So me and bf were talking about future bachlorette and bachlor parties and he is like no strippers and if u do go no touching of anything on him. And me I am like go to a strip club for your bachlor party.. get some lap dances just dont go any farther, have fun... :dance

So lets hear your opinions girls and guys...
How do you feel about strip clubs?

Big NO NO here

I didn't have any type of striper for mine..... hang on, I went to a night club and my mother-in-law convinced some random guy to climb up on the table and give us a show, he got his shirt off and security got him. My brothers organised a striper for DH, he didn't enjoy it, and the only guy I want to see naked is him.

I dont have any kind of a hate for strip clubs as long as its a single guy going doesnt bother me. But as far as my DH going, I dont like the idea but he isnt into that kind of stuff anyway so its not an issue with us.

if he goes into a strip club...
he dies:shoot

I'm too insecure with myself to trust that he'll ever find me attractive after oogling other women.

I'm not the prettiest peach on the tree.

I don't like them, and my DH better not ever think of going to one:tsktsk

Dh and I go every once in awhile, neither one of us really care one way or the other as long as we dont go by ourselves it dont matter

Luckily I don't think DB is interested.... :D

I mean, why pay his hard earned $$$ to see untouchable boobies when he can look and touch mine for free? :D

(sorry that's kinda dirty...)

Personally, I think man-strippers are scary. Bad experience... ::shudders::

I am not to worried about it.. If he goes he goes.. as long as he's honest about it then I don't mind to much ( yeah it might bother me alittle, but not a lot) besides he's coming home to be at the end of the night anyway :)

i'd say no here too...i mean maybe its just the state i live in but if you walk in places like that you have to :scared its just not good...that and i know db would enjoy it too much where he is

Man or woman...you don't know where that thing has been. And you can't see most sexually transmitted diseases. If those parts touch you, then the bacteria can get on your hands, and if you don't know it, you don't wash them right away, then next thing you know your eye itches or you've laughed so hard your eyes are watering. You wipe your eye, and boom! You have basically put their bacteria in your body.

So what I'm saying is, it's disgusting!

i have no problems at all with the strip clubs... i have taken x's to them for birthdays and stuff... it's fun.

DH can go with his buddies...it does not bother me one bit.

I don't like male strip clubs because the guys are so fake and corney, plus I don't like the shaved down look..give me a dude with some chest hair.

me personally it might bother me depending the group dh went with. if i trusted the other guys in the group then no i wouldn't have a problem but if it was some guys that i don't know then i would have a problem. i think you as a couple need to work it out between yourselves because what's right/ok for one couple might not be for another

DH can go with his buddies...it does not bother me one bit.

I don't like male strip clubs because the guys are so fake and corney, plus I don't like the shaved down look..give me a dude with some chest hair.

:lol

i plan on taking db to the strip club when he gets home. :D

I went to strip clubs a LONG time ago and it is no big deal to me. I dont see the allure but then of course the last time I went to one I saw my ex-wifes sister on stage, talk about an odd situation.

I don't have any problem with it, as long as he's coming home to me.

I give strippers credit, if they can get some sap to give them their money.. More power to them.

I dont personally have a problem with them, I think im beautiful.. So my self esteem is good. I wouldn't totally mind it, though I would rather go with him..

As for me going to a male strip joint, I get nothing out of it.

I asked my DF about him wanting to go to a strip joint and this is what he said:

DF:
why would I want to go to a strip club? I have you, you can dance naked on my lap

:teehee :blush

I give strippers credit, if they can get some sap to give them their money.. More power to them.

I dont personally have a problem with them, I think im beautiful.. So my self esteem is good. I wouldn't totally mind it, though I would rather go with him..

As for me going to a male strip joint, I get nothing out of it.

I asked my DF about him wanting to go to a strip joint and this is what he said:

DF:
why would I want to go to a strip club? I have you, you can dance naked on my lap
:teehee :blush

sounds like something my hubby would say

DH and i would sometimes go to NOL together.mostly to play pool or to the little shop they have in there....but it was really no big deal to me.as long as we go together then thats ok with me.

hrmm. i haven't given it much thought.

he'd probably flip out on me (not that i would want to go anyway) but i think i would let him go (if he wanted to).

in one of his letters to me he said that when ever all the guys see a gir lthey are like "oooo! i want some of that!" and db would be like, "man, i got something waaay better than that waitin' for me at home." he's such a doll. (L)

With the ex- oh hell no! I knew better then to trust him. But now, with DB, I wouldn't be :bliss about it but really, it's not like he hasn't seen naked women before and I trust him to be smart & not let anything stupid happen.

I give strippers credit, if they can get some sap to give them their money.. More power to them.

I dont personally have a problem with them, I think im beautiful.. So my self esteem is good. I wouldn't totally mind it, though I would rather go with him..

As for me going to a male strip joint, I get nothing out of it.

I asked my DF about him wanting to go to a strip joint and this is what he said:

DF:
why would I want to go to a strip club? I have you, you can dance naked on my lap

:teehee :blush


I'm starting to wonder 2 things here :suspect

Are we, in fact, the same person?

and

Are we, in fact, seeing the same man?


