We've been having problems with a boy that Zach has had a few playdates with that is his class being bossy and mean to him during playdates. Well the boy is in his class and up until this weekend they really didn't talk much at school. This weekend was the first time they have gotten together for a playdate and it was both Sat and Sun. Well after this weekend I thought it would best for both boys if they didn't play together anymore plus Zach is about to start Soccor/Tball so I thought ok decision made. Well today Zach comes home from school upset. All day apparently this kid was telling Zach what to do and how to do it. From eating lunch to doing work in class. (no zach you are writing it wrong, no you eating this wrong do it like ME) I try really hard to teach Zach not to be bossy and yes he does mess up but when he does he is punished for it. Well at recess I guess this kid told Zach that he wanted to dig and Zach didn't want to so the kid got in his face and said "I have a friend list and if you don't do what I tell you to do then I'm xing you off my friends list and you arn't my friend anymore and noone will be you're friend anymore" I have no idea what to do. I am going to speak to Zach's teacher to see if she notices this going on tommorrow. Zachary is not known to lie. All kids do lie however and if he was I wouldn't think it would this elaborate so I don't think he is lying about it. I really don't know what to do. Advice please.

I guess the only thing you can really do is talk to his teacher and talk to him about how that is not nice behavior and that he doesn't need to listen to him and he should probably just ignore him and not hang around him.

I guess the only thing you can really do is talk to his teacher and talk to him about how that is not nice behavior and that he doesn't need to listen to him and he should probably just ignore him and not hang around him.

So far that's what I've told Zach I told him next time th eboy does it just to walk off and ignore him. But if the child puts a hand on him then to go talk to the teacher.

Yeah definetly push it in his head to tell the teacher or principal..you dont want him getting in trouble. Also after he tells them I would call the teacher or principal and see what they did about the situation..it is sad to say but I have had a few times in school as well as my sister did where they did nothing about it and it just got worse!

I would go talk to the teacher.

I second the teacher notion.

I second the teacher notion.

ditto

honestly, I was taught if somebody hits you, hit them back. I only had to fight once in school and nobody ever hit me again. I know a lot of parents dont teach that anymore, but it worked with me, so I'll teach that to Val too. There really is no way to sheild the kids from bullying. I'd maybe buy some books about bullying, explain to Zach WHY people bully. Show him EXTRA EXTRA love and support. Just helping him gain coping skills since most of us are bullied during our school years. That sucks! :hugs to Zach.

Thanks girls :)

I agree...I would start by telling him to ignore the kid and probably for you to talk to the teacher and see how it goes after that.