drink with you?

my grandma and i used to get margaritas and fajitas every thursday from the time i was 17/18 until i moved. it was only like one margarita plus dinner and dessert. would you ever do something like that with your kids provided they were responsible and weren't screwing up?

No. I also don't drink...maybe once every 2 or 3 years I may have something :giggle

HELL NO! LOL. I am SO anti-alcohol though. I would rather smoke pot with them than drink, to be honest. Not that I would WANT them to do either, but I think alcohol is EVIL.

nope.

Hell naw http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v640/vendion/1ptgno.gif

so i guess my grandma was a bad parent nervous :giggle.

i also never drove anywhere afterwards

Yep, I would let my kids drink with me when they are over 18. But once they start drinking, they stay at home for the rest of the night. Or if at a family party, they go home with me (and don't drive obviously) and then still have to stay home for the rest of the night.

My parents would occasionally let me and my sisters try drinks. Mostly special occasions like weddings or vacations in Cancun or something like that. And I have no intention to abuse alcohol because I don't think it's really all that great and "cool" to drink just because I was in a controlled setting and with my parents.

no

It depends on the circumstances. I have always said that if my son joins the military, we will have a sit down after basic/boot and throw some back. But I guess that's part of another debate... :giggle

Sure I'll let my child drink with me. Beginning January 17th, 2026.

:D

I'm not sure. I started having an occasional drink with my meal (and supervised) from the age of 15, but here the legal age for drinking under parental consent is 5 and in restaurants it's 16. As I'll most probably be having my kids in the US where the laws and culture are different, I'm not sure I'll let them drink at that age.

I'm not sure. I started having an occasional drink with my meal (and supervised) from the age of 15, but here the legal age for drinking under parental consent is 5 and in restaurants it's 16. As I'll most probably be having my kids in the US where the laws and culture are different, I'm not sure I'll let them drink at that age.

5 years old or did you mean 15?

5 years old or did you mean 15?

5 (though most people would never let their kids drink at that age!)

yeah, it's sooo different overseas!

once they are 21 sure we can drink together but not before that. but i also think that if a person is 18 and can serve their country and die for it, then they should beable to have a beer. JMO

Yep, I would let my kids drink with me when they are over 18. But once they start drinking, they stay at home for the rest of the night. Or if at a family party, they go home with me (and don't drive obviously) and then still have to stay home for the rest of the night.


Same here. :yes I grew up being allowed to drink at an early age (like 12 :wowsers) which I think is too young. But I dont mind letting them have one drink on occation. Like at a wedding, or family party (in my case, it was at the desert or at big family/friend parties at my parents place). So I wouldnt mind as long as I felt they would be responsible with it and I could trust them to drink.

No, because it is illegal. I don't think encouraging my child to drink is a good thing. it can also get me, as a parent, in a whole lot of legal trouble.

NO

No, because it is illegal. I don't think encouraging my child to drink is a good thing. it can also get me, as a parent, in a whole lot of legal trouble.

actually it's not illegal in tx. if a parent provides the alcohol to their child it's perfectly legal ;)

My child can do whatever she wants when she hits the age to DO IT!...18 she can smoke if she wants but not in my house....21 she can drink but i'm not going to toss one back with her when she 17 or smoke some pot either....Its ok to break the law as long as I'm doing it with her??? Don't get it? :dunno

actually it's not illegal in tx. if a parent provides the alcohol to their child it's perfectly legal ;)

They don't have the 21 age limit in Texas????

thats dumb in my opinion.....:no

They don't have the 21 age limit in Texas????

thats dumb in my opinion.....:no

no they do, in order to buy alcohol yourself you have to be 21 but like if your child is 18 and you are at a restaurant and the parent purchases the alcohol for their child (like a beer or whatever) the child can have it

Under 18 - no. Between 18 and 21, though, it would depend on the circumstances. For example, when DH returned home from Desert Storm (yes, he's old, lol) he was 19 years old. His dad sat down and drank a beer with him as a "man to man/warrior to warrior" (his dad is a Vietnam vet) thing. In that sort of situation I can see having a drink with my child. I would not, though, feel comfortable taking it to the level of getting "drunk" with either of them.

so i guess my grandma was a bad parent nervous :giggle.


