okay so do your kids have godparents? dh wants to name his best friend (who's like his brother) and his soon to be wife as the godparents for the baby. in my eyes i see godparents as someone you'd want your kids to be with in the event that something should happen to you and/or your husband kwim? i would NOT feel comfy leaving my children to his friend and his wife. so do you think it'd be too bitchy if we each named our own set, like maternal god parents and paternal god parents? i have people i'd want to name in mind.

Honestly, I don't see god parents as people to leave your children with in the event of something happening. I know that is how it is supposed to be and all. I have godparents. But, if something had happened to my parents, I would have gone with my Uncle Dale or my grandparents. My godparents are my mom's oldest brother and my dad's oldest sister. So, they aren't married anyhow. For us, when we have kids, we will each choose one. But, if you are doing it as a way of taking care of things should something happen, I don't think you should have 2 sets. If something does, they will both feel as though they should be caring for the baby. I would talk to you DH about it.

Honestly, I don't see god parents as people to leave your children with in the event of something happening. I know that is how it is supposed to be and all. I have godparents. But, if something had happened to my parents, I would have gone with my Uncle Dale or my grandparents. My godparents are my mom's oldest brother and my dad's oldest sister. So, they aren't married anyhow. For us, when we have kids, we will each choose one. But, if you are doing it as a way of taking care of things should something happen, I don't think you should have 2 sets. If something does, they will both feel as though they should be caring for the baby. I would talk to you DH about it.

see my mom's brother and sister are my godparents but i was left to my grandma when my mom passed on. my aunt was living in the convent and my uncle was in a position where he couldn't take me. so i can see that point too.

hmmm.. DD doesn't have grandparents much less godparents, however I say if you have people in mind, then go for it :)

girlracer, how do i deal with the differing in people we want to choose.

I have godparents for Dd. They are my brother and my cousin (who is like a sister). When we make our wills, they will not be the guardians if something happens to me and Dh. I know that's how it's supposed to be, but I think it has changed with the times. I know many people who have more than 2 godparents. My brother has 2 godmothers and 1 godfather.

girlracer, how do i deal with the differing in people we want to choose.

honestly i don't think you would be bitchy if you didn't let that fly. If I did decide to choose a godparent for my DD, it would have to be MY family or his FAMILY. Even though my friends right now would give me a kidney, you never know what time would do to a friendship.. If that makes sense.. LOL My family (sister) and freedom's siblings will never grow to far apart from us.. but our friends MIGHT.

i'd probably name my aunt and her husband (my godmother and her husband) as the guardians should something happen either them or my SIL and her husband. both would be adequate and i'd feel comfy with having either family having our baby(ies). it's something we'll think about throughout the rest of this pregnancy kwim?

We didnt choose godparents for the reason you say. My mother will get our children if something happens to us not the godparents!

To me, Godparents are the people you would want to leave your children to in the event that something happens to the parents. Whether that be grandparents, relatives, or someone else you choose.
Dh said something about choosing one of the guys he met out here, but I'm not comfy with that. It's highly likely that we'll never see him again and I want our children to actually know their Godparents. We haven't really talked more in depth about it so I don't know who we'll actually have as Godparents.

when we have kids i think our kids would be better left with my mom and dad
most of my friends aren't the most reliable

i don't have a mom/dad unit. my grandma no offense to her but she's getting up in years and getting ready to retire soon and i wouldn't pull her out of retirement. my aunt and uncle would be more than adequate they've got a baby on the way now (due aug.) and then his sister and husband have a 4 almost 5 year old and a 3 almost 4 year old. his parents are retiring soon as well.

I think that you just need to make a decision that will work best for you. If for whatever reason you don't want his friends to be the godparents, tell him that. This is something that should be decided, and agreed upon, together.

I am Catholic so to me grandparents are not the people the child will go to should something happen to the parents but people who are supposed to help raise the child within the Catholic church and in the Catholic faith. That is why they will make the Profession of Faith for the child. There are two (often times one male and one female godparent) but they do not have to be married to each other. That is the reason why Kaitlyn doesn't have godparents. DH is baptist and while I am baptised and confirmed I do not practice my religion so IMO there is no point in her having godparents.

I am Catholic so to me grandparents are not the people the child will go to should something happen to the parents but people who are supposed to help raise the child within the Catholic church and in the Catholic faith. That is why they will make the Profession of Faith for the child. There are two (often times one male and one female godparent) but they do not have to be married to each other.

That makse so much sense to me now! My father was raised Catholic so that is probably why they did the godparents the way they did! :)

I am Catholic so to me grandparents are not the people the child will go to should something happen to the parents but people who are supposed to help raise the child within the Catholic church and in the Catholic faith. That is why they will make the Profession of Faith for the child. There are two (often times one male and one female godparent) but they do not have to be married to each other.

i'm catholic too. i don't practice though. dh and i will probably talk over vacay

We debated too.. he wanted his sister (who is married) and I wanted my sister (who is 20). But ultimately, when we looked at it, we realized it wasn't a popularity contest, and that my sister would be the one who could provide Riley with the best life possible should something happen to us.

