DH and I planned to TTC in October. Now, he is deploying in October until May. (The military always finds a way to mess with things! :arg) He still wants to try, I decided not to because I want him here with me through everything. But, we had a scare the other day and it got me thinking. If he comes home and May and I do get pregnant, who is to say they wont send him out again a few months later? The only guarantee in the military is that there is none. I know this deployment he is heading to is only for 7 months. So, if we TTC before he leaves and I do get pregnant, he would still be home for the last few months and the birth. I am so confused on what to do. I just can't get this baby feeling to go away. He wants to sooooo bad, and I really do, too. I am just so scared about going through it alone. I have wonderful friends, and a very supportive family who would be there for me. What do you girls think? I know that there are some of you who have gone through this before.

If we decided we were ready to try, we would try. Life is always going to get in the way if you keep putting it off because of maybe's.

If we decided we were ready to try, we would try. Life is always going to get in the way if you keep putting it off because of maybe's.

How sad is that? I got beyond giddy when I read this! Lol. I really do agree. I guess I'm just scared and needed some outside opinions!

If we decided we were ready to try, we would try. Life is always going to get in the way if you keep putting it off because of maybe's.

:agree

I think that if you really feel you're ready, then go for it. Good luck with whatever you choose to do though.

If we decided we were ready to try, we would try. Life is always going to get in the way if you keep putting it off because of maybe's.

DH and I were just talking about this because of his upcoming work situations. This is what we came up with-because life has no guarantees other than to be confusing!

If your ready than go for it, you cant always control the timing :)

if you are ready to try, try. you are right, if you wait till he gets back they might send him out again

I refused to let the military rule my life. I got pregnant on R&R during our first Iraq tour. IN august I found out, was due in April, he came home in Feb. It worked out well for us, while I had a ton of problems and needed him there I am glad he wasn't. I was so sick, it would have been misery for us both.

I would rather have my dh there for the birth and the first month or so than the pregnancy. The pregnancy isn't the best part but it is not as mind blowing as becoming a parent is. Having your dh there for that is waaaaaaaaay more important. I don't think I would have survived without him here. I had a csection (unsceduled because my baby was too fat lol) and I was scared to even pick her up afterward because I thought my guts would fly open and I was so overwhelmed. I was trying to bf and... well you get the picture. I didn't enjoy being pregnant and alone but having a newborn and being alone would be much harder. After the first month or so it isn't as bad.

If you want it, then go for it.

Life is always going to get in the way if you keep putting it off because of maybe's.

I refused to let the military rule my life.

I agree with both of these.

If it's what you both want, go for it.