Many people marry for money. Marry to get money (tax breaks, benefits, etc), inherit money or to be spoiled by their spouse.

Did you? Did you ever think about it? Do you know people that have? Do you think it's good or bad?

well I can only answer for myself and say that when I married my hubby it was for love and not for how much money he makes. money cannot buy you happiness. or I should said complete happiness.

Well I married someone in the Navy, so you know that wasnt for money! :lmao

How 'bout this: I WISH my dh was rich, that would have been awesome. Alas, when I met him we were lowly E-3's in the Navy, we certainly didn't marry for money. I would never leave my dh for anyone, rich or not. And I couldn't marry anyone just for money, how can you promise forever (a very long time) to someone you don't love??

Okay, maybe I should clarify...

Was money or is money ever a FACTOR in marriage or in past relationships?

well i wouldnt marry someone that didnt have some kind of job. if he was jobless then no i probably wouldnt marry him. as long as he has a well establish job and its legit and legal and we could live fairly comfortable without having to hit the streets or go begging then money does enter into it just a bit but he doesnt have to be super super rich or anything.

Okay, maybe I should clarify...

Was money or is money ever a FACTOR in marriage or in past relationships?

It was an issue for me in high school. I briefly dated a guy whose parents were quite wealthy and while he was good at gifts he was whiny little brat!

Money might make somethings easier, but it can't make you truly happy.

I married Mike because we were in love. No doubts ever about marriage. It was what we knew God wanted and intended us to do. We may have pushed up the wedding a few months because we didn't want to risk him getting deployed before getting married, but I don't consider that "for money." If I married Mike for money, I made a huge mistake! :lol He put me in debt that I had never been in, so you bet your butt I married for love! :lol

Nope...did not mary for money nor was it ever an option for me. Married for love and for love only.

Okay, maybe I should clarify...

Was money or is money ever a FACTOR in marriage or in past relationships?

I have never even dated anyone with money. Even in high school, it was me paying for everything, me with the money, my parents were the ones who were "rich." None of my ex boyfriends had jobs - so the only factor that money has been for me would be the factor of me getting upset with them for not being able to even take care of THEMSELVES let alone me! One main reason Mike joined the Army is so that he could take care of us. He makes many sacrifices for us in order to be able to have the $$ to get by. Granted we don't have much, he does make the sacrifices and I greatly appreciate that. And now I'm on a tangent that has nothing to do with this thread :lol Sorry!

i'd never marry for money only.

that being said, i will not marry someone who is not financially stable on their own. that shows lack of responsibility.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

Ohhhhhhh LOL!

So funny.

With the paycheck my husband brings home- I think it's fair to say- money wasn't involved.

Lol. I married for loveeeeeeee.

I don't think it's right to marry for money, but I know so many people that have or want to!

When dh and I were dating, this actually came up. We knew that if we got married, he would get more money because of BAH. We pondered it for like a second and Immediately i said NO WAY. NEVER would I marry because of money. I refused to marry him if money was in anyway a factor. We finally did get married about a year later, but it was because the time was right, not because of the money, because 6 months later he got out of the navy anyway, lol.

I would never marry for money alone. My husband will need to have some sort of job to help support us and our future children, but I'm going to marry for love! :)

I have never even dated anyone with money. Even in high school, it was me paying for everything, me with the money, my parents were the ones who were "rich." None of my ex boyfriends had jobs - so the only factor that money has been for me would be the factor of me getting upset with them for not being able to even take care of THEMSELVES let alone me! One main reason Mike joined the Army is so that he could take care of us. He makes many sacrifices for us in order to be able to have the $$ to get by. Granted we don't have much, he does make the sacrifices and I greatly appreciate that. And now I'm on a tangent that has nothing to do with this thread :lol Sorry!

I totally know what you're saying!

When I started dating Mike, he was gambling his paychecks on the golf course:lmao That was pre-Navy. He certainly did not have ANY money (due to his own stupidity and addiction) I probably would have married him then though, if I felt ready, because I was just so in love with him! I had faith he'd smarten up, now he's a saving type of guy and he would never gamble ever again (God willing!) So let's just say, money doesn't matter to me in relationships! :rofl

When dh and I were dating, this actually came up. We knew that if we got married, he would get more money because of BAH. We pondered it for like a second and Immediately i said NO WAY. NEVER would I marry because of money. I refused to marry him if money was in anyway a factor. We finally did get married about a year later, but it was because the time was right, not because of the money, because 6 months later he got out of the navy anyway, lol.

