I could really use some advice on parenting boys. Especially 2-3 years olds. I am quite literally at my wits end with my son. He has been so aggressive and violent in some of his actions I do not know what to do anymore. Sometimes I can see why it happens and other times I can not figure it out. He really has been stretching me to my limit and I am beginning to feel very inadequate as a parent with him. Has anyone else been through this or anything similar? There are a lot of things going on that make me want to keep giving him time to adjust to things so I have not yet decided it is time to talk to the dr. I really want to know that I have tried everything I can before I talk to a dr to get advice on where to go next. Thank you in advance.

I myself have never experienced this with ds but I have heard that boys like that need a more physical outlet to get out built up aggresion-hth-Good luck sweety

That is a good thought. Tomorrow he will get to play in the yard again. I am hoping that helps some for the day. Thank you.

What are you concerned about as far as violence?

I had a post along these same lines about a year or so ago...

I was concerned with how he was beating on Shelby and beating on pretty much everything. He was out of control there for a while and it was right around 3 years old that he started acting like that. I don't think we ever had "terrible 2's", it was mostly terrible 3's for us and I felt very much like you do. Sometimes I really questioned whether I was fit to be a parent b/c I just felt so clueless and at my wit's end with him sometimes. Some of the things he did literally left me standing there with my mouth open. I remember a few times he'd walk right over to Shelby and for absolutely NO reason either scream in her face or bop her with a toy or push her over... it was heartbreaking to see him doing those things to her :( BUT - I truly believe it was the age because it did pass within a couple months and they are best little buddies now. I just had to pretty much wait it out and try to reason with him the best I could. I don't think he quite grasped how bad he was hurting her and why he shouldn't be doing those things. He got hollered at constantly and he knew it was wrong, but I don't think it really grasped WHY it was wrong. As he got a bit older and more mature, and also when he started school and had more of an outlet for his pent up energy (his high energy leads to impulsive things like hitting and outbursts), things really, truly got better for all of us.

Just hang in there and know that you're not alone. Boys are a breed of their own and 3 year old boys can be very difficult. It'll pass though (L)

I myself have never experienced this with ds but I have heard that boys like that need a more physical outlet to get out built up aggresion-hth-Good luck sweety

Physical outlets are good. Mental stimulation is also good, but I think a physical outlet really helps. I have noticed a HUGE HUGE HUGE difference in Jaxon's behavior on days that he can't go outside. He acts soooo much worse and high strung. When we got out to the park and he gets to CLIMB and JUMP and RUN and YELL and let that extra energy out, it REALLY helps a lot.

Physical outlets are good. Mental stimulation is also good, but I think a physical outlet really helps. I have noticed a HUGE HUGE HUGE difference in Jaxon's behavior on days that he can't go outside. He acts soooo much worse and high strung. When we got out to the park and he gets to CLIMB and JUMP and RUN and YELL and let that extra energy out, it REALLY helps a lot.


Yep ditto here and Ethans only 2 and a half. Right now not only are they testing limits but they have no way to express anger and frusteration. The only thing they can do is hit something etc. On days Ethan gets out and about and is able to release all that tension he is 10 times better then on days we stay in all day