how do you mend a relationship over the phone? when all that can make your tears stop are his arms around you and all you want is to just be with him, even if you don't have anything to say. :(

I know 'communication'... but what else?

The only thing that can mend a relationship is time and trust. You can't just fix it in one conversation, even if you're face to face. Over the phone just makes it harder.

I know we can't fix everything in one conversation, but we can't even seem to get in the right direction so far.

I know we can't fix everything in one conversation, but we can't even seem to get in the right direction so far.

Maybe it's time to take a REAL break. No communication for XX number of days to sort out your true personal feelings for each other and the relationship.

I did that with an ex and I was the one who decided it was time for it to no longer be a "break" but a "break up". It was the best thing for both of us and I'm happy we did it. It avoided a huge blowout.

we're doin that now. he won't talk to me. I guess that's why I just keep posting crap on here is b/c I have no where else to turn and I really just need to talk and cry... :(

we're doin that now. he won't talk to me. I guess that's why I just keep posting crap on here is b/c I have no where else to turn and I really just need to talk and cry... :(

If he isn't talking to you because you're on a break, you should be taking this time to evaluate whether or not this relationship is healthy for YOU.

I KNOW you love him and you desperately want it to work out, but sometimes that's not in the cards. You need to determine if it's worth the hassle, if HE'S worth the hassle. It may feel like he is now, but really... IS he?

Deep soul searching.

i agree that time has alot to do with it. moods change, feelings change, words change, over time.. hopefully it will get set in the right direction soon..:hang

only having the sound of his voice over the phone is really hard, but we're strong, we can deal with it. hang in there and good luck sweetie:hug (L)

You two not talking for awhile is probably for the best, especially right now that ya'll have been fighting constantly. You may find out some interesting things about yourself and the relationship. :goodvibes and :hugs to you

You two not talking for awhile is probably for the best, especially right now that ya'll have been fighting constantly. You may find out some interesting things about yourself and the relationship. :goodvibes and :hugs to you

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Focus on YOU. NOT the relationship.

I know I know... I'm just upset right now b/c it's killing me not to talk to him... not talking to the person who is your best friend & your boyfriend? it sucks.

I know I know... I'm just upset right now b/c it's killing me not to talk to him... not talking to the person who is your best friend & your boyfriend? it sucks.

Just curious, how long have you been together?

5 months.

I know I know... I'm just upset right now b/c it's killing me not to talk to him... not talking to the person who is your best friend & your boyfriend? it sucks.

It's gonna be hard not to talk to him, I know. But you gotta do what's best for you and right now, it's best that you figure out where the relationship stands. Would you rather be talking to him and fighting, or would you rather not for a couple of days? One person can only take but so much fighting.

I know it sucks to not get to talk to your boyfriend, but you have GOT to realize that sometimes, the best course of action is no course of action. Just sit back and let life do it's job. It has a funny way of taking care of things if you let go and let it.

has your relationship always been long distance? 5 months doesnt seem like a long time. If the whole of the relationship has been long distance how well do you know him? I am just asking, i am not judging.

Well, I wish you a lot of luck, dear, in finding something out of this that makes you happy.

I will say that DB and I went through a really, terribly rough phone call once, and we had a couple months right after that that would be phone only. I felt the same way, that it seemed impossible to fix it without having him there to hold me. We just tried to talk it out a lot and, when that failed, stopped talking about it until we could try face to face...

I guess, I'm saying that, if you really feel you should talk it out - just hang in there. But, it's definitely a good time for soul-searching.

It's gonna be hard not to talk to him, I know. But you gotta do what's best for you and right now, it's best that you figure out where the relationship stands. Would you rather be talking to him and fighting, or would you rather not for a couple of days? One person can only take but so much fighting.

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It is better to take some time off and deal with your emotions rather than call him and dump all your anger/sadness on him and fight some more. I promise talking to him now will only make you feel worse because it won't resolve anything. I know EXCATLY how you feel right now...DB and I have been through breaks like this before...so if you ever need to talk feel free to PM me. :hugehug

has your relationship always been long distance? 5 months doesnt seem like a long time. If the whole of the relationship has been long distance how well do you know him? I am just asking, i am not judging.

yes, it's always been long distance. we were friends for 3 years before we started dating and we were in high school together.

If he isn't talking to you because you're on a break, you should be taking this time to evaluate whether or not this relationship is healthy for YOU.

I KNOW you love him and you desperately want it to work out, but sometimes that's not in the cards. You need to determine if it's worth the hassle, if HE'S worth the hassle. It may feel like he is now, but really... IS he?

Deep soul searching.

she's right. just hang in there and really analyze everything and i know they say listen to your heart but sometimes you have to let your brain take over and decide what is healthy for you. good luck sweetie i know you will make the right decision for yourself. :hugehug