Jesse and I were planning a wedding but then things happened and we got married the day he graduated bootcamp in Georgia. So now we are planning a wedding for when he comes in this time:cp So I just wanted to know how everyone else done it or is doing it???

we did something similar to you. we did the JP on his summer leave and then did a big ceremony and everything. it worked out just fine, we didn't publicize the fact we did JP though

I don't know how religious you are or anything, but a church ceremony was extremely important to us. At the same time, everyone knew we had already been to the JP. It turns out that in our pastor's ceremony book, there was a ceremony that was specifically for this kind of thing. It recognized that we were married in a legal ceremony but wanted the blessing of our church and family. We also did a hand blessing and a ring blessing at the end. It was absolutely perfect for us. :) (L)

I don't know how religious you are or anything, but a church ceremony was extremely important to us. At the same time, everyone knew we had already been to the JP. It turns out that in our pastor's ceremony book, there was a ceremony that was specifically for this kind of thing. It recognized that we were married in a legal ceremony but wanted the blessing of our church and family. We also did a hand blessing and a ring blessing at the end. It was absolutely perfect for us. :) (L)


thats what I want.

We were engaged for 14 months before we got married.
Personally, I think it's pointless to have a JOP wedding, that's for the majority a secret, then turn around a couple months later and have a big ceremony. It's something I don't understand the logic behind. That's my personal opinion, which I don't hold it against anyone who does it.

We were engaged for 14 months before we got married.
Personally, I think it's pointless to have a JOP wedding, that's for the majority a secret, then turn around a couple months later and have a big ceremony. It's something I don't understand the logic behind. That's my personal opinion, which I don't hold it against anyone who does it.

we did it that way because the church wedding was in the works already but for logistical reasons.

We were engaged for 14 months before we got married.
Personally, I think it's pointless to have a JOP wedding, that's for the majority a secret, then turn around a couple months later and have a big ceremony. It's something I don't understand the logic behind. That's my personal opinion, which I don't hold it against anyone who does it.


i feel the same way. but then again, that's just my personal preference, like jennie said, i don't hold it against anyone if it is/was their choice.

We were engaged for 14 months before we got married.
Personally, I think it's pointless to have a JOP wedding, that's for the majority a secret, then turn around a couple months later and have a big ceremony. It's something I don't understand the logic behind. That's my personal opinion, which I don't hold it against anyone who does it.

We did it because his joining the Army happened fairly quickly, and we wanted to be married before he left for basic. We weren't secret about it at all. We had the church ceremony because, as I said in my earlier post, it was important to us to have the blessing of our church and our families.

We did it because his joining the Army happened fairly quickly, and we wanted to be married before he left for basic. We weren't secret about it at all. We had the church ceremony because, as I said in my earlier post, it was important to us to have the blessing of our church and our families.

i believe she was referring to my comment on not publicizing it

We were engaged for about 6 months and planned our big wedding in that time (I was taking time off from school and DH was finishing up training), got married in the church I always wanted to get married in (the one my parents, grandparents, brother were married in and the one I was baptized in). It was a smallish ceremony...nothing fancy. Just about 150 people were invited. We spent about 1/2 or less of the "average" wedding, but for us, it was perfect.

I wasn't referring to anyone's comment(s). That's my feelings on the subject and would have said it regardless of what was already said. I don't need an explaination as to why you did what you did either..

We were engaged for 14 months before we got married.
Personally, I think it's pointless to have a JOP wedding, that's for the majority a secret, then turn around a couple months later and have a big ceremony. It's something I don't understand the logic behind. That's my personal opinion, which I don't hold it against anyone who does it.

I dont see anything wrong with it...We done it because he wanted me to go to Germany with him and thats why....but the sad thing is I wasnt able to even go(long story):hah:lol and the reason I laugh is because we didnt have to rush it cause it got us nowhere...I wouldnt have a wedding now but I have already went & bought my dress and bridesmaid and flower girls dresses and on and on before we even knew we were going to do that....so why not have the wedding I always wanted....and I want to do it in the chruch

I married at the courhouse, wanted to plan a wedding, but got pregnant and decided not to go forth w/ it...