:yes We've actually been in that perdicament too. But decided to hold off A. because we weren't ready and B. because we knew we would be rushing the actual marriage (not marrying for money itself, but definetly speeding it along because of money)

Nope, I married a lower enlisted dude in the army...certainly not for his vast wealth. I believe one should only marry for love.

i voted no i never considered it because it wasn't a factor at this point in my life but perhaps if my situation was different, i was very poor and couldn't raise my station in life then i just might. in general i think someone should marry for love because wealth can go away

Nope!!!!
My family is well off so there was no need...

I am the only one who said YES?!?! Really? LMAO.

If Adam died, I would definitely marry for money. As long as it was understood that the marriage was based on money and neither one of us had to pretend it was love, then why not? Marriage is a legal contract and it is none of the governments damn business why I enter into a legal contract if it is legal. I don't know if I will ever find someone like Adam again, and even if I do if I will ever love anyone the way I love Adam so I won't rule out marrying for money.

I won't lie though... While I didn't marry Adam for his money since he was an E3 and didn't have any money, the fact that he is so smart and has the potential to make good money was a factor in why I chose to marry him. It was one of a LOT of factors, but it was one nonetheless. If I didn't love him I never would have married him, and if he was broke I would have still married him (obviously, since I did), so money was not a deal breaker or deciding factor with my decision to marry Adam. But, the fact that he has a skill that is unique to him is part of who he is, and that is one of the things that attracted me to him. The fact that he can eventually make a lot of money doing it is part of that.

Money is part of the world. Money is important like it or not. I think that anyone who marries with absolutely NO regard to their future financial affairs with the person they are marrying is probably being a little naive. Love can't fix everything. It definitely helps people WANT to fix the things that go wrong, but love on it's own won't make everything okay.

i'd never marry for money only.

that being said, i will not marry someone who is not financially stable on their own. that shows lack of responsibility.

I agree with this entirely. I would not want to marry someone that was not financially responsible for the sake of our future family. I think that fundamentally, I would have trouble falling for someone like that and basically my head would overrule my heart in the matter. Am I looking for someone wealthy? No, not necessarily. But will I settle for someone that can't hold a job or has significant debt? Absolutely not.

I wouldn't do it ONLY for money. But one criteria is that the guy isnt a deadbeat. I don't care about being rich. My husband is hardworking and so am I...so money is something but it's not like "Oh, I'm going to sex up that 102 year old billionaire." I want security.

I feel rich just having my husband and our little girl. Life doesn't get much better than that.

Nope, and I would never do it.

Negative.

No, and I would never marry outright for money, BUT it was a consideration for me that he be finanicially responsible because even if you are broke or rich you still gotta pay bills and know how to live life without making it worse.

i would never be with someone for money.

but i would break up with someone who was irresponsible with whatever money they happened to have.

Nope. Money doesnt equal happiness and my life goal is to be genuinly happy

eta: and im extremely happy with db now. :D

I agree with Wicked... while I did not marry hubby for money, I knew that he had potential for greatness. Money alone was not a factor.
I had a man in my life who I nearly married instead of hubby. He became a HUGE deal and has lived all over Europe... very rich life. A few years ago I had coffee with the woman he married (long, weird story) and she was miserable. He was never home, not for something as noble as a deployment - just out at clubs shmoozing. The bigger success he got, the more entitled he felt to cheat and whatnot. She started taking many antidepressants and he hired a nanny for HER! Then he left her for the nanny! (Ok, so I know a LOT of soap opera people). As I heard of all the little things that had happened to this woman, all I could think of was... that was almost me.
The point of this little horrid story is this... I married for many things, ambition was one of them. But that was tempered with knowing that the man I chose would be a good man. Money does not buy happiness, and it certainly won't make up for crappy sex or being treated like poo. Diamonds, fabulous houses, and Jimmy Choos are wonderful things and I would certainly love to have it all. But at the end of the day all the money in the world isn't going to give me the butterflies that hubby still gives me.

This was a discussion in my senior projects class. I was one of the very few that said never. I have always firmly believed that marriage is for two people who love eachother. If you are not getting married for love IMO you should not be allowed to get married at all.

We were engaged when DH left on his last deployment. Lots of people told us to go to the JOP before we left so that we could get the extra money. I never even considered it. I never wanted to have a doubt in my mind that we married for anything but love.

