Ok Ok OK

I've been arguing well...bickering back and forth with one of my friends and I made a comment that when I get pregnant again..I wanted a bigger babyshower....she made the comment nobody is going to throw you a babyshower if the you get preggo and Layla is only 2.....

:whatever um....yea whatever

So do you think people should have more than 1 babyshower? I mean if their kids are 1 or 2 years apart....

How about 3 years apart?


I want another babyshower damnit. :( :hehe

Yeah go for it!! I believe that you can have a baby shower for every pregnancy if you want!

My friend just had one and her daughter is only 1 and she is due in 2 weeks, but she got one for this baby AND its another girl, so it doesnt make a difference.

I had baby showers for each child, especially because my second one was a boy. I see nothing wrong with celebrating each child. A lot of people have a "diaper" shower where they mainly get diapers, wipes, and other consumable baby things. If anything it's a chance to get together, play some games, eat some cake, and have a good time while everyone rubs your belly. :lol

yeah why not, I am a strong believer in what was done for one must be done for the other...

I think if you want to celebrate, you should celebrate!

My work threw me a shower, but my girls are almost 5yrs apart. Maybe if you want a shower, have a friend put one together but do a "no gifts" kind of thing. You can still celebrate with your friends, but not feel like they have to be obligated to get you gifts you probably have with your children being close in age.

yeah why not, I am a strong believer in what was done for one must be done for the other...

YEP THATS WHAT I SAID....she goes and say you just want free stuff.....:(


Well I do....:lmao

But I want the pics for that babys book and stuff...man they better not shit me out if i get preggo...I can't throw my own babyshower. :worried

Well maybe she was irked by the I want a bigger shower next time line. I think throwing a party to celebrate each child's arrival is fine. It is the I want & gimme attitude's that turn me off. It seems like people expect things and that can be a huge turn off.

Jewish tradition is to have a party AFTER the baby comes not before.

Well maybe she was irked by the I want a bigger shower next time line. I think throwing a party to celebrate each child's arrival is fine. It is the I want & gimme attitude's that turn me off. It seems like people expect things and that can be a huge turn off.

Jewish tradition is to have a party AFTER the baby comes not before.

Very well put, Green Mammy, I was thinking the same thing!

I liked the idea of having a baby shower for the 2nd one where you get diapers, wipes, and other DAILY necessities instead of all the gadgets and stuff you got the first time around.

I don't see the problem with a second shower, it's another child who will need more things! I've always seen a baby shower as a good way to help the family out. And just cause she wants a bigger one doesn't mean she's being selfish... maybe she didn't make as big a deal over her first and now she knows she wants a lil more excitement in the shower dept? Just guessing...

i think you should get as many baby showers as you have kids! it's not fair to lump together and say, "oh no, you just had your other kid 3 years ago, you don't get another one." NOT OKAY! i mean, who's to say you didn't give that child's clothes and toys away? GO FOR IT!

I don't see the problem with a second shower, it's another child who will need more things! I've always seen a baby shower as a good way to help the family out. And just cause she wants a bigger one doesn't mean she's being selfish... maybe she didn't make as big a deal over her first and now she knows she wants a lil more excitement in the shower dept? Just guessing...

I was speaking in general terms. I find that often what I read in baby shower threads makes my eyeballs pop outta my head. So please don't think I was singling out this one Mumma.

I had my son ten years ago and didnt get another baby shower this time around :lol

Well maybe she was irked by the I want a bigger shower next time line. I think throwing a party to celebrate each child's arrival is fine. It is the I want & gimme attitude's that turn me off. It seems like people expect things and that can be a huge turn off.

Jewish tradition is to have a party AFTER the baby comes not before.

okkkkkkk um....I didn't have a gimme attitude. The whole thing came up as....when i get pregnant again i want another bigger babyshower (more family)...and she made the comment that I'm not getting one because of the age difference....um the whole I want free stuff was a joke hence the :lmao beside that when I wrote that.

