was he different when he came out of BCT & AIT? If so how? Just wondering if it's normal!!??

OMG yes! He is still in AIT now, and it's hard being apart in the first place and having hardly any time to talk, throw in that he's almost completely different and it's so much harder than I ever thought it could be.

Well we were technically married AFTER military life (planning the wedding during his basic training. But we were dating before he left for training.

He came out of basic training (boot camp) a LOT different from when he went - BUT every change he had was an incredibly good one. He was much more mature, responsible, fluent, more of a leader, didn't take me for granted, caring, gentle, everything.

However, with that being said, everything returned to "normal" with him a few months later since he wasn't around the military at all since he's just a Reservist.

Now deployment..that's a whole different story, still trying to figure out that one...it's made him more subdued, less fun, sucked out his life-spirits almost, very very sad.

Wll, I'll let you know when I find out...

Some of the responses here have me scared:worry

I was dating a couple years before we got married and married a couple months before he left for basic. DH really didn't change a whole lot, just mostly the way he talked..... he's still rather lazy :rolleyes :giggle

well df and i had been dating for almost 3 years before he joined. And he was different when he graduated basic and AIT. But all of the differences were for the better. I love him more now than before. He matured, treats me like a princess, and the love from him to me is so much stronger. I can feel it. A lot of things are still the same. His humor are still the same and he still loves video games (he could play them for days at a time, non stop) He is still lazy and he still tries to make me do everything for him. he doesnt like to make decisions. I love him more now than before. The army was a great thing for him and a great thing for our relationship.

I didn't know him when he was 18... But I've heard the stories from his friends and family :hide..

I'm glad i didn't know him back then.

I married my ex husband 10 days before he left for RTC, we dated for 2 years prior to getting married. He was a lot different when he got out of basic.....he was cocky BAD! He was mean to Ethan and I and he ended up cheating on me for the first time 5 months later.

we got married 2 months before he left for boot camp. when he got back, he was a cocky one as well. he was just full of himself. and i suppose, almost 2 years later, and he's still that way. :lol

dh and I had been married for a year when he joined. He did change but I think for the most part it was for the better. He was forced to be responsible for himself while he was there which made him grow up. As well as the fact that the distance made him realize that he did (and still does) truly love me

My fiancee just got out of marine bc and he is very cocky. What worries me is that he might want to en thins with me!

I married my ex husband 10 days before he left for RTC, we dated for 2 years prior to getting married. He was a lot different when he got out of basic.....he was cocky BAD! He was mean to Ethan and I and he ended up cheating on me for the first time 5 months later.

Basically I had the exact same story with my ex-husband! We married 10 days before Basic and then he was really cocky and BAD as well. Basic changed him for the worst... :no

DH changed a little, but all for the better...

The problem is emotional maturity before BCT compared to after. You are taught nothing if not discipline, so when you get out, you may not be as tolerant of some things that you "let slide" before you left home. It may be construed as cockiness sometimes, but a lot of the time it's simply being more grown up and not wanting to deal with someone who can't understand what you've been through.

You're not a "changed" person, you're just a little more matured and grown up when you're done.