to AVOID discussing these topics???

Religion
Politics
Abortion
Gay marriage
Issues involving Race
The death penaltyThey only bring anger and hostility to the people discussing them.....

very true. very very true

I absolutely agree. Some things don't have solutions, and they never will so why bother talking about it over and over.

Apparently some people are ignorant in those departments...

I agree, there will never be "solutions" and only hurt feelings.

We've recently had ALL of those topics on the board too.

I don't think there is anything wrong with discussing them. It's just frustrating when people get all bent out of shape when others don't agree with them or have different feelings. Then names start flying and the crapola hits the fan :lol

:yes :yes :yes

Those are things that once your opinion is SET - it is SET for good. Not much can change it, and certainly not a feeble debate on a message board. It's more like two sides hashing out their hatred for the other side, which does more harm than good.

There shouldnt have to be solutions. We should all be grown up enough to discuss things that are touchy. But not everyone who asks for thoughts or opinions is mature enough to take all of them no matter what. No one should get put down or jumped on because they have a different opinion or beliefs than anyone else. Just because I may not agree with everyone doesnt make me hate them or think less of them as a person. Feeling end up getting way too hurt in some of these debates because some people cant help but get personal or defensive and its a shame that we as adults cant debate like adults should.

My mother told me to be open and honest with my feelings, thoughts......If we can't discuss those above it's time to shut the boards down and go back to watching tv w/o remotes :lmao This country was built on those same discussions and will continue :D

No actually, lol, my momma never told me not to discuss anything. She just didn't want us talking about poop and stuff at the dinner table, LOL

My mother told me to be open and honest with my feelings, thoughts......If we can't discuss those above it's time to shut the boards down and go back to watching tv w/o remotes :lmao This country was built on those same discussions and will continue :D

That's what MY Mommy said! :giggle

Well the thing about debate is you have to go into it knowing not everyone is going to agree with you. And you can respectfully explore each others beliefs. You don't have to get on the defense and think of it as someone challenging what you believe, instead you could think of it as someone wanting to know why you believe or don't believe in an issue or what have you. And both sides should respectfully agree to disagree because most often you are not going to change what someone believes and you shouldn't try. Whether you think they are right or wrong they believe what they believe and they have the right to feel that way. So these issues are not taboo, they just need to be approached with maturity and leave aggression out of it.

Well the thing about debate is you have to go into it knowing not everyone is going to agree with you. And you can respectfully explore each others beliefs. You don't have to get on the defense and think of it as someone challenging what you believe, instead you could think of it as someone wanting to know why you believe or don't believe in an issue or what have you. And both sides should respectfully agree to disagree because most often you are not going to change what someone believes and you shouldn't try. Whether you think they are right or wrong they believe what they believe and they have the right to feel that way. So these issues are not taboo, they just need to be approached with maturity and leave aggression out of it.

exactly. if you don't want other opinions or think that people who differ in opinion from you are evil or close minded and ignorant don't ask

exactly. if you don't want other opinions or think that people who differ in opinion from you are evil or close minded and ignorant don't ask

bingoooooo

If you don't want to hear opinions on the above listed topics...don't open those threads. There! problem solved!

If you don't want to hear opinions on the above listed topics...don't open those threads. There! problem solved!

:eek

A novel idea :yes

No, my mom taught me to be an adult so that I could discuss things like that without getting my panties in a bunch. There's nothing wrong with a discussion.

No, my mom taught me to be an adult so that I could discuss things like that without getting my panties in a bunch. There's nothing wrong with a discussion.

Your mom taught you well. But unfortunatley it does get peoples panties in a bunch when they are so busy calling everyone ignorant around them for their OPINIONS that they fail to realize they are doing the EXACT same thing that they are accusing other people of, failing to look outside their own box.

True, I just don't let it get my panties in a bunch because I realize that whoever is calling me ignorant is just as ignorant :lol Such sweet irony.

True, I just don't let it get my panties in a bunch because I realize that whoever is calling me ignorant is just as ignorant :lol Such sweet irony.

YUP!! : And some days those big girl panties get a little more work out than others. :P

I thought you weren't supposed to discuss those with guests at dinner???

I think it's natural to be passionate when discussing those topics, but you always have to remember you can't make everyone else change their minds. I think the debates are great, very interesting to see how other people think.

