We may not know why things happen in our lives. Some things we have control over the outcome, others are completely out of our control. That being said, do you believe that things happen for a reason??

i think so... because whether or not we can control EVERYTHING that happens in our lives, we can take whatever comes and learn from it or make the most of it...

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everything happens for a reason, good or bad.

I definitely believe that things happen for a reason. I know certain things in my life, I may have not understood why they were happening, but as time went on, I did. If that makes sense.

yes 100% i believe things happen for a reason

I believe things happen for a reason but then I also believe that time and chance also happen to everyone too. well I need to clarify something. I believe that God is in control and that he doesnt do anything without a reason but I also believe that he does let time and chance happen to people too.

Yes I do.......

Yes.

I totally think EVERYTHING happens for a reason. If it didn't I would spend my life wondering why I didn't do things differently. Ive accepted the things I can't change. And continue my life. YES things happen for a reason!

Yeppers... sure do... half my family thinks I am nuts because of it!

Absolutely. Here's why.

Had I gotten into college and not joined the Army, I wouldn't have gone to AIT (late thanks to 22 weeks of BCT due to appendicitis) and married my jackass ex. Had I not married my jackass ex and moved to Hawaii, and had I NOT lost the baby I lost, he wouldn't have slipped and whoops knocked up his old high school girlfriend. Had he not cheated on me and thus fucking up my head royally, I wouldn't have been too messed up to start a relationship with my one "what might've been" dude. Had I gotten into a relationship with that man (he's wonderful, one of my best friends now), I wouldn't have been driven to my 2 year long ridiculous excuse of a "relationship" with my former latin lover. Had my former latin lover not been a dillhole, and thus driving me to "not look anymore" for a man, I might have never met Sam as he walked by one day at work and I overheard him quoting my favorite movie. (L)

The end. :D

Yes, I do believe things happen for a reason. I've learned so many important life lessons out of all the "bad" things that have happened to me in life and they have only made me stronger and smarter.

I'm a huge believer in everything happens for a reason.

I think God is in control, and I think that every single thing that happens is part of His larger plan. I might not get it, might not see it at the time, might not ever understand - but ultimately, yes He has a reason for everything.

Yes I believe everything happen's for a reason.

It is figuring out what that reason is that makes it hard sometimes :yes

Yep I believe that everything happens for a reason.

Absolutely.

I feel that one event happening is often a catalyst for future happenings.

Wow! Everyone sounds so optimistic. I like it. :D

i think so... because whether or not we can control EVERYTHING that happens in our lives, we can take whatever comes and learn from it or make the most of it...


agree:D;)

Yes I do. The things that we go through, relationships we're in and every aspect of our lives makes us who we are.

yep, I sure do. There are some things that we may never know why they happen, others might take us a while to understand, some we may know right away. Regardless of when we understand, it happened for a reason.

Maybe some things. But not all. I cannot wrap my head around there being a reason that my husband lost his brother at 24 in Oct. Or our neice at 28 days old in dec, or my stepdad at 64 last april. I cannot wrap my head around those types of things and say there is a reasoning behind it. So while maybe some things happen for a reason I definatly do not believe all things happen for a reason.

i think so... because whether or not we can control EVERYTHING that happens in our lives, we can take whatever comes and learn from it or make the most of it...

Well said. That's exactly how I feel. I truly believe EVERYTHING does happen for a reason, even if we never understand why.

I think God is in control, and I think that every single thing that happens is part of His larger plan. I might not get it, might not see it at the time, might not ever understand - but ultimately, yes He has a reason for everything.

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I am gonna be the odd man out! LOL. Surprise, surprise right? Haha.

No, I don't believe that at all. I don't think that everything in our lives happen for the purpose of leading us to a specific end or to teach us a specific lesson. I do, however, believe that everything that happens to us is a potential learning experience and we can CHOOSE to either make the best of it or let it change us for the worst. We give the things that happen in our lives meaning, not the other way around, IMO.

Yup I sure do think things happen for a reason.

Yes, I definitely believe things happen for a reason.

I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, just not always allowed to know the reason

I think God is in control, and I think that every single thing that happens is part of His larger plan. I might not get it, might not see it at the time, might not ever understand - but ultimately, yes He has a reason for everything.


I agree 100%

I am gonna be the odd man out! LOL. Surprise, surprise right? Haha.

No, I don't believe that at all. I don't think that everything in our lives happen for the purpose of leading us to a specific end or to teach us a specific lesson. I do, however, believe that everything that happens to us is a potential learning experience and we can CHOOSE to either make the best of it or let it change us for the worst. We give the things that happen in our lives meaning, not the other way around, IMO.

me too! I think too much and make my head hurt. lol I think it might help people get through things, but no I don't believe that they happen for a reason.

yes.

