So DF gets back from the sandbox in March...we are getting married...I graduate in May, and he deploys again in July. To move or not to move?

So I'm in WI, and his duty station is in Cali, so we will already not be together until after I graduate. Originally I was going to move to Cali because he wasn't supposed to deploy until January. I know things can still change, but I'm a planner, so...

If I move out to Cali, I would be looking for a more permanent job out there, he has a car out there, and we would have an apartment all set up for when he returns. Other option is to either keep my place in WI, or move closer to my parents (about 4 hours north, still in WI) and find a temporary job around here until he returns from the second deployment. I know the arguments for staying near friends and family, but at the same time, I have been living on my own for 5 years, at least 2-4 hours from family. In the past year, I have mainly had phone/online relationships with friends and family which would be the same if I lived in Cali. DF doesn't want me to be out there and be depressed with no one there, though.

Any advice?

sweet! i made it 100%:lol--i said move out there, coz once you set up shop and make yourself a home and community i think you will be fine, but if you go without being committed to staying it will be hard, and no way do you want to not be where he is stationed...its the best place to be i think

I personally think you should go to cali and get set up there. I understand that he will be deploying again, but you guys will be married and you can have his home ready for him. so when he gets back you have a steady job, nice house and are prepared. I moved all the way to Italy knowing my hubby is gonna deploy soon, but that is just how i want it. I want him to know what he has to look foward to when he comes home. good luck with your choice.

I think you should go to Cali. If you are already used to being on your own, I think it will make it easier that you can work on making your home and everything while he is gone.