What do consider spoiling your children to be? (letting them do anything they want, buying them things everytime you go to the store, etc...)

I think that not setting boundaries for kids is spoiling them. Without boundaries, the kid will feel like it has to be his/her way, right away.

I am old school and that didn't fly with me :no

A child should have restraint and boundries. To ME, a child that EXPECTS something for no reason, just because they WANT, is SPOILED. I instill respect in my children and discipline. A spoiled child feels ENTITLED to the world. :rolleyes

A child should have restraint and boundries. To ME, a child that EXPECTS something for no reason, just because they WANT, is SPOILED. I instill respect in my children and discipline. A spoiled child feels ENTITLED to the world. :rolleyes

VERY well said. I agree!

not setting boundaries, buying out of your means to appease your child(ren), a child expecting something because they are so used to getting stuff

well, then i guess by your guys' standards my kids are spoiled. they get something anytime i go to the store and for the most part get what they want when they want it.

to me its a child not having any rules. just because a child gets stuff all the time doesnt mean they are spoiled to me. a child that is coddled and allowed to behave how ever they please, that is spoiled to me.

Children who don't have boundaries and rules to follow. They do what they want when they want. They are more in charge than their parents. They get whatever they ask for all the time and if they don't they pitch a fit. Usually they don't appreciate anything either.

Sounds more like a BRAT than spoiled :lol

Yes, IMO, your children are spoiled, but it doesn't mean they are "spoiled rotten"... if you allow them to throw fits because they don't get what they want... then I would say they are "spoiled rotten"

well, then i guess by your guys' standards my kids are spoiled. they get something anytime i go to the store and for the most part get what they want when they want it.

to me its a child not having any rules. just because a child gets stuff all the time doesnt mean they are spoiled to me. a child that is coddled and allowed to behave how ever they please, that is spoiled to me.

i think there is a difference between getting them something small at the store and buying them an expensive $100 toy everytime you go out kwim?

i've done a horrible thing..i can't stand it when Meghan cries at a store for a dumb toy..so i usually always buy the toy sooo she can just shut up. hahahaha. how do i stop it. i mean, she's soooooo used to getting the toy now, crying louder and more. i just can't stand the looks i get from the people at the store..any ideas? (they are usually really cheap .99 toys or something really small, but still she doesn't need something everytimg i take her to the store)...

so be it. i dont care. but i do know that if you asked anyone that has met my kids that they dont act spoiled even though they are. how they act with DH & I is completely different than how they act with others.

Just because you buy them something when you go to the store it doesn't mean they are spoiled. Now if one day you go and they throw a fit because you don't buy them something then they may be spoiled. :teehee

so be it. i dont care. but i do know that if you asked anyone that has met my kids that they dont act spoiled even though they are. how they act with DH & I is completely different than how they act with others.


Don't get offended. I don't see "spoiled" as bad, per say... that's your perrogative to "spoil" your child, it's a choice ;). It's my mother's perrogative to spoil my children. I choose not to.

Also... i think we all have a different "definition" and thought and stigma of what a word means ... sorry if I did offend you

i've done a horrible thing..i can't stand it when Meghan cries at a store for a dumb toy..so i usually always buy the toy sooo she can just shut up. hahahaha. how do i stop it. i mean, she's soooooo used to getting the toy now, crying louder and more. i just can't stand the looks i get from the people at the store..any ideas? (they are usually really cheap .99 toys or something really small, but still she doesn't need something everytimg i take her to the store)...


You leave the store.

I think my kids are spoiled. They are spoiled by us and family as well. I do often treat them to something when we go somewhere for behaving....not always, but alot of the time. Usually it is something very small, but once in a great while it will be something bigger.

I have no problem disciplining my kids at home, but it is so much harder when you are out or at a store...people give you the dirtiest looks and nowadays you have to be careful because someone may call cps on you just for talking stearnly to your child...(I have never had that happen, but the stories you hear nowadays are ridiculous).

I dunno, I like treating my kids to stuff.

i also wanted to say that our kids will have nice things and will probably be spoiled but they will also know the vaule of a dollar

I treat my kids too... I don't think that's spoiling. I just don't buy them stuff all the time.

I don't consider a child who has a lot of "stuff" spoiled. :dunno I was an only child so I always had way too many toys and clothes because family bought stuff for me all the time. But I never expected anything, and I NEVER threw a tantrum in a store because I couldn't have something. My mother's head would have spun in circles :rofl

Taylor is the same way I was. She's an only child, and the only grandchild so she gets all the attention and gifts. I'm just as guilty of buying her stuff all the time. But she isn't rotten. She will learn to respect her stuff and be thankful for what she has! I don't deal with her throwing fits at home or in public. She gets punished.