I married Jason for the money. So what? :dunno






































:rofl Kidding, of course :lol

Okay, maybe I should clarify...

Was money or is money ever a FACTOR in marriage or in past relationships?

Money has never been a factor when dating.

My whole thing when I was dating was they needed to have goals in life and a plan to get there. In the area I grew up in a lot of the young guys only wanted to get drunk and hang out all day, nothing like a cold 40 ounce at 9am. :giggle

When I started dating my hubby he was a lowly E-2 so you know money wasn't factor but together we are doing well. It took us a while to get where we wanted but we obtained our goals and now planning for retirement.

It would have been nice if he came with some money in the beginning but we wouldn't appreciate what we earned and worked hard for as much as we do now.

Money may be comforting for a while. But loneliness knows no monetary value.

I'm not married yet, but I will be soon and I have to say that I am definently not marrying for money. Money has only come up when we talk about being secure in our future and making sure that either he or the both of us can make a good life for us and our future kids.

I wouldn't marry for money. I'd honestly and truly have happiness over wealth any day...

LOL

HAHAH

Good one. When we married he was E-2. I did NOT marry for money, that's for sure.

No I did not marry for money, if something happens to my husband I might remarry for money. Arranged marriages worked better then the marrying for love, it is archaic but maybe there was something to it.

I am the only one who said YES?!?! Really? LMAO.

If Adam died, I would definitely marry for money. As long as it was understood that the marriage was based on money and neither one of us had to pretend it was love, then why not? Marriage is a legal contract and it is none of the governments damn business why I enter into a legal contract if it is legal. I don't know if I will ever find someone like Adam again, and even if I do if I will ever love anyone the way I love Adam so I won't rule out marrying for money.

I won't lie though... While I didn't marry Adam for his money since he was an E3 and didn't have any money, the fact that he is so smart and has the potential to make good money was a factor in why I chose to marry him. It was one of a LOT of factors, but it was one nonetheless. If I didn't love him I never would have married him, and if he was broke I would have still married him (obviously, since I did), so money was not a deal breaker or deciding factor with my decision to marry Adam. But, the fact that he has a skill that is unique to him is part of who he is, and that is one of the things that attracted me to him. The fact that he can eventually make a lot of money doing it is part of that.

Money is part of the world. Money is important like it or not. I think that anyone who marries with absolutely NO regard to their future financial affairs with the person they are marrying is probably being a little naive. Love can't fix everything. It definitely helps people WANT to fix the things that go wrong, but love on it's own won't make everything okay.


You said it better then me!

Many people marry for money. Marry to get money (tax breaks, benefits, etc), inherit money or to be spoiled by their spouse.

Did you? Did you ever think about it? Do you know people that have? Do you think it's good or bad?

I married my first ex b/c it was his idea since insurance would cover the pregnancy...That was a huge mistake! I wasn't thinking clearly and neither was he. We were scared & that was our first reaction.

:lol He's in the Navy...I surely didn't marry him for his money! Just love :)

I wouldn't...although if he had money you wouldn't hear me complaining. lol.

my roommate was with her finacee because he was rich. that didn't work out thankfully but i'm pretty sure she would have married him. it was a messed up situation.

Marrying for money is foolish IMO, it can disapear faster than one might think. Yes, it makes life more comfortable with modern conveniences but it can never buy love IMO. Also who can be truely satisfied in life with just money. The love DH and I share is truly amazing and I wouldn't trade it for all the money in the world. There is no way I married for money given that DH is in the Navy.

:lmao my first reaction was she's asking this on a military so board?! but it's an interesting question. i agree with wicked completely on this one. the notion of simply marrying for love is a nice one but a lot of factors go into a relationship and what makes it work and what doesn't, and i think it's unrealistic to assume that money doesn't have some small part of it. i would have never agreed to marry df if i didn't think he could provide for me (or i for him which is probably how it'll end up anyways lol).

I agree s.rosa, it's very interesting! I have friends that are all about money when they are looking for a spouse, it confuses the hell out of me.

I know it might have been weird to ask on a military SO board, given our military aren't really paid amazing amounts, but it is a steady paycheck and provides a home for spouses to live in, and for some people, that's a reason to get married. People who had very unstable or low finances growing up, just food to eat and a place to live is new and HUGE to them. Not saying that all people who came from low-class families marry into the military for money, but it's a possibilty for a minor percentage, I'm sure-but there's probably other factors as well. :)

I married for love...but my "first love" had money, and I stayed with him a tad longer because of his money.