hey everyone, i just needed some encouragement... we are towards the end of this deployment.. but it seems like its taking forever!!:depressed i try to keep looking forward to it... then questions come to mind....:sadeyes will he be the same, will he still love me? will things be the same... :dunno and on top of that.. i'm gettin nightmares of when i a kid...and i wake up and feel like i'm sleepwalking.. i'm so tired.. losing enthusiam.... please help me!:confuzzle:sadeyes:tears:sigh:gloomy:lonely

Well those doubts you are getting are soooooooo normal it's not funny. I was petrified of him seeing me just after 9 months (for leave), I beat myself up on it sooooo much beforehand. But as soon as I saw him, and he saw me- I knew it was going to be ok and I had worried for no reason at all.

You will be fine. Try to relax. Just think positive and to the future.

I'm sorry about the dreams aswell.. I don't really have much advice for you there.. but perhaps these dreams are coming up because you are stressed and anxious?

Well I hope homecoming goes wonderful for you! I'm sure when he sees you he will love you more than ever!

CHEER UP !!! Your on the downside now!!! Go get a pedicure or something for you!!!

I think alot feel that way, after all its been along time since you have seen each other. But I bet you he is just as nervous and excited to be coming home to you. Like the other lady said, when you see each other all your fears will dissapear :)

Go and do something for you today.

The nightmares, I am having the same problem, since my SO left I have not slept good and have horrible dreams and I have no idea why either but I know how you feel. I think maybe it's because our brains are on overdrive all day and when we try and sleep it wont shut down.

Start pampering yourself and doing things to make you feel good, start today!

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YEA~~i'm pretty sure that i am STRESSED!!:biting i'm gettin my paperwork for my separation and they keep coming back to me, sayin they need this and need that. when they tell me they have everything that they need! :banghead
and me not gettin that much sleep isnt really helping.. and i just miss him so much... i really want one of his hugs and kisses! on top of that, i prolly wont be able to hear from him for 4-5 weeks... there might be no phones where he's going.. so thats making me sad:sadeyes
but i am truly thankful for all your support! i know that i can come on here and just write what i want... and then you guys just support me throughout all this.... :rolleyes
i'm really thinkin about the pedicure!!:mrgreen

i try to keep looking forward to it... then questions come to mind....:sadeyes will he be the same, will he still love me? will things be the same... :dunno and on top of that.. i'm gettin nightmares of when i a kid...and i wake up and feel like i'm sleepwalking.. i'm so tired.. losing enthusiam.... please help me!:confuzzle:sadeyes:tears:sigh:gloomy:lonely

Ask yourself this...if he comes back different, will you still love him and want to be with him (provided if it was serious stuff happening he would get treatment)? Would you still want to be the one that holds his hand while you both readjust to life here.

And as for will he still love you.....Are you 100% sure he loved you to begin with? If so, then why would he just stop? Are you able to turn your feelings off like that? Keep in mind just because a man may be stressed/depressed/etc and say he doesn't love, you will be able to tell if he's only saying it to protect you.

As for the sleep, make sure you get an OTC sleep aid for the 2 nights prior to his homecoming. You want to be as rested and fresh as possible. You won't get addicted after just 2 nights on them, so don't worry. Maybe try to just get a sample pack or something.

Good luck!

I think it's pretty normal to feel that way. I'm starting to get inklings of fears, I think too. And the nightmares, yuck. I feel you there... This too shall pass, eh? I hope you can get some rest too and quiet your mind.

The end is always the hardest!!!! It'll be here soon enough!!!!! :bigsadhug:bigsadhug:bigsadhug:bigsadhug

ugh im at the end too and im feeling nervous/anxious as well. it has been so long since we have seen eachother, i know deep down everything will be fine but i can't help those thoughts that creep up sometimes too! and now that it is soclose it seems like the time is creeeeeeping by and it is making me feel even more :screwy

hang in there, i think it's perfectly normal to feel the way you are but i am sure that as soon as you guys see eachother things will feel normal and fine and you will be so happy and relieved. :hugs :hugs we are here for you to pass the time! i hope it starts to go quickly for you!

The other ladies gave some good advice. Hang in there, you're almost there. :hugs

hugs I been feeling the same lately and we have about two more weeks left

thank you so much for all the kind words... i know things will be ok, but like some of you said.. questions just come up! but not hearing from him for a few weeks.. will be kinda hard. but i know that i count on you guys to get me through this.. thank you all so much!:yes