Did your SO's deployment have anything to do with your decision to TTC? We've always considered it, but I've been thinking more about it. For two reasons, both of which may sound a little :screwy to you all. I don't want to start a debate, I'm just asking what you all have done, if anything, concerning this.

1. Both of us grew up without fathers (I've never even seen a picture of mine) and I never want our kid to go through that, so it worries me if something would happen to him in Iraq, but at the same time.

2. DH and I both want there to be someone to carry on his name, and it would be wonderful to have some piece of him with me forever. KWIM?

DH will be deploying this fall and I really don't know what to do. Has any of this ever played a role for you? What's your take?

Yeppers, DH brought up TTCing right before he left on the first deployment we went through... I went off the pill when he left and we started TTCing as soon as he got home..

:whewOkay good... I don't feel so alone then. I don't know, I just think it's so important to have family... especially if he's gone .

It absolutely played a role in conceiving Ethan! We conceived E when the boat was in dry-dock.

Oh yes. We are TTC now...I have planned out the months we can try because my son was born while hubby was gone and I don't want to go through that again. So if we don't get preggo in the next few months, we stop trying and wait until after next patrol is over and he comes home.

It's playing a role in ours-we're merely trying to have DH here more than a month at a time right now. :grumble

We talked about trying to conceive before he went to Iraq, but we decided not to change our plans out of fear.

It is weighing heavy on our decision right now.

Dh is probably leaving for Iraq next July, from the looks of it. That gives us a year to have a baby. We will start trying in another week if my results from the latest Dr. visit come back ok. That gives us 3 months to conceive before it the due date starts getting into the time he might be deployed. Hopefully it happens right away, because I have a history with post-partum depression and it will give me 3 months to get over ot while he's there. If we don't conceive in three months, we will have to wait over 2 years for our next one. We know there is always the possibilty of deployment, but this looks like our best chance, so we are looking into taking advantage of it.

Yes, thats why we are pregnant now, but the Navy has a way of screwing things up and hes going to miss it most likely anyways!

It is weighing heavy on our decision right now.

Dh is probably leaving for Iraq next July, from the looks of it. That gives us a year to have a baby. We will start trying in another week if my results from the latest Dr. visit come back ok. That gives us 3 months to conceive before it the due date starts getting into the time he might be deployed. Hopefully it happens right away, because I have a history with post-partum depression and it will give me 3 months to get over ot while he's there. If we don't conceive in three months, we will have to wait over 2 years for our next one. We know there is always the possibilty of deployment, but this looks like our best chance, so we are looking into taking advantage of it.


Yeah... it's good that you have a while to work on it then! We probably only have a few months, unfortunately... but since DH just got back from Korea in Jan, there's no way he could have been here for me to conceive and have it anyway, LOL. Which would be ideal, but I doubt that's going to happen for us :(

It would have a huge role for me too... I would really like my DH to be there when our first child is born. I know that things aren't 100% with the military but atleast we can try to have the baby when we think he will be here. :)

It didn't really play a role with when we started TTC, but would have played a role in when we would have stopped. If I hadn't have gotten pregnant when I did, then I would have gone back on BC because my due date would have been the day DH left for deployment, and I wasn't going to have out first baby without him. I personally think though, that if my husband were going to Iraq and it was our first time TTC, I would do whatever it took to concieve. I would rather have a baby earlier than planned than possibly never at all, but that's just me.

we consider all that as well, but waiting because of a deployment is not worth it to me. Something could happen or you just will keep waiting. I would rather plan life around a family then family around life.

When we got preggers the 1st time it was purley by accedent and i was on BC. I wouldnt have got preggers when i did cuz we PCSed 4 mo later. But right now were not going ot have another one while were here cuz DH school is taking a lot of his time up and he barely has time for us. So when we get to our next duty station we will be trying either right befor we leave here or right when we get there. SO i guess its sorta the same as TTC around deplyments. I guess it all just matters as to what is mor eimportant...having a baby with now or having one later or the grim poss that no baby at all...its all about weighing your options.

You might think about TTC and have it corridinate with R&R time...but beign Navy I dont know how long it is Till they get R&R...Just a thought.

Good Luck!

It is playing a huge roll in ours. I don't want to go through any of that without him so we are trying to wait. (And I want to fit into my wedding dress in a few months. :giggle)

i'm still a military girlfriend.....but I already told DB if we are married and don't have children....before he's deployed I want to freeze his "little guys". I read an article of a women who did this. her Dh died serving our country and 2yrs later she had his baby. At first my DB thought I was a wack job lol, but he understood the importance of it. Personally I wouldnt TTC right before deployement if we weren't ready to have a child, that's why I would freeze those bad boys lol