I don't consider a child who has a lot of "stuff" spoiled. :dunno I was an only child so I always had way too many toys and clothes because family bought stuff for me all the time. But I never expected anything, and I NEVER threw a tantrum in a store because I couldn't have something. My mother's head would have spun in circles :rofl

Taylor is the same way I was. She's an only child, and the only grandchild so she gets all the attention and gifts. I'm just as guilty of buying her stuff all the time. But she isn't rotten.


That's what I meant... having "stuff" isn't "BAD" but being :quote ROTTEN :quote is :teehee

i think my daughter is very VERY VERY spoiled. and I give in wayyyyy too often. and i feel bad since her dad isn't here, but yet, she's two and already knows how to work me.

i was looking around at all her toys (i have WAY too many of them and feel really bad for having that many)...i need to stop.

That's what I meant... having "stuff" isn't "BAD" but being :quote ROTTEN :quote is :teehee

Right, I agree :yes

I'm a "thrifty" shopper, my kids have LOTS of stuff, too much than what we should for our pay :giggle We live well... my husband is SPOILED... he is ROTTEN :rofl Luckily... my children, ARE NOT! :hystericlaugh

I don't consider a child who has a lot of "stuff" spoiled. :dunno I was an only child so I always had way too many toys and clothes because family bought stuff for me all the time. But I never expected anything, and I NEVER threw a tantrum in a store because I couldn't have something. My mother's head would have spun in circles :rofl

Taylor is the same way I was. She's an only child, and the only grandchild so she gets all the attention and gifts. I'm just as guilty of buying her stuff all the time. But she isn't rotten. She will learn to respect her stuff and be thankful for what she has! I don't deal with her throwing fits at home or in public. She gets punished.

that's what i was trying to say by saying if they get something every time they go to the store. if they throw a tantrum or whatever then nope they don't get anything. the couple times i threw a tantrum we walked out of the store completely buying NOTHING

i think my daughter is very VERY VERY spoiled. and I give in wayyyyy too often. and i feel bad since her dad isn't here, but yet, she's two and already knows how to work me.

i was looking around at all her toys (i have WAY too many of them and feel really bad for having that many)...i need to stop.

Just be careful. It's a hard habit to break once they are old enough to know better, and believe it or not they do understand at 2.

I'm a "thrifty" shopper, my kids have LOTS of stuff, too much than what we should for our pay :giggle We live well... my husband is SPOILED... he is ROTTEN :rofl Luckily... my children, ARE NOT! :hystericlaugh

My dh is spoiled rotten too....He has so many things...expensive things and always wants more. He will pout when he can't get his way..such a baby :lol

Yea, my husband is much more spoiled than Taylor :no :lol

When he sees something in the store he has to get it or he pouts. Taylor is just happy to play with it while we are shopping then she glady puts it back.

To me spoiled is when a child has no regards to others and things. When they throw a fit in the store and you give in just to shut them up (no pointing fingers here), and when they don't appreciate what they have. The amount of things doesn't matter but I do believe that when they are constantly getting things, they start to not appreciate what they have.

JMO

Ugh, men are definatley SPOILED ROTTEN... :rolleyes, always something new and cool coming out :suicide

I think spoiling your kids is a combination of letting them have anything they want anytime that they want, no matter what, and letting them do anything, anytime. Like everyone has said, kids need rules and boundries in order to mature into well rounded adults. If you let them do anything and get away with anything, then they run your house, not you

Ugh, men are definatley SPOILED ROTTEN... :rolleyes, always something new and cool coming out :suicide

I avoid the electronics and fishing section in every store like the plague :lol

well, then i guess by your guys' standards my kids are spoiled. they get something anytime i go to the store and for the most part get what they want when they want it.

to me its a child not having any rules. just because a child gets stuff all the time doesnt mean they are spoiled to me. a child that is coddled and allowed to behave how ever they please, that is spoiled to me.

I agree. Our son used to get something pretty much everytime we went to the store. We don't do this anymore, because he has to earn getting a new toy now. I consider my son spoiled, because he's our only child and he pretty much gets what he wants. However, we are also heavy on the discipline and misbehavior is not tolerated in our home.

Spoiling to me is not setting boundaries. Basically giving into the child's wants or demands, not correcting bad behavior, letting them do whatever they want.

I don't think that buying your children a lot of stuff is spoiling them unless it's because they are demanding it or think they are entitled to it. I have had friends whose parents bought them tons of things and I don't think they were spoiled, at least they didn't ACT spoiled.

What do consider spoiling your children to be? (letting them do anything they want, buying them things everytime you go to the store, etc...)

If they throw a fit because they can't have something, I think they're spoiled. Whether I had one or ten kids, I wouldn't just give them whatever they want. I just don't think they need to grow up thinking they need to buy something just because they want it.

as some have said, there is a different from being spoiled and being a spoiled brat.

