when my lovely husband volunteered me to babysit the 4 year old terror, the little girl got pissed because I told her I wasnt putting a movie in right that second and she pulled on the xbox cords throwing a fit and broke the prongs of the av cables off into my TV (I did get them out though). Tim told me not to worry about telling her parents but I dont think its fair that we have to replace it, if lauryin broke something at their house I would certanily shell out the cash to replace what she had broken. Should I ask this girls parents to replace it or not?

she broke the cables? or the TV?

I hope you stuck her in a timeout for acting like a beastie.. :spank

Um her parents would be notified! I dealt with a similiar (though not as distructive) situation and I didn't know whether to tell but I am glad I did because the Dad thanked me for it!

I would talk to the parents. That is not ok to do, especially at a strangers house!

she broke the cables the prongs were stuck in my tv. My husband was supposed to be watching her and didnt. He thinks just because we say something they wont want to babysit lauryin or ryan (which I dont want them to anyway I dont like anyone but my family watching them). She got stuck in the corner oh god that was one hell of a night. But I want them to atleast know, tim thinks its no big deal

If it was the RCA cable, I wouldn't sweat it, but I'd definetely make it clear to the parents that their child has a self control problem.. Most RCA cables are cheap, (well, unless they're gold plated)..

If my kid acted like that at someone else's house, there'd be hell to pay when we got home. I would want to know if it was my kid..

I'd at least tell them about it.....and hopefully they'll be decent enough people to offer to replace it without you mentioning it.

I would tell them about the tantrum but I wouldnt ask them to pay for it. YOu said yourself that you husband was suppossed to be watching her. So its kinda his fault too.

I would want to know if my child did that at someone's house. I would also feel obligated to pay for the damages. Luckily those cords are very cheap, they run about $20 or less. It's not attached to the Xbox either so you're good there.

i would tell them

If its not expensive to replace I wouldn't ask them to replace it, but I would at least let them know how their child acted... I would want to know if my child acted that way. I actually make it a point to ask how he was when someone watches my child. Besides the child may mention to her parents that she was put in time out and doesn't know why... then the parents would be mad.

Manners would tell us that, since the child was under our care, any damage the child does would be our financial responsibility, not that of the child's parent. I would, however, bring up that during her stay she got upset (DON'T overexaggerate or underexaggerate) and broke the cords. Insist it was your financial responsibility, but that her acting out like that may be linked to a problem that should be looked into. BE TACTFUL. Most parents don't respond well to outside opinion when it's not asked for.

I would let them know so they have the chance to offer to pay if they feel like they should.

:yes I would want someone to tell me if my monster broke or messed up there house so he or I could fix it.

I'd at least tell them about it.....and hopefully they'll be decent enough people to offer to replace it without you mentioning it.
:agree

I would want to know if my child did that at someone's house. I would also feel obligated to pay for the damages. Luckily those cords are very cheap, they run about $20 or less. It's not attached to the Xbox either so you're good there.


I agree!!! i'd wanna know too cuz my kids get disciplined for acting that way. but i would see if the parents volunteer to pay for it just to see... and to not further any arguments there might be

I agree with everyone else. The parents need to be told how their child acted. If it was inexpensive, I wouldn't even mention replacing it. Let them bring it up if they are going to. And, I wouldn't watch their kid anymore.

I'd want to know if my child threw a fit that big. as far as replacing that is iffy.. I know i would offer to pay for it. because it was damage done by my child. but to not tell at all wouldn't be right.. what if she had broken something more expenisve?

Manners would tell us that, since the child was under our care, any damage the child does would be our financial responsibility, not that of the child's parent. I would, however, bring up that during her stay she got upset (DON'T overexaggerate or underexaggerate) and broke the cords. Insist it was your financial responsibility, but that her acting out like that may be linked to a problem that should be looked into. BE TACTFUL. Most parents don't respond well to outside opinion when it's not asked for.