Yes I believe things happen for a reason

I am utterly fascinated and petrified of and about this topic. The fact that mothers are burying their children, dads are killing all their family members, politicians are starving entire countries and in the end, the earth is going to be obliterated in the cosmic shooting gallery REALLY makes me question the intentions of "God's plan". Each day of our lives is spent in some kind of misery or angst while we search for a sliver of happiness. Where there is no happiness, we make our own. To quote one of my favorite movies, "Life is pain, highness. Anyone who tells you different is selling something."

The altrenate, on the other hand, is simple yet elegant: EVERYTHING is the result of probability. The universe is chaos, and we were born of it. Argue religion until you're blue in the face, and you can't change the fact that our universe holds our collective fates in it's unforgiving grip.

Yeah, sounds melodramatic, I know. I spent all day in a classroom, and this is the only creative outlet I have at the moment. I need a blog.

yes, i definitely think everything happens for a reason, even negative things. I believe this b/c i believe the Bible to be true...so, all the bad things going on in the world, its not a shock to me. Yes, its sad, but I believe God knows what He's doing.

i completely agree that everything happens for a reason or another, even if you don't realize its happening

I am utterly fascinated and petrified of and about this topic. The fact that mothers are burying their children, dads are killing all their family members, politicians are starving entire countries and in the end, the earth is going to be obliterated in the cosmic shooting gallery REALLY makes me question the intentions of "God's plan". Each day of our lives is spent in some kind of misery or angst while we search for a sliver of happiness. Where there is no happiness, we make our own. To quote one of my favorite movies, "Life is pain, highness. Anyone who tells you different is selling something."

The altrenate, on the other hand, is simple yet elegant: EVERYTHING is the result of probability. The universe is chaos, and we were born of it. Argue religion until you're blue in the face, and you can't change the fact that our universe holds our collective fates in it's unforgiving grip.

Yeah, sounds melodramatic, I know. I spent all day in a classroom, and this is the only creative outlet I have at the moment. I need a blog.

I agree. I used to believe that everything happened for a reason. Even after Gabe's cancer, I still believed. But right now, where I am at, I dont believe that anymore. I just cant see Danica's death as "God's Plan". Yes, I am having serious faith issues at the moment.

No I don't think that everything happens for a reason.

I always wondered when I used to be religious (in my younger years) how people could, on one hand believe that everything happened for a reason and that what god wanted to be would be and happen regardless........yet they would have prayer chains for it to turn out differently. If god meant it to be then wasn't his mind already made up:dunno

If anything (in a religious term) I feel that we were left here on earth completely to our own devices..... for me it all boils down to FREEWILL which IMO can't exist if everything is already predetermined :dunno

Absolutely. Every mistake we make, every thing we do right, it puts us on the path we are supposed to be on. I believe everything happens for a reason most certainly!!! I have faith in that belief and it's what I hold on to in the tough times.

I don't have all the answers for myself though, I still don't understand why young people die, why the good people lose out and the bad have it all. I don't understand but I hope to have those answers one day.. and if I do have those answers, it will be because I have experienced and learnt from something that happened, or something I did.

ETA- My faith in this has absolutely nothing to do with god. I don't believe in god. I just have faith in fate.

No I don't think that everything happens for a reason.

I always wondered when I used to be religious (in my younger years) how people could, on one hand believe that everything happened for a reason and that what god wanted to be would be and happen regardless........yet they would have prayer chains for it to turn out differently. If god meant it to be then wasn't his mind already made up:dunno

If anything (in a religious term) I feel that we were left here on earth completely to our own devices..... for me it all boils down to FREEWILL which IMO can't exist if everything is already predetermined :dunno

Thats actually a real valid point and a good way to look at it! I myself am not religious but what you are saying makes perfect sense to me. If it is "gods plan" then why do people pray to change it?

I do know that even tho my mother is religious, it would hurt her tremendously for someone to say the unexpected death of her husbands was in a plan.

Like I said I cannot wrap my mind around that at all. Maybe some things have reasoning and what not behind em. But I definatly do not think all do. Babies die, people get raped, children get sick, die, are shot, killed, families being killed etc. I do not see any "reasoning" behind this as being in a plan. I guess that it just becomes a belief debate more then anything

Babies die, people get raped, children get sick, die, are shot, killed, families being killed etc. I do not see any "reasoning" behind this as being in a plan. I guess that it just becomes a belief debate more then anything

I agree, and I definitely think that my beliefs (or lack of them) is what shapes my views on this. It just makes no sense to me to believe in predetermination. I can't wrap my mind around it. Even when I did believe in God and I was devout Christian I didn't believe in predetermination in any sense. It took all of the purpose of being alive out in my eyes.

Maybe we should start a debate about this! It would be interesting as long as people could stay respectful.

