So it has been longer than normal since I have heard from DB, I keep trying to calm down and rationalize that most likely that he is completely fine and just really really busy....

When your girls SO's were deployed in Iraq or places and you didn't hear from them for quite awhile, when you finally did hear from them what were their reasons for the no contact? (obviously some things cant be said probably, and we all know about the blackouts:grumpy)

I guess since this is the first deployment I've gone through, I don't have a feel for if missions last days, or how long they go, different things they have them do etc., kinds of schedules they put them on (generically speaking of course)?

Just trying to keep my mind from wandering I guess and hoping for word soon:pray. I don't think I'll sleep very good tonight:(

He always had the same reason- being wayyyyyyyyy too busy for one person.

I can't say anything about Iraq deployments since my hubby is a submariner but when he was out to sea it was normal not to hear from him. The longest I have gone without anany contact was one month. Reason was that they were doing missions and the whole email system was down during that time

I have gone several weeks with no contact. It was that he couldn't get back to the phones, they were too busy, they were on some major mission, the phone lines were too long all the time or something along those lines. :hug

Missions can last anywhere from 2-3 days to a week or more. There are a lot of variables, such as travel time, in addition to how long it takes for them to complete the mission. Does he have a cell phone? If he doesn't, then it takes even longer, because he can't just call you when he has down time...just when they get to their FOB or to another area with phones. And by the time they get to the FOB, they're wiped out, and the line is a mile long for a phone. Don't worry. I know that there is one pretty big mission going on that is really taking a lot of time and men. If you want to talk, feel free to PM me. I have been through what you're feeling...and still go through it from time to time. It's perfectly normal!

I know my DB has had two black outs this week, and something happened today which caused him to only talk to me for a couple minutes.
I hope you hear from your sweetheart soon!!!!

I just don't ask him "why it has been so long" so I don't know his real reasons. I know in my heart that he wants to call me as much as I want to hear from him. This is the same man who rarely went one day without text messaging me when he was here, so I hold onto that. I need him to concentrate on keeping himself safe so I don't want to give him any additional guilt by asking him why he didn't call sooner.

I hope he gets a chance to call you soon. :hugs

Just remember ~~~ No news is good news, and bad news travels fast.

When DH was in Iraq I got an email every few days and a call maybe twice a month. When they are out running around on missions, they have to focus on that and sometimes they don't have the time or energy to call. I know for me, even though I missed him like crazy, I was happier knowing he went t sleep and got rest than him calling and being on the phone with me. He needed rest so I was willing to give up some time knowing it would help keep him alert. Give him time, I am sure he will call soon!