I am new to ALL of this, I just got engeged about a month ago, and my fioncee left for basic almost a week ago. I am new to the military ways of life, and I am soon to be new to the life of a military wife. I have so many questions and concerns about everything. Is it really as hard to be a Army wife as everyone says? I am begging for some help here! I love Brett more than anything in the entire world, but I am terrified of everything that is happening. My cousin (who is army) told me that EVERYONE in the military, including those in basic are getting 2 weeks leave for christmas. I want to believe him, but I dont understand how that would be possible. I don't want to be that girl that isnt even married to a soldier yet and is already complaining, but I am desperate for some people to talk to that actually understand where I am coming from. I am desperate for some truth to the questions that I have been lied to on so many times already. I guess I thought the day would never actually come that he would leave. My friends are trying to talk me out of marrying him because "if its this hard to be away from him during bootcamp, can you actually handle the military life?" and "if your this upset now, how are you going to be when he leaves for Iraq or something when you cant see him for a year or more" I guess the way I see it is if and when he goes to Iraq, We will still be able to email and write and talk on the phone. I havnt gotten a phone call yet. I am begining to understand the phraise "you know its not true when it starts out with my recruter said.." I dont know what else to say here, but please help me!! Elizabeth :depressed

Hi there, first of all, welcome to SOS! I'm not sure where to start, except to say, yes it is hard to be a military wife, but it is not impossible. Don't let anyone who hasn't experienced it discourage you, they know of only the hardships and none of the joys. I can't help loving my dh, even in spite of the harder path we have chosen, how would it be easier not to be his wife?

There's a tremendous amount of support available for military SO's, this website is one great example. There are lots of Army wives who will be able to give you great advice, feel free to jump in with any questions you have.

And my hubby is Navy, and it would be very unusal to get 2 weeks leave at Christmas, it's only one. Half the base on leave the first week, the other half the second week. But like I said we're Navy, not sure if that goes the same in the Army.

Hope I helped answer some questions, good luck and welcome again!

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:hi Well I'm not sure how much I can help you since I'm new to the Army life and recently engaged too. I know this website has helped me a lot and everyone is very nice. The phone calls will start soon and depending where he is it may only be once a week for 2 minutes or it could be more. The more time that goes by the more priveledges that he can earn. And I've learned that my friends don't really understand what I'm going through so it's hard to talk to them about it. Hang in there, y'all will make it.

Hey Elizabeth! Welcome to SOS!

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Welcome Elizabeth! :hi I wish I could be of help with his matter but i met my DB after he had already been in the Navy for a few years. We're all here though if you need to talk. :hugehug

thanks for all the support everyone.. its much needed and appreciated!

Brett fineally called home last night! :D we only talked for a min and 45 sec. (I'm not that obsessive, my cell has a timer!!) but I feel a lot better. I still miss him like crazy, but it feels good to know he misses me too. is it wrong of me to be happy hes homesick??? There off to a rough start, someone is stealing from everyone, and there having to do PT from like 2 am on.. I know that this is what he signed up for, but I can't help but feel bad for him!

what is DB?

:heythere Welcome to SOS!

Hi and welcome!

what is DB?

Dear Boyfriend

DH = Dear Husband
DS= Dear Son
DD= Dear Daughter
DF= Dear Fiancee

Welcome to the forum.
Its hard being a military wife, but I'm sure you can do it!
During Christmas time last year hubby had 2 weeks off, but he just got lucky!
Your guy might get 2 weeks off after all. You really never know for sure.

Hello & welcome to SOS:D

welcome!

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Welcome to SOS! I am Kristy, mother of 3, Marine spouse of 13 years.

For the most part they do get 2 weeks or so off for Christmas. However, that doesn't mean they can't be assigned duty if they have not taken leave. And they may have to go in for a little here and there.

As for your friends, they won't ever understand. Of course we fuss about things, are we supposed to be all chipper and praising the fact our men are gone for long periods of time. I think not. Of course you're upset, that doesn't mean you can't deal with it, it just means you need a little more support.