I don't know what to do. I am 4 months pregnant and I am completely stressed out. I have too much on my plate right now and I know I won't make it like this and I have to do something about it, I just don't know what. Andy has been deployed but he hasnt created an email account, I am assuming or is just busy working so he has no idea whats happening. I am experiencing lots of complications from my pregnancy and I can barely get up to handle the things I need to do. I am worried the baby isnt growing as fast as she should. The complications I have been having forced me to put school and work on hold and I can barely get things done. I need help and I know I can't get help from the navy because I need help with things that they expect me to do on my own.

oh hon, first of all :hugehug i highly recommend talking to your dr. there are things you can take during pregnancy to help out with that. can someone come stay with you and help out?

You need to talk to your doc and you need to talk to his command. You need to be able to reach him.

I have talked to my doctor, and I am on medication but I have been having alleric reactions and nothing seems to work for me. I'm with my grandmother right now and she can barely take care of herself.

I am so sorry to hear..do you have family around or friends around ?? it helps to have a strong core of people you know will be there for you when you are pregnant or facing any adversity.I would recomend talking to your doctor too..they not only look at your physical well being but your emotional as well...we all know both go hand in hand...I wish you the best girl ** hugs **

I'm sorry sweetie :hugs Being pregnant and depressed is not good for you or the baby. I hope you can find something that will work

I have talked to everyone, my friends, my pastor, my doctor, things just arent going well at all. I am having so many problems with my pregnancy that some can't be fixed without harming the baby so I decided to just withhold from taking medicines that I don't really need and to deal with the pain for some of my problems. But the other problems where the baby isn't effected, the doctors have given me so many different medicines that I am worried it is effecting him because it has effected me. I feel so guilty because I don't want to hurt the baby but, I know I need treatment and I want to do everything I told Andy I'd do but I just cant right now.

I don't know what to do. I am 4 months pregnant and I am completely stressed out. I have too much on my plate right now and I know I won't make it like this and I have to do something about it, I just don't know what. Andy has been deployed but he hasnt created an email account, I am assuming or is just busy working so he has no idea whats happening. I am experiencing lots of complications from my pregnancy and I can barely get up to handle the things I need to do. I am worried the baby isnt growing as fast as she should. The complications I have been having forced me to put school and work on hold and I can barely get things done. I need help and I know I can't get help from the navy because I need help with things that they expect me to do on my own.

This sounds serious enough to talk to his command and tell them you are having serious medical issues and need to communicate with your husband- but I don't have a lot of experience with the military & don't want to get your husband in trouble- so be cautious-- but definitely you have to tell your doctor how badly you are doing emotionally.

I have talked to everyone, my friends, my pastor, my doctor, things just arent going well at all. I am having so many problems with my pregnancy that some can't be fixed without harming the baby so I decided to just withhold from taking medicines that I don't really need and to deal with the pain for some of my problems. But the other problems where the baby isn't effected, the doctors have given me so many different medicines that I am worried it is effecting him because it has effected me. I feel so guilty because I don't want to hurt the baby but, I know I need treatment and I want to do everything I told Andy I'd do but I just cant right now.

Well, I'll definitely be praying for your family then!

I don't want to contact his command if it's not an emergency because I know everyone in the navy are busy with more important things.

I'm sorry sweetie :hugs Being pregnant and depressed is not good for you or the baby. I hope you can find something that will work

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Are you under the care of a doctor? What about talking with your Ombudsman to see if she can get into contact with your husband's command about him contacting you?

I'm sorry you are feeling so depressed hun. You need to take your health & the health of your baby as your first priority. I hope things get better!!

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I don't want to contact his command if it's not an emergency because I know everyone in the navy are busy with more important things.

Hun, you need to be in contact with your husband, so if that mean's contacting his command, then I would do so.

Think positive. Contact the ombudsman about why you are not able to contact him-if you are trying to play nice, you can always come up with some shpiel about you are worried his emails might be getting marked as junk mail and deleted. If things are really that bad pregnancy-wise, your doctor should be able to get you a handicap pass app. so you can get the handibus, etc.

I wasn't given any information about the ombudsman. I don't know alot about contacting him. He was using someone else's email and then the emails stopped coming.

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I'm sorry your having a hard time...

I wasn't given any information about the ombudsman. I don't know alot about contacting him. He was using someone else's email and then the emails stopped coming.

I'm shocked that he doesn't have an email...I know my husband has an army wide email that he uses everywhere...something like jennifers.husband123@us.army.mil your husband should have one navywide or should have one assigned as soon as he gets on ship....

:hug I hope all gets better. As everyone else said you need to get in touch with your Husband.

try first name.last name@navy.mil or last name.first name@navy.mil

Thats what it is for dh. If he doesn't respond though I dont know what to tell you except contact the command! How can anything be more important than the health of you and your baby?

Think positive. Contact the ombudsman about why you are not able to contact him-if you are trying to play nice, you can always come up with some shpiel about you are worried his emails might be getting marked as junk mail and deleted. If things are really that bad pregnancy-wise, your doctor should be able to get you a handicap pass app. so you can get the handibus, etc.

I agree!! :bigsadhug

If i do get in touch with him or his command, what could they actually do?

I don't know what to say other than give you a big :hugehug

If i do get in touch with him or his command, what could they actually do?

Depends on the seriousness of your situation. At a minimum, they could most likely put him in contact with you.

Just remember that the way you are feeling & what you are doing also affects your baby so please get some help sweety:yes

You're not going to get him in trouble for contact the command if you are having complications and sick. He needs to know these things. Feel better soon and i hope you get a hold of him.

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