I am new at this deployment life. I have been reading some other postings and they say stay busy. I have been doing that, but at the same time it doesn't seem enough. I don't really have any support from family since they don't want to see us together while he is away. And my friends never really understand and never know what to do when I get sad :tearsfrom missing him. I was just wondering if there was anything else that could be done or if anyone can suggest what they did or is doing...anything will help!!!

It' so hard. I've found that it gets better as time goes along. You don't stop missing him but i guess you get usest to being alone. I get into reading, working, being with my son and hanging out with my friends as much as I can. I'm not sure what i'll do when they all go back to school. It's good if you can be around other SO's that know what your going through. Maybe try to find a group you can be a part of.

first, welcome to the site! i know you'll enjoy it and find more than enough support from everyone. :) second, i was in a boat very similar to yours. my friends and most of all my family, didn't understand why i would want to get involve and then marry someone in the military. and yep, while he was away, i had those same moments of sadness and they had no idea what to do with me. i believe it was someone on this site that said, "cry in private everytime you need to cry. because you don't want to find yourself crying to the cashier at the grocery store." strange, but it works! third, write to him everyday--even if you don't or can't send the letters; even the everyday mundane things, put those in there as well. my hubby told me that it really helped him knowing that i was leading my life as close to normal as possible. i left out how often i cried for him--did say i missed him--but not that i cried and so he said i sound very strong and capable. and i learned that i was! if you act emotionally strong, you'll become emotionally strong. i wish you all the best! :hugs anything else, just pm me. i'm on pretty much every day...

yeah i know how ya feel my family isent real supportive and my friends well thay dont understand how hard it is, so what i did was i wrote him a letter everyday or whenever i missed him and also i made him a small picture album to send him with pictures of us togeather and of me and other things from home. and it helped me becuase i knew he'd like it and it help him because i knew he missed me just as much as i missed him so it helped me to know that i was helping make it easier for him too.

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Welcome to SOS! The ladies here will help you get through deployment and such. :)

It would be a wonderful thought to say that as time goes by it get easier, but alas it doesn't. But what does happen, is you start finding different ways to show your love for him, and thats what helps you get through the day with a feeling of satisfaction. For example: sending him care packages is a great way spend time packing your love into a box with pictures, supplies he might need, entertainment items for him, and maybe even food goodies. These packages always give me a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment which makes me feel better about the time and space between us. You can also start doing the things you wanted to do but didn't have time for before like I've started a couple months ago taking tae kwon do, which takes out A LOT of stress, and he thinks its pretty cool, so he always wants to know how I'm doing. I guess everybody is a little different but our love for our men is all the same and always enduring.

Welcome!! Well for me I do what a lot of these ladies said. I write him letters every time I feel like falling apart. I started back at school to stay busy. I do little crafts to surprise him when he gets home. Most of all I just stayed busy. There are still times that I breakdown and want to email him that him being gone is a mistake and can they send him home but that is when I allow myself to cry, there is nothing wrong with crying. When you are done, eat ice cream and have a pity party. Then get up and do something fun. I you ever need to talk feel free to pm me