My DF and I are planning to have a JOP ceremony when he returns from Kuwait(July) in August. For some reason he has baby fever! We already have a DD that just turned 5 months old today! He has really been on me about TTC when he gets back. Obviously I'm not ready for that !!!!!:no How do I break this to him delicately without spazzing out?

If it were me, I'd gently say.. Are you going to be the one helping me with TWO kids? LOL You know what you can handle.. Not saying that you can't but I'm well aware that I will be taking care of DD by myself quite often and don't feel like going crazy! :lol

LOL yeah when he first mentioned it i laughed i thought he was kidding. and then i was like are you crazy!!! but he keeps talking about it and is very serious about it. my best friend was like just keep your iud in and don't say anything but i don't want to be deceitful and lie about something like that kwim?

Yah, I wouldn't/couldn't be deceitful to my DH.. I'd just tell him straight up - If you're not ready dear, don't do it.. :) The military life - it's expected to be by yourself a lot, therefore you'd be a single parent..AT TIMES.

:hugs

Tell him that you'd love another baby, as long as he stays home and raises them this time! If you're not ready for another one, he should understand. I think lying about using birth control is a little bit 'Days of Our Lives/Desperate Housewives' (and it never works out for the characters!)

Yeah I'm not going to do that. That is one thing about us we can talk about any and everything and we're pretty understanding 90% of the time without flipping out. I think I'm just going to sit him down once he's back and tell him i'm not ready for another baby maybe next summer when she is about 18 months we can TTC then if he is here with us. I think that sounds like a fair compromise at least get this one out of diapers first and then ttc because i wanted to wait until she was like 4 so I figure that is a fair deal.

awww, i think that is an excellent compromise, good luck with it all girlie

Yeah I'm not going to do that. That is one thing about us we can talk about any and everything and we're pretty understanding 90% of the time without flipping out. I think I'm just going to sit him down once he's back and tell him i'm not ready for another baby maybe next summer when she is about 18 months we can TTC then if he is here with us. I think that sounds like a fair compromise at least get this one out of diapers first and then ttc because i wanted to wait until she was like 4 so I figure that is a fair deal.

That sounds good. Good luck!

just openly & honestly, tell him gently that you want to wait a while longer

Straight up tell him.

Straight up tell him.

Yep.. he should be understanding that you're not ready yet to have another child.