:suspect

:rofl

I couldn't care less about them! If DH wants to go, so be it! I have no urge to go to one, though!

So me and bf were talking about future bachlorette and bachlor parties and he is like no strippers and if u do go no touching of anything on him. And me I am like go to a strip club for your bachlor party.. get some lap dances just dont go any farther, have fun... :dance

So lets hear your opinions girls and guys...
How do you feel about strip clubs?

A bachelorette party? :thinkin

So, you want to have one last fling with a man who's physically more attractive then your fiancee before you get saddled with a lifelong commitment of marriage?

hmm.. My opinion? It's sophomoric and juvenile that a person who's going to go into a marraige would want to have "fun" like that in a strip club, and I would think that they're not ready to get married..

But that's just my opinion.

I find strip clubs to be rather glum, depressing and oozing with the stench of broken dreams and watered down booze. Not one of those girls there grew up wanting to strip, but bills need to be paid. Inversely, probably EVERY one of those guys planned on being in strip clubs. It's a matter of chemistry. Men are visual, women are emotional. For us guys, it's a matter of seeing something we "aren't supposed to see". I can't equate an emotional equivelant to women, but I'm pretty sure it's not unlike a watching your favorite soap opera. Both make the witnesser uneasy, anxious and a feelings of dread and elation are intermingled.

"Eye candy" has it's place, I just don't see any need to go to a strip club. I have a wife, an imagination and a good hour and a half after the kids go to bed.

I'm starting to wonder 2 things here :suspect

Are we, in fact, the same person?

and

Are we, in fact, seeing the same man?


:suspect

:rofl
I hope not! :roflmao

They are a waste of time and money IMO. I'm thankful my husband has NO desire to step foot into one.

Just as long as dh is honest about being there or going to one I could care less....just don't lie about it
As for me...BTDT, it was stupid and sucky so I wouldn't do it again

My DH has gone into them before with guys from his unit when they are on their 2 week drill thing every year (last year they did it in Key West and a bunch of them went to the booby bar). I'm pretty much okay with it, I know he mostly goes to babysit the younger guys in his group and make sure nobody gets into too much trouble. I'm secure enough in my relationship that I don't really see it as that big a deal.

I personally wouldn't go to a male strip club because I'm not really into big muscle-y guys, I like nerdy pasty ones :lmao

Dont really care for them.. but if DH wants to go to one(which he has had plenty of chances and doesnt go) it doesnt bother me.

Not to get too off topic here, but while male strip clubs would never get me *hot*, hiring a male stripper to come clean my house WOULD do something for me.. hahaha:D

ehhh db has gone to the strip clubs before, when we were together, and he has always told me about it. now that we are more serious then ever, id really prefer it if he not go. i know for his bachelor party he will go, they went to one for his cousin's bachelor party last year. at the end of the night he is coming home to me, and i have nothing to worry about. it will not become a habit or anything like that, if it's a special occasion sure that's fine but just for the hell of it....nopers

as for me, ive seen male strippers once, and that was traumatic enough for me for the rest of my life, i have no desire to see that again, and i have never been to a strip club of any type, and never really want to go, not my style.

in general though, if you want to strip and choose that for a living, thats fine for you have fun.

Perosnally, for his bachelor party...i wouldnt really care. its just one night, and its harmless, i know he wouldnt do anything lame. but he told me...absolutely NO strippers or strip clubs, which is fine bc i have absolutely no desire for that. but other than for a bachelor party...its a no no for us. i just think its trashy and unnecessary.

DH and I used to go to the one in our hometown all the time together. But I do not like him going without me, nor would I ever want to go without him


For any future references DO NOT HIRE IN HOME STRIPPERS THEY ARE MUCH DIFFERENT

Personal experience Yuck

well i guess it depends. I wouldn't have a problem with DB having a stripper at his bachelor party, I trust him and know how against cheating he is. But I also know him and that he would never be into that kind of thing. And I'm not really into that kind of thing. I guess it just depends on the couple.

I don't care that he goes- he will go hang with friends once in a while or we have gone together-

and If I had the chance to see the guys I would be ALL over it!! and DH wouldn't care-

the philosophy at our house " it doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home to eat"

or "you look at the menu you just can't order from it"

Nope no way...He has never been and Ive never seen a male stripper..

I'm totally not interested in going to any strip club. It wouldn't bother me if he went....I trust him completely.

He has no desire to go to one. I'm cool with that :tu

Personally, I've never been to one and don't care to go see a bunch of guys strip down to their little g-strings or but naked. John has been to several strip clubs. Back before we met he actually dated a stripper for a long while. I don't agree with him going by himself or with a bunch of guys now that we are married. One of his friends is getting married next summer and John is the best man. John knows I will be beyond PISSED if he throws the guy a bachelor party with strippers. Now if John wants to go that bad then I have no probelm going with him. That is the only time I agree with him seeing strippers. He knows I would go with him if he wants to go but he has never showed any interest whatsoever. I guess for some people they are fine with it but I'm not one.

i was a stripper for 5 years. I say if you have the body go for it! You cant controll the men who come in. Mostly they come in for a break, whether it is from life or whatever. most of them have no ill intentions. Dancers sell an illusion that is all.

