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I am going through some mix emotions now! my dh told me he wants to extend for a year in korea! He almost finshed his tour but knows wants to extended. He says all business nothing personal to make extra money! I am hurt but he tells me to suck it up so we will be better moneywise! he didn't come home mid leave cause he don't have enough leave he has been gone since Jan. I don't know what to do! I am hurt, angry and etc. Why would he do this to me to our family! I understand totally what he is saying! i know he don't want to go back to iraq either he been 2 times! But i feel like i can't take it! It is hard being alone! Help! Should i be angry or just keep on! I thought them orders got to be approve! I pray that they don't approve! Being he is married with small kids! Help me!:biting

Wow, that is a tough one. I know how hard it is, and what you are feeling. I think you should talk to him some more and make sure you let him know exactly how you feel. I hope it works out for you. Are you near family? If not and you two decide this is for the best, maybe you can go closer to home. Good luck sweetie!:bigsadhug

That's a tough one. But, think how you'd feel if he came home, then immediately got deployed to Iraq for 15-18 months? Just saying that he obviously has his reasons, KWIM?

:hugs Can't really offer much other info. I'm pretty sure the extension has to be approved, yes. And, this is something you two will have to work out amongst yourselves - at least he should have lots of leave building up!

:whewThanks you guys! I just feel real lonely! that is not good at all! I live real close to family now! But he is my family and I love him! You hear about all these stories about korea? Then you know what kind of hubbie you got! I got a good one though at times altitudes but that is normal! I get real work up! I just miss him bad! I don't know what to do this is our 4th deployment in 9 years! But they being back to back and it is hard! When u don't live in post or near anyone that don't understand it's rough!

hey, I am sure that the things you are thinking arent true. It cant be easy for him either, but the other lady brought up a good point, him being in Korea does help ensure that he wont go to Iraq or Afghanistan right now. Hang in there. I hope it all works out for you

Hang in there hun!!!! But yes, if he's in Korea, he won't be going to Afghanistan or Iraq any time soon!!! IMO(just my thought!)-the moeny shouldn't matter-DH and I would rather stay together and worry about money rather then be appart and have tons of it. But that's a decision that the both of you will have to talk about and come to together!! Good luck and I hope you guys get it figured out!!!

I'm so sorry sweetie, I know that has to be frustrating.. If it were me, I'd sit him down.. tell him he's crazy first... LOL Then I'd say.. I'd rather have you here with me then the money.. Just IMO. We're all here for you!

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I'm so sorry, i would try to talk to him and convince him, and if he really doesn't want to listen to you,...then show off the guns.I just think is not worth the money if you have to lose a marriegge.I would feel exactlly like you.
Hope it all works for the good