Well, my guy and I are trying to work things out while he's gone which is good but I have a problem. I'm so hurt about the way he left and that he spent his last month here with everyone but me. and to top it all off I feel so empty because his stuff isn't here. It would make me feel better but now he can't move back cause he's gone. I don't know what to do. I'm so hurt and feel so empty I just want to give up. But I love him and want to work it out. Any tips on how to get beyond this hurt and emptiness and focus on the future. We've been together for 18 months and this has destroyed me and I don't know how I'm going to do it when I feel empty. The hurt I can get past but the empitness is what scares me. Any ideas?

You can't dwell on the past if you are truly going to make this work.

i agree with bunkie. also if you are working things out, then you should be perfectly clear and honest with him and let him know how bad it hurt you how he acted before he left and that he should never do that again. you have to move on, stay strong and busy, and let the past be the past. but if that same thing happens again and he doesn't change..i'd tell him goodbye. i have no patience for rudeness in a relationship. :hugs :hugs hang in there long distance can be so hard...as well as deployments etc.

you just have to forgive & move foreward sweety-good luck:D

try to keep ur self busy, stay postive, know that u have support on this site.
i have been with my man 6months and we were friends first, he has been in irraq over a year , and i haven't heard from him in a month but i am starting to learn that is normal in the miltary, how much u love u have in ur relationship tends to help. Anytime u need to talk i am here i go by the name beautyboxerlife, talk to u soon.

Thanks everyone. I've told him how much he hurt me and I think he truly knows that now but we both know there is nothing he can do about that now that he's gone which adds to it but oh well. I know I need to get past it soon or it will ruin the future but in some way I think if it does it was originally ruined by him.