I feel a bit like an intruder coz i'm not a mommy or preggo, but i have a question, please bear with me.

I was just wondering how that mommy instince grew in ya'll.
I swear i dont have it and i'm scared to have kids coz i think i'll be non mommy-ish.
You know how you see those moms who mean well but dont cook, are all about their work and dont know how to deal with babies, i'm scared that will be me! i'm a youngest child, 2nd lt in the AF i dunno if i have the mommy trait in me!!:tears i just dont wanna screw it up

SO how did you ladies develop that instinct or was it natural, and what made you want to have children?

It WILL come to you naturally -It just grows within you & especially when it is YOUR child, you WILL be wonderful:D

well for some women i think it happens when they get pregnant, and for some it doesn't happen till the baby gets there. some always have it. :hugs. how old are you if you don't mind me asking? you may just have different goals in life, you may want to be the career woman and mommy and not a career mommy. that's okay. as long as you love your kids, you don't abuse them and spend time with them and you should be fine.

I had no mommy instincts and I'll tell ya what, I just jumped right in and started doing the best I could. I read tons of parenting books, which somehow just made things worse at the time because there were so many different things being said that it was too much. Hubby left right after my first was born and there I was in Japan, living off base with no friends and had no one to tell me what to do or how to do it, but for me that ended up working out the best because I LEARNED what my baby needed, etc.

Defintely do not stress about it, though. It's like I remember how nervous I was to get my driver's license when I was younger, and now obviously it's no big deal.

Thanks ladies...I guess since i'm only 20 i have a ways to go i just wondered if i was missing some genetic inscribed info that didn't get passed to me :dunno

I didn't think I'd ever feel like a mommy, and quite frankly I didn't feel like I was an "official" mom until I was on my own with DD. I was with my family for a good bit of my recovery since I'd had a C-section and DH deployed right after we left the hospital.

Mommy instinct is ingrained in us all way down deep and comes out with time once the little one is out in the world..

wow uhm yea.... so not all people are cut out to be moms. I think that some people are created to become mothers one day and these people have a special patience with children and the nonsense that children produce. I also think that some people were made to not be mothers and want careers rather than children, neither is a bad thing everybody is different. However, I think that once a child is growing inside of you it is only natural to form some kind of a loving bond with the child, prdouce a "motherly instinct". Then there are those that have been dressing their baby dolls up since they were in diapers and have always been that way.

Just because you are only 20 does not mean that you have a ways to go. I am 20 and have two kids and love them dearly. I think that when the time is right that part of you will develop and you will know. Until then it is more than okay to persue whatever it is you want to persue. :D

I think for some, instincts kick in when baby is born. Before Ethan was born, I babysat full-time. I can tell you that I was NOT the same person then as I am now. I got pregnant right as soon as I finished up that babysitting job.
One time the lil girl I was babysitting shitted herself EVERYWHERE. Luckily I was at my good friend's house and she gave her a bath...LOL!!!!!
Nowadays, I'd know what to do in that situation...HAHA!!!!!

I have always known I wanted to be a mommy. Some women just arent cut out for it and thats fine too. If one day you want to do it then great if not then thats great too. Everyone is diffrent.

it just happens.

i have a really good friend who didn't like kids and got pregnant and now she is an amazing mom. it just came to her. you bond and grow together.

It grew on me. One day, all of a sudden, I even was watching out for other people's kids (if someones kid was about to fall, I'd grab them quickly, etc).

I started to get mine once I aw him in utero and heard his heartbeating. It has grown alot stronger threw the past few days though. I am a VERY heavy sleeper but now any noise or movement he makes wakes me up and I start worrying about him. I think you will be fine...once you see the little one you will be having you will fall in love and want to do anything you can for him/her.

Heck I'm a mom and I hate to cook, clean, etc. etc. I've always been a tomboy and completely not domestic. But I like kids so I wanted to have my own. I just do what feels right in my gut when it involves my kids :)