Ok, when I was pg, my friend had asked if I thought that I would ever get jealous of Ellie. I said "of course not. How could I be jealous of my own daughter?" Well, Toby has pretty much been with me and Ellie since she was born which was nice. But now that he is working, the first thing he wants to do when he comes home from work is be with Ellie, which is GREAT dont get me wrong. But for some reason today I started to get a ting of jealousy. :screwy Usually once he cuddles her and puts her to sleep, its our time together, but today, he just wanted her to sleep by him which is fine, but then he moved me out of the way so he could be with her, not a kiss or anything before. He just kinda pushed me over. That kinda upset me, so I came in the other room and got on here. I mean I feel like shit for feeling this way, and please dont be mean to me about it. I know this is stupid for me to feel this way, I love my daughter more than anything, and she should be his number 1 priority, I guess it was just a shock to me.

I've never been in that situation because I'm not married nor do I have children, but I have heard it's common and natural. It could also be hormones, I blame everything on hormones! :hugs I hope things improve. Your hubby seems like a great guy-maybe try talking to him about it sweety :hugs :hugs

My dh is kinda the same way. That wasnt right that he "pushed" you out of the way. But I make up for the time he spends with my dd AFTER she goes to bed, if you know what I mean. ;)

I don't think that you awful for feeling that way. I mean look at new dads, they get jealous when a baby comes into the picture all the time. No different

You have to maintain a happy marriage to have happy kids...He should definately consider your feelings. Rather than just spend time with her, he should spend it with you AND her at the same time.

LOL.... I was just talking about this same thing with my brother like 4 days ago. I was thinking if I had a girl I might get a little jealous because my hubby calls me princess and always treats me so good. If we had a daughter ,he would probably call her princess. We have 2 boys so we don't have that problem. My brother thinks his wife would be jealous if they had a girl also.

We don't have girls BUT my DH does sometimes get jealous of our two boys because they take a lot out of me. It gets exhausting trying to keep up with the demands of three different people. I am only one me and only have SO much energy to give for one day KWIM. I breastfeed and sometimes by the end of the day (back when he nursed A TON) I would be all touched out. For my DH it was hard to take because he is only home for short periods of time.

Ok, thank you ladies. So I shouldnt feel bad for feeling that way?? i have never once felt like that until last night. I talked to him about it and he said he didnt even realize he had done it. He said that its just hard on him now because he isnt home all day to see her, so he wants to spend as much time with her as he can while he is home. I completely understand that and I told him that maybe next time he can be nicer about it, like give me a kiss and ask if I mind that he just cuddles Ellie at the moment. He said ok and we cuddled he he he :wub

talk to him about it sweety & let him know how it made you feel:yesseriously

Ok, thank you ladies. So I shouldnt feel bad for feeling that way?? i have never once felt like that until last night. I talked to him about it and he said he didnt even realize he had done it. He said that its just hard on him now because he isnt home all day to see her, so he wants to spend as much time with her as he can while he is home. I completely understand that and I told him that maybe next time he can be nicer about it, like give me a kiss and ask if I mind that he just cuddles Ellie at the moment. He said ok and we cuddled he he he :wub

Glad you guys talked about it! A lot of the time, ESPECIALLY with stuff like this, our men have no clue what they're doing!

I completely understand where you're coming from. I wanted a girl so badly and when we found out Cam was a boy I was kinda devastated (for about a week and then I really loved the idea of having a boy!) but after having him (we want one more) I want another boy and I think that's partially why. And because of that I'm kind of afraid to have a girl now. I wouldn't feel bad at all, I think it's definitely natural.