about marriage counseling? I think we may need it. I am just not sure how to deal with being newlyweds and him deployed. We haven't had time to grow together and I am just concerned about everything having to do with our marriage. We don't know how to work out our problems.. What do you ladies think about this all comments will be appreciated.

if you feel yall need it then go for it;) but i dont think ya do i have read some of the emails he has wrote you and girl i can tell by what he writes that he loves you very very much:)

If you both want to do it, I'm sure it can be a good thing! Even going to counseling when you feel you just need to "tune" up somethings in your relationship before it gets out of hand is a good idea. I did marriage counseling w/ my ex and I thought it could of been really useful, but he didn't care to try. So thats why i say, if you both want it, than it can help :)

It isn't just for couples who have reached their limit.

I think counseling can be a useful tool if both people are open and willing to go through it.

DH and I had to go to marriage counseling in 2003 due to some issues we were having. I think its very beneficial to get an outside perspective where marriage is concerned.

If you both want to do it, I'm sure it can be a good thing! Even going to counseling when you feel you just need to "tune" up somethings in your relationship before it gets out of hand is a good idea. I did marriage counseling w/ my ex and I thought it could of been really useful, but he didn't care to try. So thats why i say, if you both want it, than it can help :)

It isn't just for couples who have reached their limit.


Yeah, what Rach said. I think it's awesome if you're both interested, it doesn't mean you're headed for divorce, instead you're just making some small improvements. I think it could be beneficial.

I don't think there is any shame in it at all. In fact, I think it very refreshing to see couples that know they want to help their marriage and are willing to do whatever it takes. I don't have any experience in it myself but can't see the hurt in it at all. Good Luck.

I think it would be so helpful. that is speaking for my fiance and i. We have not talked about it but i have thought about it. Just to know we are on the same page. Because i look at marriage as there is no back door. You cant just up and leave because your mad...i think you both need to just talk about things and how it mad you feel and all and then COMPRIMISE!!! But i defenilty dont see it as anything to look down on more or less its something positive...because you are trying to work on things. no one is perfect. But i will say my mom and dad went and he was not willing and it just caused more problems. so be wise and pick your battles wise. Wish yall the best of luck*

If you both agree you might need some outside help to deal with issues, Im all for it. Dh and I went for 2 yrs, and it has helped us both tremendously. We have grown and changed a lot, but we have grown closer together. 4 yrs ago, I was through with him. Done, caput. We struggled for a good year, and finally got on solid ground. Without counseling, we certainly wouldnt be together.

Thanks ladies for all of you comments and opinions.. I don't believe in divorce but I don't want to live my whole entire life hating the person I married.. ( I don't hate him its just he can be really inconsiderate and stupid) I love him so much and I don't want to feel like I am sacrificing everything and he's not doing anything at all.. I guess it has a whole lot to do with deployment and being newlyweds.. We just have to work together and its difficult with him gone.. I think we may not be to the point of counceling but we will see...

i think it is a great idea if you think it will help ya'lls marriage out