condone masturbation?

Masturbation is a healthy and normal act. Everyone has done it. Most children at VERY young ages do this as a way to "get to know" their bodys. Hell Ethan pulls on his penis. Its new, its wierd, and he wants to know what it is! This can be considered masturabtion. As can a very young girl who is exploring her body and trying to figure out what things are. Would I say to my kids "Hey go masterbate!" Ummm no. But if I were to catch them in the act about the only thing I could do is have the sex talk with em and make sure they understand about their body and sex.

Why not? It's totally natural, I just don't want to know when they are doing it. (as long as they clean up after themselves... ewwww)

Masturbation is a healthy and normal act. Everyone has done it. Most children at VERY young ages do this as a way to "get to know" their bodys. Hell Ethan pulls on his penis. Its new, its wierd, and he wants to know what it is! This can be considered masturabtion. As can a very young girl who is exploring her body and trying to figure out what things are. Would I say to my kids "Hey go masterbate!" Ummm no. But if I were to catch them in the act about the only thing I could do is have the sex talk with em and make sure they understand about their body and sex.

i feel the same way. if i caught my child doing it i'd say this is something you do in private not in public, you don't talk about it, etc etc.

i feel the same way. if i caught my child doing it i'd say this is something you do in private not in public, you don't talk about it, etc etc.
Exactly.

I would sure as hell rather my 17 year old son masturbate then sleeping with some 15 year old girl in junior high, and getting charged for statuatory rape.

And I would much rather my daughter masturbating then sleeping with some stupid little dweeb who thinks hes sooo cool because he can drive his car and then gets her pregnant because "condoms are for losers".

Yes- ofcourse I condone masturbation! It's natural. And it's relatively safe!

Hmm, that's an interesting question, I never thought about masturbation as having to be condoned. I don't have kids, but I think if I caught my child masturbating, I wouldn't scold them or tell them it was wrong, i would just talk to them about it and answer any questions they might have about things going on with their body

Yes...in the privacy of his/her own room.

I agree with everything that has been said

i feel the same way. if i caught my child doing it i'd say this is something you do in private not in public, you don't talk about it, etc etc.

Yep. Which is what we are teaching Ethan now. That its ok to touch his body. But not in public. If you teach them that it is not ok to touch their body they can become very self concious about their bodys. And I dont want that. They need to learn. I have no problems with it what so over. But its something to be done in private.

see i've brought this up because i know alot of people who think it's a dirty nasty act. kwim

Masturbation is a healthy and normal act. Everyone has done it. Most children at VERY young ages do this as a way to "get to know" their bodys. Hell Ethan pulls on his penis. Its new, its wierd, and he wants to know what it is! This can be considered masturabtion. As can a very young girl who is exploring her body and trying to figure out what things are. Would I say to my kids "Hey go masterbate!" Ummm no. But if I were to catch them in the act about the only thing I could do is have the sex talk with em and make sure they understand about their body and sex.

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see i've brought this up because i know alot of people who think it's a dirty nasty act. kwim

Then those folks need to take a Human Sexuality class at their local community college...

Then those folks need to take a Human Sexuality class at their local community college...
and a Passion Party thrown in their honor...

and a Passion Party thrown in their honor...

:hystericlaugh :tu

I saw this post and remembered this video from a bajillion years ago - and it's on the internet! We had to see this in 8th grade.

This vid is kind of offensive.. remove kids!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwgvfp3jlvc

Anyway, I would be more freaked out if my kids DIDN'T masturbate at all.. THAT is unnatural to me.

LOL @ the video. Vintage :P

I would have been like "oh my, um sorry, oh shit, um err just gunna leave now............"

ITA with all that has been said.

No problem with it here!!

It is a natural act as long as they are doing it in the privacy of their own room then it is none of my concern.

Masturbation is a healthy and normal act. Everyone has done it. Most children at VERY young ages do this as a way to "get to know" their bodys. Hell Ethan pulls on his penis. Its new, its wierd, and he wants to know what it is! This can be considered masturabtion. As can a very young girl who is exploring her body and trying to figure out what things are. Would I say to my kids "Hey go masterbate!" Ummm no. But if I were to catch them in the act about the only thing I could do is have the sex talk with em and make sure they understand about their body and sex.