I pay only 75$ a month for my car and insurance, that is like nothing compared to the portion my parents pay.

I have a LOT of expensive things, laptop, iPod, clothes, coach purses, kate spade business card holder, etc.

But rarely do I throw a fit if my parents say no. I have my own money, I pay for my own cell (by choice) and I will be buying my own laptop. I know I have to save to buy certain things. I shop for deals even when my parents are paying. The car I am driving right now is the 4th car my parents have purchased for me (or me and my sister) and I am only 20.

My mom already ordered me the hardcover HP boxed set in the trunk.. I mean, I get a LOT of stuff from the parents.

My parents pay my tuition and for my books, and I won't get used books.

So yeah, I am spoiled times 10 million. BUT I watch my sister a LOT for my parents, get good grades to earn my things, etc.

Being spoiled isnt bad, being a brat is. there are tons of brats that aren't spoiled. I hope when I have kids i can spoil them too.

A child should have restraint and boundries. To ME, a child that EXPECTS something for no reason, just because they WANT, is SPOILED. I instill respect in my children and discipline. A spoiled child feels ENTITLED to the world. :rolleyes

exactly. :yes

as some have said, there is a different from being spoiled and being a spoiled brat.

I pay only 75$ a month for my car and insurance, that is like nothing compared to the portion my parents pay.

I have a LOT of expensive things, laptop, iPod, clothes, coach purses, kate spade business card holder, etc.

But rarely do I throw a fit if my parents say no. I have my own money, I pay for my own cell (by choice) and I will be buying my own laptop. I know I have to save to buy certain things. I shop for deals even when my parents are paying. The car I am driving right now is the 4th car my parents have purchased for me (or me and my sister) and I am only 20.

My mom already ordered me the hardcover HP boxed set in the trunk.. I mean, I get a LOT of stuff from the parents.

My parents pay my tuition and for my books, and I won't get used books.

So yeah, I am spoiled times 10 million. BUT I watch my sister a LOT for my parents, get good grades to earn my things, etc.

Being spoiled isnt bad, being a brat is. there are tons of brats that aren't spoiled. I hope when I have kids i can spoil them too.

Ash, how do you throw a fit at 20? I'm just trying to picture it because I was thinking more along the lines of really young kids throwing fits.

Ash, how do you throw a fit at 20? I'm just trying to picture it because I was thinking more along the lines of really young kids throwing fits.

:lol Umm...you should meet my friend, who is 24 and throws a fit when her mother doesn't get her everything she wants. It's sad :suspect

:lol Umm...you should meet my friend, who is 24 and throws a fit when her mother doesn't get her everything she wants. It's sad :suspect

That'd be funny to watch an adult kicking and screaming. Girl, get your ass up! I'd have to put her in timeout. Act like a kid, get treated like one. And Ash, I wasn't picking at you so don't think so.

I guess I choose not to get them any and everything because I think they'll appreciate things more if they dont' have everything handed to them. I want them to work for what they want and appreciate it because they worked hard for it.

That'd be funny to watch an adult kicking and screaming. Girl, get your ass up! I'd have to put her in timeout. Act like a kid, get treated like one. And Ash, I wasn't picking at you so don't think so.

I guess I choose not to get them any and everything because I think they'll appreciate things more if they dont' have everything handed to them. I want them to work for what they want and appreciate it because they worked hard for it.

:rofl She doesn't kick and throw herself down, but she whines and bitches :duh

When I think of spoiled I think of the show My Super Sweet 16 man are most of those girls spoiled.

Ash, how do you throw a fit at 20? I'm just trying to picture it because I was thinking more along the lines of really young kids throwing fits.

:lol

I rarely ever whine if i dont get my way... but i will just bitch and bitch and bitch at my dad on occassion bc I know he will crack.. I would say I do that like maybe 5x a year. FOr dumb stuff.. like if i am broke and he wont fill my gas tank i will text him "please daddy" a coupla times till he says yes. but it is more of a family joke than me actually whining.. bc if he says "i have told you no" i stop.

I think thre are different levels of spoiling a child. There are good ways and bad ways. I dont see anything wrong with buying your child things when you go to the store...even if it is buying them things very often. As long as the child is well behaved and deserves it for good behavior, etc. i see nothign wrong with it at all. It is when they are bratty and rude or expect it without having good behavior that i think it is a problem. I also would consider letting them do whatever they want with no consequenses for bad behavior a bad type of spoiling.

letting them do anything they want, not ever saying no to them., buying them things on demand.

I wanted to add, even as a toddler throwing a fit of the screaming and kicking variety was NEVER acceptable and I NEVER did that. EVER.