I don't think so :no

I don't think so :no

i don't think so either

no they do, in order to buy alcohol yourself you have to be 21 but like if your child is 18 and you are at a restaurant and the parent purchases the alcohol for their child (like a beer or whatever) the child can have it

ok i still thinks that crazy as hell...they should get in trouble for that in my eyes...so why should the store clerk get arrested or fired for selling to a kid that see's his mom in the car......Seen it on Dateline....that will get :handup

:)

ok i still thinks that crazy as hell...they should get in trouble for that in my eyes...so why should the store clerk get arrested or fired for selling to a kid that see's his mom in the car......Seen it on Dateline....that will get :handup

:)

the parent has to purchase it and be ID'd for it. the child cannot go in and say my mom is in the car kind of thing.

My thought on the after 18 thing is that they most likely are going to do it in college, so why not let them do it with me? That way I can monitor them and let them know when I think they have had too much.

I grew up with my parents always telling me I couldn't drink until I was legal. When I turned 18 they told me that if I decided to drink even thought it was illegal, they encouraged me to drink in moderation. I think knowing that my parents knew I was drinking and said it was somewhat ok, then the whole underage drinking lost it's "devious" appeal and it wasn't such a big deal. Thus, I didn't really do a lot of underage drinking, and when I did I didn't get extremely drunk or do stupid things. I feel like those who are under strict rules with their parents tend to go overboard with the drinking when they know their parents would freak out and not like it one bit if they knew what they were doing. But I guess on the other hand you need to make sure you don't give them free reign to drink and then get in a lot of trouble. Guess you might have to figure out what your kids like and most likely to do, then decide if you are going to be super strict about drinking or sort of lax??

Just my opinion.

uhm, i grew up in a household that allowed us to drink before we were 21..and once we started drinking, we HAD to stay home...I think I'll do the same for child.. I mean, it's not like I got completely drunk and all that, it was like one drink. Nothing Major..I think once my daughter gets 17 or 18, I'll allow her like my parents did. But it depends...if she has a problem or it's becoming a problem I'll not allow it...And I won't ask her to drink, i'll wait until she comes to me. You know what I mean.

My thought on the after 18 thing is that they most likely are going to do it in college, so why not let them do it with me? That way I can monitor them and let them know when I think they have had too much.

I grew up with my parents always telling me I couldn't drink until I was legal. When I turned 18 they told me that if I decided to drink even thought it was illegal, they encouraged me to drink in moderation. I think knowing that my parents knew I was drinking and said it was somewhat ok, then the whole underage drinking lost it's "devious" appeal and it wasn't such a big deal. Thus, I didn't really do a lot of underage drinking, and when I did I didn't get extremely drunk or do stupid things. I feel like those who are under strict rules with their parents tend to go overboard with the drinking when they know their parents would freak out and not like it one bit if they knew what they were doing. But I guess on the other hand you need to make sure you don't give them free reign to drink and then get in a lot of trouble. Guess you might have to figure out what your kids like and most likely to do, then decide if you are going to be super strict about drinking or sort of lax??

Just my opinion.

i agree completely. it should be based on each child

the parent has to purchase it and be ID'd for it. the child cannot go in and say my mom is in the car kind of thing.

oh well thats still coocoo....:)

yea and just my thoughts....after 18 my lil girl is going to do what she want to do anyway because HOPEFULLY....she will be out my house and in school or in the military. I can raise her to the best of my ability but I won't sit down and drink some grey goose or a white russian with her....maybe sip MY wine cooler or something....but right now i can't see it.

I stand corrected. I didn't read the fine print of the law. Consumption does depend on that state. Very interesting. If it was legal, then i think it is ok and does teach proper drinking responsiblity. If it is illegal in that state, then no, it is not ok.

