Do any of you worry while your SO is deployed that in their absence you start to create a fantasy about the person they will be when they come back and the image of them? Like do you worry that you make them out to be something that fits an image in your head that you dream up as we think about things while they are gone?

I'm very lucky in that this deployment is bringing DB and I even closer, our communication couldn't be better and this being our first together it has really taught us how important the little things are. Sometimes I catch myself thinking about things when he is back and I just hope I don't get ahead of myself:dunno

Just my random thoughts tonight lol.

Okay, you and I must be on the same wavelength. I have felt that same exact way. It's a weird feeling, and very hard to explain.

I know, deep down, that DF is my soul mate. However, sometimes late at night (when I can't sleep because thoughts of him are running through my head), I do worry that I'm making him "more perfect for me" in my head than he really is. Then our family and our friends will say something about the two of us, and I am reassured that my worries are for nothing.

Sometimes :-/ :(

i used to worry that he'd forget what i actually look like but he never did, and if he did he was always happily surprised (at least that's what he told me)

I've thought about it. It kinda happened too, I sent DH pictures and he said "you are much prettier then I remembered"

Is that a compliment? :lol

Meh. I was just reminded of DB's :quote wonderful :quote planning skills. So, I'm not worried atm! :lol

:hugs Just don't forget the little things that annoy you, and the big beautiful picture should stay reasonably accurate.

i agree with you cam...this deployment has brought db and i closer and we have communicated better then ever before-with the lack of communication :lol-

but then i have my moments when i feel like i forget the little things about him, and i have to stare at pictures of him to remember. i forget where he has a certain scar, or a certain way he looks at me that i love...i feel like i haven't seen him in ages even though i stalk his myspace for new pictures like its my job! lol

Yeah I agree everyone, I think it's that deal of kinda making them out to be "more perfect" in your head, but then I think about things DB has done for me and he's pretty darn perfect for me in real life lol(L).

Chelsea I look at DB's pictures all the time too :lol. Sometimes it's hard for me to look at a picture though and it makes the time I last saw him seem so far away you know? It gets harder and harder it seems to put that face in the picture with DB for some reason. But then of course there are other times when I can almost feel him touching me:tears

The mind definitely does funny things when all you have is time to think about missing your SO!:hugs

Dh and I have been through two deployments so far. Each time he comes home it is weird/exciting. I find that he is never the same as I remember him and although he is not the "ideal" husband I imagined the reality is always better. No matter how wonderful you can imagine him, once he comes home, even with all his faults, he is better than the imaginary guy you have dreamed of.

Dh and I have been through two deployments so far. Each time he comes home it is weird/exciting. I find that he is never the same as I remember him and although he is not the "ideal" husband I imagined the reality is always better. No matter how wonderful you can imagine him, once he comes home, even with all his faults, he is better than the imaginary guy you have dreamed of.


That is a WONDERFUL way to put it!!! That's nice to hear from someone who's been through it multiple times, thanks:)