I'm sitting here crying to myself... I feel so alone, so lost, so upset... I just want to be in his arms. I want him to be here. I feel like we're disconnected right now and I don't know how to fix that.... I get worried that he is going to feel we're changing and not want to be with me anymore... Is that ridiculous and immature? Does anyone have any advice to help that feeling go away?


It's probably that everyone in my life is busy and I seem to always be alone and thinking about db and wanting him to be here.

I'm trying to be strong for the both of us, but it's soooo hard......
Please help with advice.. :sadwave

I think those fears of feeling disconnected are normal, I mean at how can you not help but feel that way at times when you can't reach out and touch your SO?! And when I happen to be alone that's always the worst for me, that's when I really unintentionally focus on missing DB even more.

My only advice or thoughts are that relationships grow and change, that's just a part of it, you keep communicating with your DB and I'm confident you two will be able to get through the changes together! I think seeing how far you come as a couple and getting through hard times like this are some of the rewarding experiences that relationships bring you. Hang in there!!!:hugs

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No, I had the same fears too. It's hard to know what they are thinking without the constant physical communication of days past. I would just keep reassuring him that you are there for him and try to be there for him as much as possible and then he might be willing to explain to you how much he misses you too.

In the meantime, try to keep yourself busy to prevent yourself from overthinking everything. I myself overthink things all the time and I know firsthand just how ugly it can get!

I'm sorry... I know what that's like... I wish I could take on that feeling for you for a little while... give you some relief from it... I'd take it for the night if I could, i'm sorry I can't..

But you're not completely alone, you have us to lean on. I know it's not much at all, but maybe it could be something..

Maybe things will feel better tomorrow.. You only have a few more weeks to go.. :hugehug

You are all so amazing. Thank you SO much... That all made me feel better... I just wish he would call me more often, but it seems when I ask, he does it less. I know he's tired, I know he works hard, and I also know we will be ok, but it gets hard ((as we all know)).

I guess I get scared that if we don't talk all the time, he'll think he doesn't need me anymore... Is that normal?

I totally understand how you are feeling... mine is in maine and i am stuck here in hawaii... I guess it kinda helps to know your not alone.. there are more of us out here who feel exactly the same...tears and all..

hey girl....:goodvibes:glomp
i couldn't say that it goes away...it gets better though it really just does take time...i was the same way with db...i was sure that without constant contact with me he'd forget that he loved me or something...but rest assured if he loves you then he's prolly just as worried and thinking about you all the time too. You should hang in there for him, and just take it one day at a time

I'm sorry... I know what that's like... I wish I could take on that feeling for you for a little while... give you some relief from it... I'd take it for the night if I could, i'm sorry I can't..

But you're not completely alone, you have us to lean on. I know it's not much at all, but maybe it could be something..

Maybe things will feel better tomorrow.. You only have a few more weeks to go.. :hugehug

Well said Lindsay.

I know how you feel... Today was the worst for me so far and it hasn't even been a month... I REALLY DISLIKE Sundays with a passion now because I don't have anything to do. I want to relax but when I do I start thinking alot and that leads to crying and just feeling horrible. Its just so hard without my husband sometimes, but like the other girls said you're not alone! I just keep thinking every day that passes is one closer to him being here again.

you're feelings and fears are totally normal, sweetie. we've all felt them, so don't think that there is something wrong with you. i have the same fears with joe not being able to call me. hang in there, tho. you've gotten this far. and like the girls said, you only have a few more weeks left. be strong. :hugs