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I agree with everyone on this! It's totally normal, as long as it's done in the right place at the right time.

LOL @ the video. Vintage :P

I would have been like "oh my, um sorry, oh shit, um err just gunna leave now............"


lol! I would have said the same thing Simmy. That was a little creepy how calm she was. lol!!!
I have no problem with it as long as it is in their own room

there was a HUGE blowout on a livejournal community about this a week or two ago.

i haven't noticed the girls showing any interest in their bodies really (they're 3.5 and 2), but as long as they're in the privacy of their own rooms they can explore away (not together. you kwim).

Absolutely. Healthy attitudes about masturbation are essential to healthy attitudes about sex later in life.

I agree with everyone else. In private, in their own room...cool.

I agree with everyone else.

There's nothing wrong with it, so IMO, there is nothing for me to condone or not to condone. I have a son, and I know its inevitable for this to happen, which is a completely natural thing that he will end up doing.

would you feel differently if it was a daughter over a son

I saw this post and remembered this video from a bajillion years ago - and it's on the internet! We had to see this in 8th grade.

This vid is kind of offensive.. remove kids!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwgvfp3jlvc

Anyway, I would be more freaked out if my kids DIDN'T masturbate at all.. THAT is unnatural to me.

lol THAT VIDEO WAS FUNNY!

I don't think i would say anything but um ok and close the door. I would have the sex talk pretty soon after that...

"it felt good didn't it..." WTF???!! lol that mom is creepy!

would you feel differently if it was a daughter over a son

Nope. It is healthy for a girl or a boy. I would have no problem with either or

i was asking because alot of people said son or he kwim?

I would much rather my daughter masturbate than come home pregnant at 14

I would much rather my son masturbate than go out and have sex and get a girl pregnant.


As long as they arent whipping it out in front of me they can do it all they want.

i was asking because alot of people said son or he kwim?

Well, I only have 1 child, and he's a boy, so I just have to comment on what I have. LOL :lol

But, if I did have a daughter, then I'd be completely fine with it too. Its a natural thing for either sex to want to do.

What a great topic Jill...


Yes...in the privacy of his/her own room.

:agree

I caught DS playing with his private parts a few years ago on the couch. I didn't make a big deal out of it, I just told him that he needed to go in his bedroom and shut the door like everybody else.

I'd never tell him that it was "dirty" or "wrong"..

Yes...in the privacy of his/her own room.


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No, I wouldn't condone it. It's natural. I'd much rather they masturbate than have sex.

No, I wouldn't condone it. It's natural. I'd much rather they masturbate than have sex.

con·done (kən-dōn') pronunciation
tr.v., -doned, -don·ing, -dones.

To overlook, forgive, or disregard (an offense) without protest or censure.

I think you mean you would condone it. I wouldn't have a problem with it, but if I walked in on it I sure as hell wouldn't stick around. I wouldn't run out like they were doing something shameful or bad, I'd be calm and say something. Like maybe "Sorry to disturb you, I will knock from now on." or something like that. Then I would have a discussion about it later.

Nope. It is healthy for a girl or a boy. I would have no problem with either or

I mentioned Ethan because he is older. Ashley isnt old enough to of found her areas

I agree with everyone else. I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as they did it in private. I rather my kids (when I have them) do that then go out and have sex. With sex you have the chance of getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant.

Masturbation is a healthy and normal act. Everyone has done it. Most children at VERY young ages do this as a way to "get to know" their bodys. Hell Ethan pulls on his penis. Its new, its wierd, and he wants to know what it is! This can be considered masturabtion. As can a very young girl who is exploring her body and trying to figure out what things are. Would I say to my kids "Hey go masterbate!" Ummm no. But if I were to catch them in the act about the only thing I could do is have the sex talk with em and make sure they understand about their body and sex.

Val is getting to the point where she is touching herself too. Not out of pleasure, but its more of a "its there" thing. I just ask her if her hands are clean, tell her she only does that at home and NOBODY else touches her ever. I try to stress that in a way thats not stressing it, but I am not going to condone masterbation, I'm just going to do my best not to be embarrassed or angry if I catch her. Just talk to her about it.