I always wondered when I used to be religious (in my younger years) how people could, on one hand believe that everything happened for a reason and that what god wanted to be would be and happen regardless........yet they would have prayer chains for it to turn out differently. If god meant it to be then wasn't his mind already made up:dunno

If anything (in a religious term) I feel that we were left here on earth completely to our own devices..... for me it all boils down to FREEWILL which IMO can't exist if everything is already predetermined :dunno

I totally believe in free will, and I always have. I am atheist now, but even when I was Christian I believed that we were put on earth to learn and grow, just like everyone else, and we had to choose how to handle the situations that came up. The idea that everything was predetermined took away any reason for living a good life instead of just sinning all the time. If your life is predetermined and no matter what you do, everything that happens only happens to get you to a specific place in the end, what is the purpose of being good when you can be bad and get the same result? And what is the purpose in praying about things if it is all planned out already? Obviously I still have a hard time with it. LOL.

I am utterly fascinated and petrified of and about this topic. The fact that mothers are burying their children, dads are killing all their family members, politicians are starving entire countries and in the end, the earth is going to be obliterated in the cosmic shooting gallery REALLY makes me question the intentions of "God's plan". Each day of our lives is spent in some kind of misery or angst while we search for a sliver of happiness. Where there is no happiness, we make our own. To quote one of my favorite movies, "Life is pain, highness. Anyone who tells you different is selling something."

The altrenate, on the other hand, is simple yet elegant: EVERYTHING is the result of probability. The universe is chaos, and we were born of it. Argue religion until you're blue in the face, and you can't change the fact that our universe holds our collective fates in it's unforgiving grip.

Yeah, sounds melodramatic, I know. I spent all day in a classroom, and this is the only creative outlet I have at the moment. I need a blog.

I agree with ya though... :tu

I agree. I used to believe that everything happened for a reason. Even after Gabe's cancer, I still believed. But right now, where I am at, I dont believe that anymore. I just cant see Danica's death as "God's Plan". Yes, I am having serious faith issues at the moment.

I can relate to you so much on this Donna. When my mom died she was essentially doing everything "right". After years of making bad choices she had gotten off drugs, come back and reunited with her family, made a giant and successful effort to fix all of her wrongs, gone back to church, repented... She was a completely different person. She was taking care of her disabled husband and his children, attending church, and she was a GOOD PERSON. Then she died, out of nowhere, at the age of 47. Way too young, and they never found out why. The cause of her death is still undetermined. From that point on my faith was broken forever because after all of those years of not having her, I finally got her back and God took her away from me even though she was doing everything right. The parents that raised me had both died and I needed her, and then she was taken, too. Now, I find a lot more comfort in knowing that the world is random, we have to make the most of what we have right here right now, and that I need to focus my life and my love on those around me right now instead of focusing on the "maybe"s and "after I die"s. It has actually given my life more meaning to not believe in God, and since I consider the life I am living right now my only chance to find happiness, I go after it and do everything I can to bring it to those around me. I have purpose. And I feel an appreciation for what I have and a gratitude for the time I did get with those that I love who have died that I never had before.

Anyway, I am not telling you that because I think I am right and other people are wrong. I just want you to know that I understand the place you are in because I have been there too, and whatever beliefs you hold when you emerge on the other side, I hope you can find something that makes you feel better and enriches your life. :hugs

I am gonna be the odd man out! LOL. Surprise, surprise right? Haha.

No, I don't believe that at all. I don't think that everything in our lives happen for the purpose of leading us to a specific end or to teach us a specific lesson. I do, however, believe that everything that happens to us is a potential learning experience and we can CHOOSE to either make the best of it or let it change us for the worst. We give the things that happen in our lives meaning, not the other way around, IMO.

:yes As usual you said it first and much better than I could.

:yes I believe things happen for a reason. I may not understand the reason at the time, or ever, but I do believe there is one.

i do believe in things happening for a reason. the why is hard to explain and a little lengthy if i tried. and believe me i've tried to explain many times for people. you'd think i'd have it down by now. the best thing is to say that if you'd like i've given a link to an article by Rabbi Shraga Simmons. it's very good! he pretty much covers it all...

http://judaism.about.com/library/3_askrabbi_o/bl_simmons_murder.htm

In a way I do... I think things have a way of working themselves out or happening for a reason. But I also think you have to "help" those things out a little bit by putting in effort sometimes.

You're not going to get a job if you don't send out resumes.
You're not going to get a good grade on a test if you don't study.
You aren't going to have a baby unless you have sex! :P
You aren't going to find "the one" unless you date.

But then on the other hand...
You might get stuck in traffic because you aren't supposed to be somewhere on the road ahead because you aren't supposed to get in an accident.
And all those reasons why people didn't go to work on the day of 9/11 at the Towers... either they woke up late, kid was sick, missed their bus/subway... I think all those things were supposed to happen to them (even if they thought it was a bad thing at the time cuz they weren't going to make it into work or be late), but they weren't supposed to be in those buildings.

JMO...

Yes, I do. Good, bad, or ugly, everything has a reason for happening.