DH and I have no interest in them. He has been a couple times with the guys when he was single and said it was a let down and waste of money... and he was single for 4 yrs before we started dating.
We had no bachelorette/bachelor parties. We didn't want them. :dunno

DH and I have no interest in them. He has been a couple times with the guys when he was single and said it was a let down and waste of money... and he was single for 4 yrs before we started dating.
We had no bachelorette/bachelor parties. We didn't want them. :dunno

we didn't either in the traditional sense. i tried to encourage dh to go do something one last hurrah with his dad (best man), and two groomsman but he opted to just hang out and watch sports with them. i went out with my girls for just a day of us.

i absolulty hate strip clubs and the idea of dh going to one is really disrespectful to me

Funny thing about DH and I-I've been to a strip club with a bunch of guys and he's never been to one!!! I went with a cousin as his DD, so I was hanging out with a bunch of dudes watchign chicks shake it, but DH has never been to one and has no urge to go. I would be supprised if he came to me one day and said he wanted to, because he's just not about that. If he did though, I have no problem with him going, if it;s something he wants to do-I'd even go with him.
I've never been to a chippendale's myself, but I hear they're actually pretty fun. I guess I'm open to it though

It doesn't bother me as long as he didn't make a habit of it.

if he goes into a strip club...
he dies:shoot

I agree:kungfu I told DB he is MINE, MINE, MINE:lmao

Meh, I really could care less but it doesn't matter because DH has no interest in them anyway. Neither of us sees the point in throwing away $$$ to look at naked bodies. I don't object to the idea of them or hold any judgement against those who do patronize them but they aren't my cup o'tea. As long as it is something both parties in a relationship are comfortable with I don't see an issue. Where it becomes an issue is when one is uncomfortable and the other is unwilling to respect the fact that their SO is not comfortable with them.
We didn't have bachelor/bachelorette parties.

If it's a special occasion, like a bachelor party, then I don't mind. I wouldn't like it, however, if he was going on a regular basis just for the hell of it. I've never been to a strip club and actually wouldn't mind going, just to experience it. DF and I have talked about going together, but it hasn't happened yet.

I trust him. SO if he wants to go I would say have fun dont spend too much money.

It's not our scene..we've both never been. We've both had the opportunity but chose not to, long before we were together and while we were together. If he wanted to go to one, I'd ask him who he was :giggle

My DH has gone into them before with guys from his unit when they are on their 2 week drill thing every year (last year they did it in Key West and a bunch of them went to the booby bar). I'm pretty much okay with it, I know he mostly goes to babysit the younger guys in his group and make sure nobody gets into too much trouble. I'm secure enough in my relationship that I don't really see it as that big a deal.

I personally wouldn't go to a male strip club because I'm not really into big muscle-y guys, I like nerdy pasty ones :lmao

This is the second time today you've read my mind :lmao

no, I would not agree!

I'm too insecure with myself to trust that he'll ever find me attractive after oogling other women.

I'm not the prettiest peach on the tree.

That is funny and sad at the same time... Should I laugh or give you a hug?? I bet he would find you attractive... I have no idea what you look like but I bet he is with you for a lot of reasons besides just looks anyway! I know what ya mean though. I am no super model, but apparently I am what my hubby is into, so it works out okay. LOL.

Not to get too off topic here, but while male strip clubs would never get me *hot*, hiring a male stripper to come clean my house WOULD do something for me.. hahaha:D

I (L) you Julie. LMAO.

Personally, I don't have a problem with strip clubs in the general sense. If someone is willing to pay to see someone else dance around half clothed or naked, more power to them both. I haven't really had the urge to go, and Adam has never asked so I have no idea how I would feel about it. I have a feeling "Take me with you!" would be my response though. LOL.

My only issue with strip clubs is when PEOPLE let them become more important than other things in their lives. Strip clubs should never ruin someone financially, and if one person in the relationship doesn't like them, the other person should respect that even if they don't see anything wrong with it.

And Sarah, I wish I had the body to strip!! I am jealous! I could only get away with stripping at a "trunks full of junk" or "belly full of jelly" club. LMAO.

None for him and none for me. Esp. the ones around here they are worse than reg. ones NASTY

I have no problem. I completely trust him! He doesnt like going though because he says hed rather see me naked :)

I personally dont have an issue with my db going to strip clubs, hes gone several times already. Im secure with myself and our realtionship that hell just have fun and leave it at that. I personally dont have a need for strip clubs doesnt really do anything for me.

We actually went one time together because I wanted to know what all the fuss was about.

To answer the question though, he doesn't go now but had in the past when he was much younger. I don't mind him going other than it's pretty freaking expensive.

As for me I don't like male strippers, especially the ones with long hair, they are so not my type of man to drool over. So I have no desire to go to a male strip club at all. If I was going to party then I'll be going clubbing downtown.

It doesn't bother me as long as he didn't make a habit of it.

exactly. and he could care less. I've been to see Chip n' Dales... it was fine. Choregraphed dancing of men in little underwear--it was pretty funny actually! I could care less whether I ever see that again.

I'm not really for or against.