it is perfectly ok to be mad about it. Doesn't mean there is no respect for the other rates just that you wish you could get a little of the no deployment pie for your own family.

Big hugs to you it would of made me cry too.

This??


It is called AFTB (Army Family Team Building)

You can take the classes on base through ACS (Army Community Service) or you can take them on-line at:
www.myarmylifetoo.com

:duh Yes AFTB! :lol

I am so sorry that you had such a hard time. I know what you mean my BIL is a Navy musician he will stay in New Orleans oh maybe FOREVER! It frustrates me that he gets to be with his kids and wife and my husband doesn't. I know it is not his fault but it sucks. My husband is a Master At Arms (MP) his rate is world wide deployable. He could explain how it is different from reg Navy deployments, I don't always understand it even though I was in. They changed the MAA rate all around after 9/11.

He has his air and surface pin so no more ships. Unfortunately he has to do three shore/two overseas. When he is on shore they send him away on IA's which is where he deploys alone with a bunch of other MAA from all of the fleets. A trip to Iraq is going to happen we are just waiting on the when. We got lucky and last time he just went to Kuwait.

Feelings are not always logical and it is perfectly ok to be mad about it. Doesn't mean there is no respect for the other rates just that you wish you could get a little of the no deployment pie for your own family.

Big hugs to you it would of made me cry too.


You said that very well. Perfectly infact!

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Well the training blokes over in Ft Irwin are deploying this year for 18 months. I remember dh telling me he would love to go back there so he would get a break from deploying, only to find out- they are off just after July.

I think with the way everything is going right now- most people will end up getting deployed, even with their slower MOS. Ofcourse some won't- and lucky them!

However we just need to remember to not judge a book by its cover. Just because they are not deploying, does not mean their life is necessarily any easier. Everyone has their trials and tribulations.

I know what you mean though- I used to get upset and jealous too. It took everything in me not to mouth off at some people.

:hugs- I hope things get better for you, I hope your man comes home soon.

That is not what I said or implied. I am frustrated that my husband is on his 5th deployment, our 4th together and second to Iraq. I am frustrated that certian MOS'es dont ever get deployed anywhere and that the combat arms guys are in Iraq all the time. I am frustrated but it doesn't mean I dont respect other mos's. I appreciate your trying to "help" but it wasn't a "help me see the other side post" it was a vent.

Just a quick question but... why wasn't it in the venting section then?

Anyway, I feel that way sometimes, too, about my DB on deployment. I think we all do at some point. :hugehug

I'm sorry, I've had that happen too. I also sometimes feel the same way. Why does my dh have to pretty much every other year why some MOS's don't ever go.

LOL, yes, the learning is definitely a slow process for me, I get so lost on the phone talking to John cause he forgets that I don't know what he is talking about

James is the same way. He talks about rates and alot of other stuff and I stand there and give him this look like, huh

:hugs

I can totally understand your frustration too. Although my dh is navy and a submariner we are faced with the possiblity of Iraq in the near future. He has done two back to back sea tours (that entails about 8yrs of in and out sea time) And this is our 1st shore duty(suppose to be non-deployable) and he will most likely be sent out. Kind of an oh well situation. Still frusrating none the less. tons of hugs for you!!