Ok the first thing I need advice on is : my daughter is a year old and she sleeps with me and my husband and we are trying to break her but when we put her in her crib she screams, it's like she is having a panicattack.. my husband thinks she is afraid of the dark. When we do put her in the crib sometimes she will go to sleep but she wakes up at midnight, and my husband doesn help, he mangaes to sleep through her crying. And i am so tired that I end up just bring her to bed with us... I need advice bad cause I don't know what to do... also she likes to hit people, I don't like it but my husband laughs when she does it or tells her to hit me... it really pisses me off should i be mad at him or her???

I have no advice for getting her to sleep in her crib. Good Luck. As for who to be mad at; him. Take him aside and tell him how you feel. I have done this with John many times. At first he didn't see where I was coming from on some things but now he is seeing what I was talking about. As for the hitting, if she is hitting you when you're holding her put her down and walk away. Johnny thought it was hilarious to smack me in the face for awhile. I would grab his hand and tell him no, not nice. He would just laugh at me. Finally he smacked me one time so I put him down, walked away and he hasn't done it since. He screamed for a bit but it worked like a charm. If you're not holding her my only suggestion is to tell her no and redirect. Unfortunately, at that age, I think alot of kids go through a hitting stage. Just don't give in to her, or your hubby. Good Luck.

we did that cry to sleep method, this will only work if you put her to bed when she is tired otherwise it won't work.. if she is afraid of the dark, buy a cheap lamp, like dora or princess that doesn't have enough light to "party"with but enough that she might feel comforted. With the other two i did the hang out by the bed till she fell asleep thing.. the first night i sat next to the bed while she went to sleep the next night i put her down and sat further away, so on and so on. lots of times it's trial and error.

Well, one of my friends went through this in steps. She would put her DD in her crib (with a night-light) and would leave the room. If in 20 minutes, DD was still screaming, my friend would go get her, sit with her for a bit, and try again. If in the middle of the night, DD woke up screaming, my friend would put her in the bed, and try again the following night. It took a few weeks (about 3) before DD slept in the crib all night long. Now, she won't sleep anywhere else.

Hope that helps...

thank you soo much, i will give it a try

I wish I could help, but I have an almost 20 month old who still "sleeps" in our bed. She has a mattress on our floor that she goes to sleep on and by 5 in the morning shes in our bed. Good luck is all I can say!

Well, first things first....the sleeping. When I had to do it with my oldest child, it made a huge difference for me to be in the room until he fell asleep at first. Then I gravitated to still being awake where he could hear me, and then onto getting the house quiet. It's okay to let them cry for up to 30 mintues. Make sure you don't check on them, talk to them or anything during that time otherwise they may have to cry longer. The only exception is if she cries hard enough that you start to hear her heaving like she is going to throw up, it's rare, but it can happen.

Another good tip is to take her out to play something very active about half hour before bedtime. Something to wear her out so she has less energy to cry for long. After the first few times of her falling asleep out of sheer exhaustion in her own bed, she won't be so fussy about it.

Keeping a routine is supposed to be really good too. Such as always feeding her, then bathing her, then getting her ready, then brushing her teeth, then putting her in her room to rest and go to bed. Stick it out, and she'll learn. The longer you wait to start, the harder it will be.

As for late night wake ups, make a pallet in her room and you sleep beside the crib. It's better than putting her back in your bed. If you can make it back to your bed without her, then do, if not, put her in her bed and you sleep on the floor. That will also help her get more comfortable in her room.

Good luck.

Now, for the hitting. Talk to your husband and explain to him that it isn't cute to you, you don't like it, and from this moment on you expect him to back you up on your new no hitting policy. Remind him that if he continues to train her to hit ppl, then he is the one that is going to talk to her teachers when she gets in trouble in school for it, and when she winds up on assault charges later on in life, he is going to have to get a second job to pay for the lawyer and you will not be contributing 1 single penny towards her defense. Then stand your ground, set a punishment for when she hits you (most of the time a little swat to the diaper is enough, but if you don't want to do that, I have found that putting them down and refusing affection for a short while - till they forget - works even better. They had rather have your love and affection than daddy's laughter any day.