Yes, Im from brasil and there is no drinking age there. I found that since there isnt one ppl dont get drunk all the time and you dont find as many drunk drivers and yound children going out of control when they turn 21. If its legal its not as much fun. My parents let me drink when I lived at home, and now I could care less if I drink or not.

just a note:

not sayin you are a bad parent if you do that because i'm not the one to judge....i just won't do it. :)

I stand corrected. I didn't read the fine print of the law. Consumption does depend on that state. Very interesting. If it was legal, then i think it is ok and does teach proper drinking responsiblity. If it is illegal in that state, then no, it is not ok.

Yes, Im from brasil and there is no drinking age there. I found that since there isnt one ppl dont get drunk all the time and you dont find as many drunk drivers and yound children going out of control when they turn 21. If its legal its not as much fun. My parents let me drink when I lived at home, and now I could care less if I drink or not.

I agree with these.

I have a lot of mixed feelings on this. I automatically want to say "No way!", but then I considered what happened with me. My parents had zero alcohol in the house and were completely against drinking whatsoever. I never touched it in high school. Then I hit college and I went overboard. I think that a lot of kids do this as well, but on the other hand, encouraging or teaching them to drink, could go both ways. It's hard to teach your kid to drink responsibily when the message you're sending is to not drink at all.

Kind of like with safe sex. If you're only preaching abstinence, when your kid goes ahead and has sex, they won't be educated on contraceptives and protection.

When I was an older teenager, my mom would let me have a wine cooler every now and then.

I like to drink, but can't anymore due to my medical condition. DH doesn't drink, so we don't keep alcohol in the house unless we are having company over and they want beer/wine etc.

I'm not going to say that I will forbid my son from taking a drink as a teenager. It really depends on the situation, how "mature" he is, etc etc. I just really don't know.

No, my Children can have a small amount of wine on Shabbos & other Jewish holidays after they Bar Mitzvah BUT I will not allow them to sit around having cocktails or beers just because. I want them to know about alcohol so that it is not this mysterious think and they go overboard BUT I also don't want them partying in my home.

Over 18, one drink, NO DRIVING. My mom used to buy me a six pack when I came home to visit when I was in the Navy. I only got to have one a night, and only after I was in for the night.

so i guess my grandma was a bad parent nervous :giggle.

i also never drove anywhere afterwards

My mom used to let me do stuff like that with her provided that I was at home and it was never like us getting drunk or anything.

No because we don't drink. But If the y want to drinkl when they move out then that is on them.

Absolutely. I'd rather have them at home with me than out being stupid with friends.

Maybe if they were at home with me I would let them have a sip here and there. Possibly one drink. My parents would let me sip their wine and other drinks when I was a teenager. But they hardly ever drink alcohol and I was never interested in getting plastered when I was that age. A sip here and there was enough for me.

I'm not sure. It would depend on the child and the situation. I think Mike would be against it. Maybe I'll bring this up to him tonight

i would. they would be safer drinking with you than out and about somewhere

I would be okay with it.. My parents let me have my first drink on my 16th birthday but as a kid (6 or 7) I rememeber taking sips of there beers or whatever they were drinking.. Like others have said, I would rather my kids do it at home then out with there stupid friends.. But TMO!

Yes. She'll be able to drink legally after she turns 16 when visiting my family in Germany anyway.

I don't really drink because I don't like the way it taste but my mom always let my little sister have sips and what not and after 18 they would split a margarita or some other fruity drink and I guess I would be ok with that. I wouldn't be for allowing them to get drunk but if they wanted to try a drink or it was a special occasion then yes.

DB's family is FULL of alcoholics and they let their kids drink (and get drunk) once they were in highschool...they just take away the keys. I don't agree with that. I'm pretty anti-alcohol though.

If they're 21 or over, what's the problem?

If they're not going to do it with me, they're going to do it somewhere else...I'd rather them drink with me.