I wasn't referring to anyone's comment(s). That's my feelings on the subject and would have said it regardless of what was already said. I don't need an explaination as to why you did what you did either..

i wasn't saying anything bad i was just saying that you were probably commenting on what i said :)

we got engaged in october and planned to have a summer wedding in june. well then we found out a week alter that he was being sent to japan. they told us if we got married before he left he would only have to be gone 6 months instead of 2 years. so we worked really fast and had a small wedding in a park a week before he left and planned still have a big one when he got back in 6 months. well they lied. he has to be over there for 2 years. which means no wedding until he gets back. i have a huge family and none of them got to be there cause it was so soon. by big i mean 7 siblings their spouses and 13 nieces and nephews. some of them are still mad at me for it. so in a year and a half when he comes home we'll plan a big wedding for everyone. besides my first wedding was basically his mothers. she is a control freak and made us do everything what she wanted. she wanted to buy my dress for that wedding since it was off the rack the day before. well i just wanted a simple dress not a white one. i wanted to wear the white one for our big wedding i already have it picked out. but she threw a fit until i agreed to get a white one i was so mad. anyway thats our story. lol

Not religious, never grew up dreaming of a wedding like many do. Give me my man, and I'm good, haha.

Got married in a courthouse, don't plan on having a wedding. To us, it would be a waste of money and just for show.

I put we married at a courthouse, didnt want to have a wedding! We eloped in Vegas!!

we did it the traditional way. engaged 13 months, planned a big formal wedding at a church, and did it for real just as planned. i understand why some girls did the JOP thing but it wasn't for me.

We had a courthouse wedding and was planning to have a real wedding after we both graduated Nuke Power School. That didn't happen thanks to me ex boyfriend calling my parents and telling them on the night that we got married that we did get married. Then they said that if we wanted a real wedding we had to pay for it ourselves.

To make a long story short about that, I was dating very seriously my ex-boyfriend at the time and i found out that he was also dating someone else at the same time. I told him that he had to decide who he wanted to be with. He didn't decide in time, so I decided for him.

I was asked on friday night what I was planning to do and my DH said that I was going out with him. That is how it got started with the dating and 6 weeks later we got married. And we have been happily married for going on 12 years this December.

I'll stop with my soap opera story. :jump4joy

We've been engaged 19 months and are planning a wedding in our church. We're waiting to get settled in our careers and our identities before we tie the knot. So far, long-term engagement has been awesome. It works for us.

We got married at a justice of the peace, and we are not going to fake our way through a wedding. We're going to have a renewal of the vows ceremony on our 10th anniversary, because that's really something to celebrate in our opinions. :)

We got married at the JOP. I was 4 months pg with our daughter so it was a hurry up and do it type thing. We talked about having a wedding some day. But now there is just too much other stuff going on and other stuff we want our money to go to. If we would have a "wedding" it would be to renew our vows at say our 15/20/25 year anniversary.

we are not going to fake our way through a wedding.

what do you mean by this???

How about other.....we got married at our home with a Justice of the Peace. Only had about a dozen folks attend. It was in Maine, his family is from Texas...so it was some of my family and a couple friends...his family didn't meet me until after we were married..but that was ok. I was on the phone with his mom all the time and she's great!

We were engaged 13 months, had our big wedding, and our now planning our religious wedding..not something a lot of people will go to, it's only for us....and is a very separate thing than being married by my bishop(LDS girls will understand).

We did a last minute wedding..we were going to do the courthouse but I wanted to wear a wedding dress so we did something..but we are still planning a big dream wedding.

married at a courthouse and didn't have a wedding.

We got married about 3 weeks before he left for a 6-month deployment. Neither of us really cared for a big fuss...just got married at our house(by a JoP) with some friends and my family on a Saturday morning! It was great!!