Um if you are Jewish thats fine and dandy but I am not....And I want a Babyshower....and I will get one :irked:mrgreen

....i hope :(

I don't see the problem with a second shower, it's another child who will need more things! I've always seen a baby shower as a good way to help the family out. And just cause she wants a bigger one doesn't mean she's being selfish... maybe she didn't make as big a deal over her first and now she knows she wants a lil more excitement in the shower dept? Just guessing...

you were guessing right! lol I didn't even want my first one cus it was rushed and did in a hurry because my hubby got orders to go to California so It wasn't really that big....

AND HOLD UP!!!!!!!!!!!

So do you think people should have more than 1 babyshower? I mean if their kids are 1 or 2 years apart....

How about 3 years apart?

That was the original question....no gimme attittude anywhere....gosh lee!

okkkkkkk um....I didn't have a gimme attitude. The whole thing came up as....when i get pregnant again i want another bigger babyshower (more family)...and she made the comment that I'm not getting one because of the age difference....um the whole I want free stuff was a joke hence the :lmao beside that when I wrote that.

Um if you are Jewish thats fine and dandy but I am not....And I want Babyshower....and I will get one :irked:mrgreen

Again I will clarify since it doesn't seem to be coming across I was speaking in the general sense. I did not say you had the gimmes or the I wants. The only thing I said about your situation was the I want a bigger shower thing. Everything else was general.

Again I will clarify since it doesn't seem to be coming across I was speaking in the general sense. I did not say you had the gimmes or the I wants. The only thing I said about your situation was the I want a bigger shower thing. Everything else was general.

And Bigger was not meant far as....gifts....I meant Family, Games, More time to mingle...etc etc

You posted this in debates I gave a point of view that was different then yours not everyone is going to agree.

I think that having 1 shower is fine idea for the first child. I think having a party to celebrate each additional child is also nice. It is not like you (general) need gifts or anything for every child.

Then again I am one of those people that think that it is the parents job to provide most of what goes into your children's nurseries. I also wish more people followed the etiquette guides for social events more often. SO I don't expect most people will agree with me and that is fine too.

You posted this in debates I gave a point of view that was different then yours not everyone is going to agree.

I think that having 1 shower is fine idea for the first child. I think having a party to celebrate each additional child is also nice. It is not like you (general) need gifts or anything for every child.

Then again I am one of those people that think that it is the parents job to provide most of what goes into your children's nurseries. I also wish more people followed the etiquette guides for social events more often. SO I don't expect most people will agree with me and that is fine too.

The difference between your point of view had nothing to do with the original question...thats why I'm responding to you...I'm not a gimme person so just defending myself. :)

For the last time I was not TALKING about you I was giving my point of view on having more then one shower and things to do with that. YOU are making my reponse all about you though. It is pissing me off so I am going to step away from the thread. I was not the only person that felt that way in this thread either.

For the last time I was not TALKING about you I was giving my point of view on having more then one shower and things to do with that. YOU are making my reponse all about you though. It is pissing me off so I am going to step away from the thread. I was not the only person that felt that way in this thread either.

I'm so confuzzled...when you respond to me its ok because its your opinion when i respond back...tellin you what i meant you get "pissed"

i hope you do step away because its just a debate sweety. :)

toodles~

I think you should have a babyshower for each baby you have.

Never mind I will PM it.

I liked the idea of having a baby shower for the 2nd one where you get diapers, wipes, and other DAILY necessities instead of all the gadgets and stuff you got the first time around.

If I was by my family, I would love something like this! And if we're having a boy, boy clothes would be nice too :giggle

each child is a miracle so i say go for it.

I had baby showers for each child, especially because my second one was a boy. I see nothing wrong with celebrating each child. A lot of people have a "diaper" shower where they mainly get diapers, wipes, and other consumable baby things. If anything it's a chance to get together, play some games, eat some cake, and have a good time while everyone rubs your belly. :lol

Exactly, what if you have a little boy, I'm pretty sure he's not going to be able to re-use your daughters crib liners / all of her toys / especially not her clothes .. and having another baby is a big deal! If you want a baby shower you should be entitled to have one! .. and like Mara said, it's a good time to have some cake, play some silly games and get together with your family!

Have your baby shower! If your friend doesn't want to come, too bad for her!

