I know that DF is probably having a really rough time right now. It is hard to explain, but with everything going on I can just feel it. I know...it sounds stupid, but do you have any ideas on how you can comfort your SO when they are deployed? I don't think we will be talking any time soon, so that isn't really an option.

TIA!

It doesn't sound stupid, all you can really do is be there if he needs to talk and support him.

I hope he feels better soon :hugs

We ladies are very intuitive when it comes to our men. amd everything else:P
Is he able to email? You could send him emails and ecards. I send my husband those and cards via snail mail. I try to send lots of pictures and goodies I know he likes. It's hard, because you just want to hug them and make it all better.

Yeah, I'm the knucklehead who sends a letter or a card every day. Of course I swore at the beginning of deployment it would be once a week. I'm such a sap! He doesn't have email access and rarely gets to a phone. I'm pretty sure with everything going on it will be a while before we get to talk anyway. Do you think the best thing I can do is just keep sending letters? I can't think of anything else. I am already working on his birthday care package, but it just doesn't feel like enough KWIM?

Letters is about all you can do.. When DH was in training, I would write him snail mail twice a day.. that way when they came, it would (hopefully) uplift him a little. Some weeks he got 15 letters at mail call, he said that it made him feel good because some of the guys never got anything in the mail..

One thing that I sent him was a photo of me in a bra with a pair of scissors on the bow in between my ta-tas.. I cut off the bow and sent it to him along with the picture.. I sent him bedsheets for his bunk with pictures of me wrapped up in the sheets.. I made him a blanket too. He liked actual photos better then emailed ones, because he could take the pics with him on missions...

I sure hope you can make him feel better. :hugs

All we do never feels like enough, because we can just reach out an touch them or see them smile so we know they are ok. But he knows you love and support him. But definately keep the letters coming if you want to do that. I'm the way way, I send my husband a letter or card ever couple days.
That's sweet you're sending him a b-day package, I did that too. He will love it. You just know they get all excited when the mail arrives, just imagine how happy he is when he gets something from you. It really makes their day. You're doing your very best for him from here and that's all you can do. I'm sorry you don't get to hear from him much, but it's definately brightening his day when he gets your gifts.

Letters is about all you can do.. When DH was in training, I would write him snail mail twice a day.. that way when they came, it would (hopefully) uplift him a little. Some weeks he got 15 letters at mail call, he said that it made him feel good because some of the guys never got anything in the mail..

One thing that I sent him was a photo of me in a bra with a pair of scissors on the bow in between my ta-tas.. I cut off the bow and sent it to him along with the picture.. I sent him bedsheets for his bunk with pictures of me wrapped up in the sheets.. I made him a blanket too. He liked actual photos better then emailed ones, because he could take the pics with him on missions...

I sure hope you can make him feel better. :hugs

Oh I like the bedsheets Idea, I'm stealing that one from you!

I'm already planning "bow" pics :giggle

DB says he likes the letters the best of anything I send him, and I like to think I've sent him some pretty good stuff haha! But those seem to mean the most, and he told me he keeps them all in a zip loc bag so he can smell them and get them out to read them whenever he wants.

One thing I did as a variation on a letter was I made a list of things that make DB and I laugh or smile, things that we've done together or joked about, and I wrote on it something about how "when times get tough I hope you can look at these things and smile even if it's for a minute"

I always stress to him to take a minute or two out of his day and to smile and think about something that he wants to think about, something to take his mind off the daily grind.

I think DB is really going through a rough period right now as well, all I want to do is to be able to hug him and tell him it will be ok, I feel like if I could just do that he would be better, but of course we can't. We just have to hope for the best and they'll come through it, it's a constant cycle of ups and downs there. The "ups" will come again soon and we'll wait for those!:hugs

I just remind him I am never going to judge him no matter what he has to say and I will always love him no matter what he does.

Since he has no email and little use of a phone cards, letters and pictures are really the only thing you can do. You would be amazed at what a card or letter will do. Just go to the dollar store or some other place and get a bunch of cards. You can write them out as well as some letters and send one out each day or every couple of days. Send photos whenever you can also. If you have a few don't send them all at once. Put one or two in with a card or letter. We had no phone or email when my DH first did a deployment so we had to do the letter thing. Don't be upset if you don't get something back right away. Sometimes it can take FOREVER.:lol My DH once got 15 letters at once and they were about 2 month old.

Thanks ladies! I know that he is getting letters in random order (or at least he was the last time I talked to him), but he hadn't gotten the pictures I sent him yet. Maybe because they were in a different kind of envelope? Oh well! I am going to steal some of your ideas for sure! I have over a year to go and I am never going to run out of care package ideas, but letter ideas/cards are a different story! I never thought I would be so glad that the card aisles are so big!

Thanks ladies! I know that he is getting letters in random order (or at least he was the last time I talked to him), but he hadn't gotten the pictures I sent him yet. Maybe because they were in a different kind of envelope? Oh well! I am going to steal some of your ideas for sure! I have over a year to go and I am never going to run out of care package ideas, but letter ideas/cards are a different story! I never thought I would be so glad that the card aisles are so big!

Cards are great aren't they! I have a box full.