I think minds can be changed I used to be pro-life and through debate along with reading up on it I am now pro-choice.

As long as the big girl panties are on everyone should be fine.

I don't wear big girl panties.

I don't wear panties at all if I can help it :rofl

I don't wear big girl panties.

I don't wear panties at all if I can help it :rofl


come on.. you know you wear little mermaid panties... :lol

No, my mom never told me that...

She told me to stand for what I believe in, no matter if its different from someone else's views/opinions, but have an open mind as well.
I don't believe there will ever be solutions to some of those issues, but that doesn't mean they have to be closed for discussion either.



She did, however, tell me never to borrow money from friends or family.

I would never discuss such things at the metaphorical dinner table but I think a debating arena is fair game...

Some people just don't get it.

Some people just don't get it.

Was that aimed at me?

I would never discuss such things at the metaphorical dinner table but I think a debating arena is fair game...

exactly.

You wouldnt meet new inlaws or something and say "so, how about that God thing, or what about George Bush?"

I mean, it is one thing to not discuss them in "mixed company" but to go to a "place" (like the news and debates section) to debate, is not wrong.

And honestly, I think it is ridiculous that people call debate threads "drama" or say the threads shouldnt be started. It is not the original posts that are the problem it is the reactions and the way they are presented.

exactly.

You wouldnt meet new inlaws or something and say "so, how about that God thing, or what about George Bush?"

I mean, it is one thing to not discuss them in "mixed company" but to go to a "place" (like the news and debates section) to debate, is not wrong.

And honestly, I think it is ridiculous that people call debate threads "drama" or say the threads shouldnt be started. It is not the original posts that are the problem it is the reactions and the way they are presented.

I agree with you on this one very much, and I have often wondered the same. I have also wondered why people have to get so emotional about something that is in the debate threads, but I suppose everyone gets emotional about certain things.

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I agree with you on this one very much, and I have often wondered the same. I have also wondered why people have to get so emotional about something that is in the debate threads, but I suppose everyone gets emotional about certain things.

because names and mean words get thrown around simply because people can't agree to disagree

My mum told me to think for myself and choose my own path and to heck with those that tell me that path might lead to a certain overheated underground domain. She said to analyze everything, learn my history and make educated decisions. That bitch, now I do WAY too much research on EVERYTHING.

She also told me to make SURE I temper the eggs before adding them to the avogolemono OR ELSE!!!

She did, however, tell me never to borrow money from friends or family.

Your mother is very wise.

My mum told me to think for myself and choose my own path and to heck with those that tell me that path might lead to a certain overheated underground domain. She said to analyze everything, learn my history and make educated decisions. That bitch, now I do WAY too much research on EVERYTHING.

She also told me to make SURE I temper the eggs before adding them to the avogolemono OR ELSE!!!

This whole post made me laugh :rofl ESPECIALLY the bolded part :rofl

There are certain threads and topics that I just choose not to open and/or discuss with people. I know how passionate I can get about things and honestly I just don't feel like reading/hearing other people's opinions sometimes. There are times when I feel like debate and times when I don't.

Hence...my free will to either read/discuss or just pass it on by.

What I find ironic about this thread is that people posting they shouldn't be discussed are the very ones that have been involved with discussion.

What I find ironic about this thread is that people posting they shouldn't be discussed are the very ones that have been involved with discussion.

:lol that's true actually. *raises hand* guilty

What I find ironic about this thread is that people posting they shouldn't be discussed are the very ones that have been involved with discussion.

Just depends on my mood. I'm complex and stuff. :giggle

I think that a group of women should be able to discuss any subject without being rude and offensive. Everyone has their own opinions and ideas about subjects and who I am to tell you that mine is better then yours. If I do not agree with your point of view I will hear you out and then move on. I am will not let someone else opinion alter my lifestyle.

I have a open mind and a open heart, feel free to discuss anything with me. :)

if we could agree to disagree, to some extent these topics need to be discussed because they are a part of our culture. it's important to have a broad understanding of these topics and appreciate different views.

What I find ironic about this thread is that people posting they shouldn't be discussed are the very ones that have been involved with discussion.

I really, really try not to get overemotional on them at least! :lol