do you stay put or do you move "back home" with family?

I've done both - I'm not sure which I prefer.

We stay put. I couldnt imagine any other way.

I always lived within 15 minutes off my mom, lol. I'm extremely independent though, I never had a reason to move back home, i would have gone insane if I did :P I lived alone before dh, I did fine when he was gone.

see i cant decide! lol. my family is pretty psycho and they always drive me crazy, but i tend to seclude and isolate myself, so i just dont really know what to do. We are pcsing by august 1st to ft hood texas from maine, but dh is deploying in nov/dec. tough decision. its nice to have all of your perspectives though, it helps to sort things out :yes

We stay put. I couldnt imagine any other way.

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IMO it's our home. Why would I leave it? Him leaving all the time is our way of life and I am very use to it so I prefer to keep my own house. I also think it's more stable for my kids. I know alot of SO's who move back with hteir family.

I have always stayed put. I am always involved in things that keep me busy. And since I have made the commitments I like to keep them.

My first and so far only, I moved back home. I was about to have a baby and I didn't want to be across the country by myself with a newborn.

I would NEVER move home with family, if we already had a home before he left.

I will be staying put! I can go home to visit, but my Mother alone would drive me insane, plus I have Sophie and I can't just throw her on a plane anyday to take her home! We have our home here. I wouldn't be able to sleep in another bed and would want to be near where he was and where we have all our memories together! Also I'm hoping to have a job and try to get into school so I can't just leave here!! I've got my own little family out here!!!! (Katie :wink)

Well I sorta stay home. I go see family for a few weeks but my stuff stays put.

hmmm..seems as though hubby was right lol. he keeps telling me it's a bad idea to move back home...and most of you are telling me that too...guess i'll just have to make some friends in texas, join some groups, and have some fun to keep myself busy lol.

I chose to stay here, but we live where I was raised so no big deal there. I know women who stayed with family at the begining of this deployment and they quickly moved back here.:hehe

I'd probably feel the same way. It's one thing to live near my family but it's quite another to live WITH my family.

I didn't even see moving as an option. I AM home. My parents have a home but its not my home anymore. I chose to get involved with stuff, set goals for myself. I've met lots of ladies from here and someone is always willing to do something. I have my kids and they keep me plenty busy. If for some reason I ended up moving to my parents house I'd go crazy.

I would never move home with my family. I'd go insane if I did and I don't think I'd survive the deployment.

I'll stay put. Home is where we make it...I would go back for a visit maybe, but my life is here, not in Utah. I'd rather be surrounded by people who understand what a deployment truly means too

IF i had kids/dog etc then i would stay put. being that we have no kids or a dog or anything else i would most deffinently move home (i live at home right now) but if we had our life together and obligations etc somewhere else then i would stay. i need my family though, their support etc has been wonderful throughout this whole deployment.

hmmm..seems as though hubby was right lol. he keeps telling me it's a bad idea to move back home...and most of you are telling me that too...guess i'll just have to make some friends in texas, join some groups, and have some fun to keep myself busy lol.

You could always stay at home with the option to go and visit family for a while if things get too tough for you.

When he was on sea duty last time (back in TX) we were near my family, so I stayed put, but went to visit... I'd go to my mom's for a week or two whenever I felt like it, and was at my dad's almost every weekend.

This next sea tour, I won't have that option, we'll most likely be here in San Diego, and DD will be in school. So I'll be staying put.

I stay put but I go stay with my parents for about month and plan on doing it this time around as well as go stay with his mom for a while.

oh no no lol i wouldnt live WITH my family, haha noooo way, i'd move back to town and live near them. lol But i would be with them a lot obviously. SOrry, i phrased that wrong when i posted this thread. But I am starting to see the whole picture now because i think you all are right about seeing it as "our home" and how all the people around me will truly know what a deployment is like. my family definitely doesnt, well, except my grandmother because my grandpa was in the airforce and served in vietnam. but she's just crazy and wicked oldschool, so she bugs me a lot lol.

I stay put.

I went home for four months of our first deployment. I didn't want to have our baby alone so we drove home. The rest of my time there was just waiting for a opening in housing. I won't do it again. The kids are in schools now, so we just go visit. Last deployment we went to visit for a month. I will probably go visit again for a month next summer too.

originally dh was supposed to be deployed just over the summer, and i planned to live with my mom for 3 months. but schedules changed :rolleyes and now i'm staying in va

Moved Back home and living with the in-laws and love it!!!! No kids.. so what's the point in staying when I can get a better job up here and be around all my family and friends(I grew up here) :)

I stayed in NC last time and this one coming up. I went to visit my parents but I week was enough. I have my cats to take care of and don't want others taking care of them that long. I plan to go to FL when he is deployed for a week.

My family is my husband and kids, so I don't go anywhere when he leaves. There'd be nowhere to go.

We stayed put. This time we tried to move to where his family was since we were getting lewis anyway (they are 4 hours from lewis give or take) but the army wouldn't pay for us to move until our official PCS so we stayed here. I wish I could have gotten things settled up there before he came home. Because now we have to have him come home and PCS within a month of that. Anyway we stay put, even when I was in germany.