My soldier has suffered before with many issues (probably PTSD):(...while hes emotionally unstable (or was until recently) I love him dearly...we've had some incidents where he has done things in an effort to make me not love him, thinking it would be easier to end it that way than in heartbreak of being seperated, because he thought that with his line of work he doesnt deserve to be in a loving relationship with someone because he has no guarunteed future...high risk occupation and all. Well between the two of us I think we are on the right track now, realizing that we can make it work...but I have friends who have seen and heard (via me venting my frustrations) his actions and words during the rougher part of our relationship... and sometimes when I go to talk about the good things (which is all I can do to keep from being upset with his absence) they bring up the past...and question how I can forgive...and how I can stay while knowing I may lose him one day...I was just wondering what to tell people when they say things like that...because I think that its worth the risk if there is the chance that a happy ending could come of it...its just so difficult to explain to the girlfriends ive had all my life that dont know him like i do...since I go to school out-of-state...

I've actually had friends who have told me they dont want to hear about it anymore because they fail to understand and just past judgement based on me being stupid and only venting about the bad and not enough about the good because they are far away and arent around us, I just call them when I was upset:arg...which alot of people do in relationships...

just wondering how to explain...I probably cant tho...:confused:sigh