Val is getting to the point where she is touching herself too. Not out of pleasure, but its more of a "its there" thing. I just ask her if her hands are clean, tell her she only does that at home and NOBODY else touches her ever. I try to stress that in a way thats not stressing it, but I am not going to condone masterbation, I'm just going to do my best not to be embarrassed or angry if I catch her. Just talk to her about it.

Why would you be angry?

Why would you be angry?

I wouldnt be angy, I guess i just worded my post wrong. and even if I would be angry...nevermind. I wouldnt be angry okay.



I just dont have any experience in walking in on my child masterbating, so I dont know what I'd do. I dont think its wrong or gross, but I've never had to deal with it. I know I'd be angry if I walked in on her having sex. but anyway there is my explanation. Happy?

as long as they are discreet about it :lol I mean, I don't want to hear them moaning in their room or anything, so as long as I don't know it's going on, then I could care less :P

Yep. Which is what we are teaching Ethan now. That its ok to touch his body. But not in public. If you teach them that it is not ok to touch their body they can become very self concious about their bodys. And I dont want that. They need to learn. I have no problems with it what so over. But its something to be done in private.

Same here. DD had a labia adhesion when she was around 1. I had to gently (and I did it very gently cuz I was so afraid of hurting her) apply a hormone cream to that external area with a q-tip to clear it up so she could urinate and drain properly (it was a prescription med her Dr. gave me). Anyway, ever since then she realized there was sensation down there and regularly "explores" during diaper changes (or when she escapes from her diaper and runs around the house naked).

DH and I discussed it and we know she's really young but we don't want to mess her up or make her think there's anything wrong with it. And we think she's aware so young due to that medical problem she'd had. So we just ignore it when she's doing it or remind her that's something to do at home when we don't have guests and leave it at that.

Masturbation is a healthy and normal act. Everyone has done it. Most children at VERY young ages do this as a way to "get to know" their bodys. Hell Ethan pulls on his penis. Its new, its wierd, and he wants to know what it is! This can be considered masturabtion. As can a very young girl who is exploring her body and trying to figure out what things are. Would I say to my kids "Hey go masterbate!" Ummm no. But if I were to catch them in the act about the only thing I could do is have the sex talk with em and make sure they understand about their body and sex.

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I wouldnt be angy, I guess i just worded my post wrong. and even if I would be angry...nevermind. I wouldnt be angry okay.



I just dont have any experience in walking in on my child masterbating, so I dont know what I'd do. I dont think its wrong or gross, but I've never had to deal with it. I know I'd be angry if I walked in on her having sex. but anyway there is my explanation. Happy?

Veronica I know you and I don't often see eye to eye however I want you to know I wasn't attacking you. I was just asking because I honestly wondered. If you think you would be angry or rahter shocked that is a-ok. I was not judging you at all. Just being nosy.

I wouldn't have a problem with that.

Veronica I know you and I don't often see eye to eye however I want you to know I wasn't attacking you. I was just asking because I honestly wondered. If you think you would be angry or rahter shocked that is a-ok. I was not judging you at all. Just being nosy.

sorry :blush thought you were gonna tell me how close minded I am that I might have been angry.

Val is getting to the point where she is touching herself too. Not out of pleasure, but its more of a "its there" thing. I just ask her if her hands are clean, tell her she only does that at home and NOBODY else touches her ever. I try to stress that in a way thats not stressing it, but I am not going to condone masterbation, I'm just going to do my best not to be embarrassed or angry if I catch her. Just talk to her about it.

Yea I liked your post....but I wont be angry either....

and like Brandi said I don't want to hear any moaning....that will just break my :unlove

as long as they are discreet about it :lol I mean, I don't want to hear them moaning in their room or anything, so as long as I don't know it's going on, then I could care less :P

Yeah I agree with this - I just dont even want to know!

I would much rather my daughter masturbate than come home pregnant at 14

I would much rather my son masturbate than go out and have sex and get a girl pregnant.


As long as they arent whipping it out in front of me they can do it all they want.

Amen!! Of course, my kids aren't going to do things like this until they are in their 40's. :hystericlaugh J/k

Yeah I agree with this - I just dont even want to know!

I agree!! I just don't wanna know at all!!!