Good luck with your decision!!! :hugs

We debated too.. he wanted his sister (who is married) and I wanted my sister (who is 20). But ultimately, when we looked at it, we realized it wasn't a popularity contest, and that my sister would be the one who could provide Riley with the best life possible should something happen to us.

Good luck with your decision!!! :hugs

good point. and btw i (L) your siggy

i'm catholic too. i don't practice though. dh and i will probably talk over vacay

If you want your child to be baptised in the Catholic church you will need at least one godparent for him/her. In order for the Catholic church to recognize that person as a godparent your church might require that person to be Catholic as well. And since the church does not recognize divorces that can disqualify someone as well

If you want your child to be baptised in the Catholic church you will need at least one godparent for him/her. In order for the Catholic church to recognize that person as a godparent your church might require that person to be Catholic as well. And since the church does not recognize divorces that can disqualify someone as well

yeah. i need to find a church up here. the problem is going to be getting someone to fly up here. we have no family or friends up here so someone will have to fly up here for the baptism. :sigh decisions decisions lol.

I am Catholic so to me grandparents are not the people the child will go to should something happen to the parents but people who are supposed to help raise the child within the Catholic church and in the Catholic faith. That is why they will make the Profession of Faith for the child. There are two (often times one male and one female godparent) but they do not have to be married to each other. That is the reason why Kaitlyn doesn't have godparents. DH is baptist and while I am baptised and confirmed I do not practice my religion so IMO there is no point in her having godparents.


http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=12668&highlight=GODPARENTS

i remember this :D

Our DD does not have any. I would like her too but I see a godparent as someone else that she can look up to as a rolemodle and can go to with a problem she maybe having that she feels like she cant talk to us about. But I really dont feel as if there is anyone that I would want my daughter to look up to. KWIM

DH has a friend sense he was a child that wants to be her godfather but he is not a rolemodle. As DH once said whats he going to teach her how to drink.

So I guess she isnt going to have any. I am actaully a godparent myself. To about 5 kids. But not legally.

From what I understand, legally you need to have a will that says who will care for your children in the event....

Godparents are often chosen to assist guiding your child's religious walk through life (education). -this was how it was in my Baptism- my Grandparents are mine, they've been to all my Sacramental ceremonies so far.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Godparents-

Non Religiously- it means "very good or dear friend" and can mean the guardian of your child- but only your legal will defines who your legal guardian is

I don't see any problem with having multiple godparents
I would definitely not pick this to argue with my bf- if he wanted to name one of his army buddy godparent for any kids we may have- I would say "that's great, Hon" but would name a legal guardian after a responsible & loving family member we BOTH agreed on %100- and then maybe pick my own godmother (my sister) but wouldn't necessarily have her as the legal guardian right now
Also to consider, one child may have one set of godparents (not necessarily married to each other), and another child another set-- but in reality you would want your children to stay together with a married couple (whoever has the most responsible grandparents or aunt/ uncle of the child)

very good point googlegirl. :D even from a religious standpoint his friend isn't a good role model.

We don't have any family members we'd want to take our son, none of them are good parents or even parent material. Our friends are more partiers, and those who aren't are too irresponsible to take care of even a pet. I can think of ONE couple who would do decently, but we haven't as of yet named anyone as guardians in the event of our demise because we just don't think anyone we know will cut it. Therefore, our son has no godparents.

If your DH wants to name his friend as the "godparent" then let him, and just stipulate in your WILL who the GUARDIAN will actually be. Godparent nowadays has been twisted to just an honor you hand to a friend, whereas you wouldnt hand your KID over to that same person. You can have both, just make certain you have it in your will that the godparent IS NOT the guardian. :)

Gabby doesn't have one.

When I was a practicing Catholic and thought about this (when I was pregnant), I was given advice by my stepmom to chose Godparents that weren't friends. B/c even if you think the friendship is great & long lasting, there's a possibility it won't last. But this is if you would want your children to go to those Godparents if somethign happened.

I don't have any but DB is Catholic and he does. If we were to have children, he'd pick the godparents since it really doesn't have anything to do with me. However, I know I'd have a BIG say in it because there are tons of people I wouldn't want to be my childs godparent in his close circle.

I do have a friend that has 2 seperate pairs of godparents but I'm not sure if they are both recognized by the church. Not many people I know are actually close to their godparents if they aren't related.

I think it'd be fine to each choose someone...or let him choose who he wants to be their godparents but have someone else be their legal guardian. After all, it is just a title, what is important is what is in the will.

We have three...Our "second" parents here and his best friend...

It is to my understanding that Godparents are there for your kids to help guide them spiritually. My sister and cousin are my ds' Godparents and no, they would not be the people who would take him if something happened to Dh and I.