I love my DB! more than i thought I could ever love anybody. I want to marry him and he wants to marry me, but i cannot be completely comfortable with the idea of marrying him because my parents think he is a complete asshole.

It makes me so sad and torn because I do see alot of good in him and yes he does has a smart ass in him. It's just for some reason when me, my parents and him are all together it's like ass hole switch turns on and he gets defensive, makes smartass comments, and is rude...he thinks my mom hates him and my mom think he hates her. In reality my mom doesn't hate him she just think she has put out the effort to be accept him in our family but he has just shot it down and he doesn't completely dislike my mother but thinks it is rediculous that she has these rules on me becasue i live in her house*im 20 mind you*

I don't understand why he has to do that and why he cannot just be polite around my parents. He's fine with me, we have our differences but he is not possesive or assholish to me...just pouts really and then we talk about it later...

i don't know what to say to him to explain to him that he needs to stop being an ass to my parents, swallow his pride and get over stupid shit! it's not helping. I want a good relationship with my parents and a relationship with him. I'm jsst afraid he will get overly defensive and then i will lose my thoughts.

Plus i have no idea what to say to my parents either. mainly my mom because she just seems him as arrogant, obnoxious and assholish...when he really does make me happy...

I'm so stressed over these...i wonder if it worth at times becasue he is leaving for kuwait in august and i want my mother to support me through it...i need her support so much and i know it won't be there unless they learn how to play nice...
what should i do?

p.s - sorry if there is horrible grammar and alot of misspellings...i wrote it really fast and was kinda emotional at the time

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How long have the two of you been dating?

My parents don't like my boyfriend for some unknown reason. Because unlike your boyfriend, mine goes out of his way to be nice!! Apparently my mom thinks he's seeing another girl besides me... since we don't see each other during the week (because either we were both in school or now we both work and are about 25 minutes driving distance apart)... but if I were to start going over there during the week my parents wouldn't like that either!!!! Cuz I've already been yelled at for going over there on both Friday and Saturday nights to see him!! UGH!

So I understand when your parents don't like your boyfriend. IT SUCKS!!

I've gotten over it because at this point... I'd rather choose my boyfriend over my family. They don't have to come to the wedding when we get married, they don't have to ever speak to me again if they think I'm making a mistake by marrying him (which they do think this). But it doesn't seem like you would be willing to choose one or the other.

Maybe you could have your boyfriend write a letter to your parents kinda explaining himself? Or sit down and talk with your parents and tell them what you wrote in your post. I don't know if either of them are options??

If not, I hope things work out well!!! :)