I've had a few drinks with my parents before.

in wisconsin as long as a parent or gaurdian is with you, someone underage can drink. that's how i was able to drink at my bachlorette party. (yes, i had my mom with me at my bachlorette party :lol) and dh turned 21 before me, but technically, he was my legal gardian, so we went back to wisconsin for his 21st birthday so i could celebrate with him.

i would as long as they aren't going anywhere afterward. and maybe just one or two. i wouldn't let my child get drunk with me (unless it was a situation like a bachlorette party when she's 20 :giggle)

my dad also bought dh a bottle of vodak for his bachlor party but he wouldn't do it unless he promised he wouldn't be leaving the house. he even went back out to our place a couple times during the night to make sure they were ok.

actually it's not illegal in tx. if a parent provides the alcohol to their child it's perfectly legal ;)

I was just reading through some of the laws for Ky and I will have to admit...I was shocked as well as very uneducated in many areas. Wow! I am glad I did some research.:wink

I would say yes... but only at my house and he is not allowed to leave for the night. And I will not allow him to get drunk... I know how I was as a kid and I also know that kids will do what they want whether we say yes or no. I would rather him be in my house under my protection than in a possible drunk driving accident.

Nope, gotta tread lightly here about that. We had huge issues with DS sneaking out of the house to drink and smoke pot with one of his buddies down the road. When they're of legal age, then yes, but I will not encourage illegal behavior.

I have a lot of mixed feelings on this. I automatically want to say "No way!", but then I considered what happened with me. My parents had zero alcohol in the house and were completely against drinking whatsoever. I never touched it in high school. Then I hit college and I went overboard. I think that a lot of kids do this as well, but on the other hand, encouraging or teaching them to drink, could go both ways. It's hard to teach your kid to drink responsibily when the message you're sending is to not drink at all.

Kind of like with safe sex. If you're only preaching abstinence, when your kid goes ahead and has sex, they won't be educated on contraceptives and protection.


I was the same way. But you can't responsibly let your child do something illegal, kwim? And you can still teach about safe sex and responsible drinking without actually doing it. You send the message not to drink at all because it is illegal. As a parent, we should know the law and teach them to follow it as they follow rules. it's a difficult situation.

Depends on my kid, depends on their age, depends on their maturity level. I would rather teach them to drink responsibly than have them learn to drink irresponsibly from their peers.

I was the same way. But you can't responsibly let your child do something illegal, kwim? And you can still teach about safe sex and responsible drinking without actually doing it. You send the message not to drink at all because it is illegal. As a parent, we should know the law and teach them to follow it as they follow rules. it's a difficult situation.

but like i've stated in some previous posts it's not illegal if the parent/guardian purchases the alcohol and gives it to you.

Yes. *

*My mom allowed me to have 3-4 friends over for special occasions (the day I was admitted to college, etc.) and we would drink. Mom would take the keys and we wouldn't go anywhere, talk to anybody, etc. We were all GOOD kids (A honor roll, etc.), so we were allowed to drink occasionally.

The other people's parents knew about it too, and said it was alright as long as we weren't going anywhere but my house...and my mom kept all the keys to all the cars in her purse under her pillow. :)

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Yes... it would depend on the child of course and they would have to be with me the whole time and aren't allowed to go anywhere.

If they were legal age, yes. My parents took me out for my 21st with some friends of the family. They never let me get drunk but a drink or two, yep. Never when I was under age.

my parents used to let me dink with them...nothing to harsh like shots but a bacardi cooler for sure!

But i was also a bartender at the age of 18 so i was around it all the time. I dont drink a lot now. In the 4 yrs DH and i have been married he has never seen me drunk!!

I would with ...if he wanted to try i would let him.

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OK, those are for Washington State. You learn something new every day. Even though it is legal, I still will not encourage or reinforce underage drinking in my children. Just because it's legal, doesn't make it right.

Because of my nationality and my family being considered newer off the boat, as kids we were allowed to have a little bit of wine for every holiday. Now though that I am having a child to a man who isnt italian, our child will probably not drink.