I absolutely agree. HAHA first time I think. Anyway if the child is under a certain age IMO then any damages that happen are on you're shoulders. A 4 y/o has to watched constantly when it is NOT you're child..kwim. I would however tell the parents that there was one issue. When their dd asked to watch a movie and you told you not at the exact second she throw a fit and started breaking things.

I'd at least tell them about it.....and hopefully they'll be decent enough people to offer to replace it without you mentioning it.

My thought exactly.

Manners would tell us that, since the child was under our care, any damage the child does would be our financial responsibility, not that of the child's parent. I would, however, bring up that during her stay she got upset (DON'T overexaggerate or underexaggerate) and broke the cords. Insist it was your financial responsibility, but that her acting out like that may be linked to a problem that should be looked into. BE TACTFUL. Most parents don't respond well to outside opinion when it's not asked for.

hmm :thinking I hadn't thought of it that way. I would still feel obligated to pay for something my child broke through bad manners as a guest in someone else's house. I suppose that as a babysitter you are responsible for the child in the parent's absence though, so if it were to come down to it technically it IS the husband's responsibility as he was watching her. If they offer you could always politely decline.

I would want to know what my child's behavior was like anyhow though, whether or not he broke anything.

I would let them know so they have the chance to offer to pay if they feel like they should.

that is exactly what I would do.

I'd just let them know what happened......I never expect a parent to pay for anything if their child breaks something and it actually happened here yesterday. However if I am the parent of the child that broke something I always offer to replace it or give them money.....

My youngest broke a snow globe at a friends house....I couldn't replace it and she wouldn't take money so I sent her flowers instead

hmm :thinking I hadn't thought of it that way. I would still feel obligated to pay for something my child broke through bad manners as a guest in someone else's house. I suppose that as a babysitter you are responsible for the child in the parent's absence though, so if it were to come down to it technically it IS the husband's responsibility as he was watching her. If they offer you could always politely decline.

I would want to know what my child's behavior was like anyhow though, whether or not he broke anything.

Oh I agree I would feel obligated as well.

Tell them what she did (I want to know if my son does anything wrong, and always tell other parets if their child acts up), if the offer to pay, good, if not, don't sweat it.

definatly tell them, at the very least maybe they will teach her to behave better:goodvibes

I agree, you should tell them. It's not a big deal to replace them, but they can still make the effort! I would want to know if my children behaved that way, so I'm sure they want to know too.

If one of my kids did that I would want the person I left them with to tell me and then I would pay them for it or pick it up myself for them. If I was watching a kid that did that I would speak with the parent(s).

i would notify her parents

If that were my child, I would want to know about her aberrant behavior so I could nip that stuff in the bud right quick! I hate it when DD misbehaves at her grandparents' house and they look the other way because they are the grandparents. Not that she misbehaves much, she's generally a great kid but I want to know if she's being a butt.

I would totally offer to pay for the cables too if that were my kid. Heck, Lydia accidentally knocked over this ass-ugly vase at my Inlaws and I offered to replace it :lmao My MIL said she was glad it was broken.

I would WANT to know if my child did acted like that and broke something for 3 reasons
1) I can buy a new whatever it is my child broke
2) So my child could PROPERLY apologize with a letter and a verbal I am sorry
3) So I know what my child is acting like while I am gone...

My daughter accidentally broke a glass at a friend's house and we went together to the store, picked out new glasses for them and took them over to say sorry. I want my kids to learn actions have consequences.

They should offer to fix it.

Manners would tell us that, since the child was under our care, any damage the child does would be our financial responsibility, not that of the child's parent. I would, however, bring up that during her stay she got upset (DON'T overexaggerate or underexaggerate) and broke the cords. Insist it was your financial responsibility, but that her acting out like that may be linked to a problem that should be looked into. BE TACTFUL. Most parents don't respond well to outside opinion when it's not asked for.

I agree. As a parent, I would want to know about my child's bad behavior so I could correct it, but I would be pissed if they EXPECTED me to replace the item since THEY were the ones in charge of my child and I was not there to prevent it. I would want to replace the item though as I'd feel bad and I'd also want that action to help teach my child. If I was present, I think I should be expected to replace it.