Hey guys. Okay, so I honestly think that i may be pregnant. Im about 3 weeks late, and i tested about a week ago. It was negative. Part of me is hoping that its just stress thats delaying my period, though. Either way I know that I would be "fine" with it....but my big issue is that I am to the point with Arianna that I would feel sort of guilty having another baby. Does that make sense?

I know that I do want more children. I want her to have brothers/sisters, but we were planning on waiting another year or so.

She will be 4 in october, and shes my little mini-me. :) We do everything together and I am so afraid of losing that or making her feel left out. Anyone else ever felt that? How did you get over it?

Thanks ladies!! (oh and DH is out of town til tues so I am going to wait to retest when he gets home if i dont start)

I'm sure if you are and you stress that she will be a Big Sister then things could change. From what I'm told you can love the second and third JUST as much as the first.

:hugs

You just kinda get over it. i DID feel guilty for Ethan but at the same time I knew I was giving him a great gift. A sibling. Ethan is still a mama's boy. The adjust was a bit hard at first but he LOVES his baby sister. Your heart grows. Thats the best way to explain it. You do not love your other children any less nor do you love your new children any less. Your heart grows and expans. I love both my kids equally. They are my life

At first I felt bad with db's youger kids having a new sibling because the youngest is still so young. But the twins especially are warming up to the idea of being big sisters again and having a new brother. Kacie right now doesn't understand but I know that she'll love someone close to her age. Her and the twins are 3 yrs and 3 months apart so they are always doing things she can't. I hope this baby and her can be just as close :)

No I never felt guilty, I was glad they would be close together. I just made sure I gave Madison plenty of attention during the pregnancy, explained things to her, and after Hayden came I still spent time with just her. She loves having a little brother. Heck half the time if we don't take him somewhere she gets mad.

Oh there is no reason to feel guilty....later on she will be happier to have a sibling to share things with than to be an only child-

And I wouldnt count on that you are pregnant it very well could be stress I havnt had a period since April 27th - I tested a few weeks ago and it was negative as well

You shouldn't feel guilty. Having siblings is one of the best things about growing up. They annoy, you get jealous but you are giving her an awesome friend. Someone who will help her out through anything.

I absolutely worried about it my whole pregnancy with my second child. I cried for my oldest, thought "What have we done? She's my baby, she's not going to get all my attention anymore, she's not going to understand!" And I was worried about the new baby, how could I possibly love him as much as I loved her?

And as soon as my son was born, I realized my fears were all for nothing. I didn't love my daughter any less, and I loved my new son just as much, my heart just grew and there was enough love to go around.

I absolutely worried about it my whole pregnancy with my second child. I cried for my oldest, thought "What have we done? She's my baby, she's not going to get all my attention anymore, she's not going to understand!" And I was worried about the new baby, how could I possibly love him as much as I loved her?

And as soon as my son was born, I realized my fears were all for nothing. I didn't love my daughter any less, and I loved my new son just as much, my heart just grew and there was enough love to go around.

:yes very well said!

I think about that sometimes.

That's one reason I'd really like a boy so that way she can be our "little girl" and have that "girly" attention all for herself.

I won't know how to handle this kind of situation until we have our other kid. I imagine it's just like what everyone has said, but like you, I still worry.

We're in the same boat. My baby just turned 1 and everyone is asking when she is going to get a lil brother or sister! I'm like she's at the point now when we wear matching clothes I don't want to give that up. lol But I really know how you feel. She's my baby and my hubby wants to try for another one when she turns 2 but I want to wait at least till she hits 3...i just dunno. :(

I worry about another child and that is why we don't have it yet. I think it is normal to be worried because it is a change and we all know how kids and changes go.

I worry about the emotional stability and will my children be any different from my husband and his brother. They reallly don't like each other and there is so much anger there.

Thanks ladies for the advice :) Ill keep you posted on if we are/arent right now. I know that this is something that i will have to deal with eventually anyway, so its nice to know im not alone. Ive always known I wanted her to have siblings, but we have had 4 whole years together- shed be nearly 5 or older before another one comes along. Ahhhh! Its a hard feeling for me. Even though i know that I will love my children equally and my heart will grow, I just dont want her to initially feel like shes not enough for me. Oh well. Like my husband said, its not our plan anyway. So, if God blesses us with a child now or 5 years from now, we will be grateful. Thanks ladies!