:)

Obviously, you should do what you want, but traditionally, you only get one babyshower; standards have certainly changed, but you'd probably be surprised how many people would take it the wrong way. So I'd have to say I agree with your friend, especially if the dc's are only 2 years apart.

every child is different.... they all deserve to be celebrated.

Ok Ok OK

I've been arguing well...bickering back and forth with one of my friends and I made a comment that when I get pregnant again..I wanted a bigger babyshower....she made the comment nobody is going to throw you a babyshower if the you get preggo and Layla is only 2.....

:whatever um....yea whatever

So do you think people should have more than 1 babyshower? I mean if their kids are 1 or 2 years apart....

How about 3 years apart?


I want another babyshower damnit. :( :hehe

the "bigger babyshower" comment probably threw them off.

i think for subsequent kids who are close in age, perhaps having your friends put on the shower to not bring a gift, or to have a diaper party would be more appropriate... but definitely subsequent children should be celebrated.

I liked the idea of having a baby shower for the 2nd one where you get diapers, wipes, and other DAILY necessities instead of all the gadgets and stuff you got the first time around.

:agreeThis is what I would do for a friend

Then again I am one of those people that think that it is the parents job to provide most of what goes into your children's nurseries. I also wish more people followed the etiquette guides for social events more often. SO I don't expect most people will agree with me and that is fine too.

I agree. I think every pregnancy/child deserves a celebration, but I think it's a little tacky to have a second shower. I'm more in favor of having a family & friends cookout in honor of the new baby or something along those lines and doing a diaper lottery thing... like for every package of diapers someone brings you give them a ticket and raffle off a dvd player or something. As far as registering for items... I don't think it should be done after a first child.

If I misread your initial post I apologize. My reaction was purely to what you had written.

I agree with the comments about diaper parties, I think that's a great alternative for women who have already had showers and already have the essentials. i just went to a diaper party for an acquaintance who is having her fourth child and it was a nice celebration and now she has all the diapers/wipes/disposable items she could possibly need :)

defintely baby showers for every new child. Baby showers are NOT just for the first born!

I think it is alright to have a party for each child for a celebration of their birth but I don't think getting presents unless it is just the essentials. Most of the first shower things you get you can use again. We will anyways. We asked for neutral things.

I think the bigger comment made it sound worse then you intended. But then again, it is a debate board.

My kids are only 20 months apart and I had one heck of a baby shower for my second.

I SAY HAVE A BIG ONE!!!!!:giggle:giggle

defintely baby showers for every new child. Baby showers are NOT just for the first born!

I think of baby showers like wedding or brial showers... the purpose is to prepare for your new start in life. After you've had a shower for your first born you (general you) typically have necessary items. Technically boys can sleep on pink sheets and girls can sleep on blue sheets- decor and such are for the parents because babies could care less... they don't even know there's a celebration going on ;)

My kids are only 20 months apart and I had one heck of a baby shower for my second.

I SAY HAVE A BIG ONE!!!!!:giggle:giggle

you are craZy!!!

yea the big thing was taken the wrong way....gotta be careful how ya type things.....geesh

But i told my friend about this thread and she was like "um baby you not even preggo yet!":P "But I' ll make sure everyone comes! :hehe

So sorry for saying BIG....i guess everyone watches "Super Sweet 16" and thought I was one of them chicks....:(
:grin:

I think if your family and friends throw you one than its nice of them, but I think my issue comes with telling them you want one in the first place. I thought it was something people decided to throw for you, not the other way around.

Someone made the comment about it being like a wedding shower...I have a friend who has been married more than once, I find it hard to pony up money for every shower and every wedding she has...

i always thought that was kind of against etiquette rules (unless, like my cousin you have a surprise 10 years or so down the road). things could've changed though :dunno

my girls are 20 months apart and i only had one shower. *personally* i would've felt bad/greedy if i had had a second shower, but everyone is different :D

Definitely go for it! especially if the other was rushed. I think every child should get the same thing. If Layla had a shower the next one should too especially if you want one. I'm sure your friends won't leave you hanging. :lol

I had an awesome shower for my second, it was all family and friends that had seen me grow up. With my first I had a little party with 3 other wives. My mom missed out because I was in Cali and she was in Texas. When we get prego again, I dont think I will be having another although a diaper party sounds awesome!