I talked to DH today and they lost some guys recently :unlove. I didn't want to push him and ask too much but at the same time I don't want him to bottle it up. What should I do?:confused I asked him to write me a letter and tell me what he can about it, then if he doesn't want to mail it he doesn't have to...was that ok?

Good advice. He will talk to you when he is ready. You being there is important. Alot of times the "guys" get each other through things such as this. Be strong and just LOVE HIM.
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I would say that was perfectly okay. I actually posted this same question this weekend (I think). The best advice that the ladies gave me was to just let him know that I am here if/when he needs me. I will never judge him for what he has done and I will always love him for what is in his heart. He is not his actions.

Many prayers to your hubby and his friends

thanks girls. it seems like there are always new things to deal with. it is always helpful to come here for advice.
thanks again!

I am so sorry to hear about your DH's loss. My DB just had three good friend's of his pass on recently in Baghdad.. and I told him if/when he want's to talk about it - i'll listen. I just wish he was home so I could hold him. It get's so hard! but we're the strongest women! Hang in there.. Keep the chin's up! :)

I think you handled it the right way. You didn't push him to talk about it but you left it open for him to talk about if/when he's ready!

Good advice. He will talk to you when he is ready. You being there is important. Alot of times the "guys" get each other through things such as this. Be strong and just LOVE HIM.
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:hugs Well said.

My husband has lost some close friends and he knows that I'm here if he needs/wants to talk about it. I've never questioned anything because I don't want to bring back any memories for him that he possibly would rather not have to re-live. (If that makes sense. Sorry, it's late and I'm tired.)

Well we talked again today and I didn't bring any of it up. I will just leave it be and see if a letter shows up in the mail or not. I've let him know I am here if he wants me to be to listen.
Thanks girls for all your advice :-)

When my DF has gone through that, I could tell it hurt...but he wouldn't say much to me. He would just say, "It was hard." However, he has a good friend here in our home town, and he would write letters to him about what happened. I am friends with my DF's friends too, so I would get to read the letters. My DF said that he really appreciated me and all of the supportive letters and texts I would send, etc. in the letters he wrote to his friend, and told him that I really helped him get through it all.

I think if we just show them that we love them, it helps more than anything else. That might be one of those "guy" topics, just like there are certain "women type things" we prefer to discuss with women. As long as I know that he's okay, I am happy (well, as happy as I can be, given his location).

Good luck, and I'll keep both of you in my prayers!!!