Well, one of my friends went through this in steps. She would put her DD in her crib (with a night-light) and would leave the room. If in 20 minutes, DD was still screaming, my friend would go get her, sit with her for a bit, and try again. If in the middle of the night, DD woke up screaming, my friend would put her in the bed, and try again the following night. It took a few weeks (about 3) before DD slept in the crib all night long. Now, she won't sleep anywhere else.

Hope that helps...

That's what we had to do with my son. I was pregnant with my daugheter and I had rocked him to sleep every night for his whole life and once the new baby came I knew we couldn't do it. So we started breaking him of the habit. When I went in tho I didn't hold him I talked to him and rubbed his back and made him feel better and we had a nightlite in there. Now he's a grade A sleeper and right from the start with Ash we put her to bed awake but drowsy and we've never had problems with her.

Well, first things first....the sleeping. When I had to do it with my oldest child, it made a huge difference for me to be in the room until he fell asleep at first. Then I gravitated to still being awake where he could hear me, and then onto getting the house quiet. It's okay to let them cry for up to 30 mintues. Make sure you don't check on them, talk to them or anything during that time otherwise they may have to cry longer. The only exception is if she cries hard enough that you start to hear her heaving like she is going to throw up, it's rare, but it can happen.

Another good tip is to take her out to play something very active about half hour before bedtime. Something to wear her out so she has less energy to cry for long. After the first few times of her falling asleep out of sheer exhaustion in her own bed, she won't be so fussy about it.

Keeping a routine is supposed to be really good too. Such as always feeding her, then bathing her, then getting her ready, then brushing her teeth, then putting her in her room to rest and go to bed. Stick it out, and she'll learn. The longer you wait to start, the harder it will be.

As for late night wake ups, make a pallet in her room and you sleep beside the crib. It's better than putting her back in your bed. If you can make it back to your bed without her, then do, if not, put her in her bed and you sleep on the floor. That will also help her get more comfortable in her room.

Good luck.

Now, for the hitting. Talk to your husband and explain to him that it isn't cute to you, you don't like it, and from this moment on you expect him to back you up on your new no hitting policy. Remind him that if he continues to train her to hit ppl, then he is the one that is going to talk to her teachers when she gets in trouble in school for it, and when she winds up on assault charges later on in life, he is going to have to get a second job to pay for the lawyer and you will not be contributing 1 single penny towards her defense. Then stand your ground, set a punishment for when she hits you (most of the time a little swat to the diaper is enough, but if you don't want to do that, I have found that putting them down and refusing affection for a short while - till they forget - works even better. They had rather have your love and affection than daddy's laughter any day.

About the sleeping in the crib, sh has a bumper on her bed should I take it off so she can see me in her room??/ And also we have a discipline problem because I don't want to swat her all the time but when you tell her no she does what she wants any way... she doesn't listen at all and it drives me nuts..

You don't have to swat her if you are against that. Just tell her no hitting, then ignore her for about 30 seconds.

As for the sleeping, personally I think that picking her up and bringing her to bed with you when she cries is making it worse...teaching her that if she cries she will get what she wants. I recommend standing by her crib and rubbing her back or her hair until she calms back down. Yes, it can get exhausting in the middle of the night, but in time it will be worth it.

She is 1. You'll have to continue to redirect and tell her no. I have a 1 yr. old boy and I redirect him alot. Just be consist with it. Once you start you can't back down or next time she'll fight even harder to get her way since you showed her at some point you'll back down. Good Luck.

Our son would have a panic attack whenever we put him in his crib. He cried for hours...I mean around 4. It just wasn't healthy for him to be there. We let him sleep in our room but at 1, we put the crib mattress right next to our bed. Now at two, he is sleeping (some of the night) in his big boy bed (twin mattress on the floor) and when he wakes up, he crawls into his old baby bed. it worked for us. My husband and I are in agreement with it.

I like the idea of my child close to me now that flu season is starting up. Less mess.

Ok the first thing I need advice on is : my daughter is a year old and she sleeps with me and my husband and we are trying to break her but when we put her in her crib she screams, it's like she is having a panicattack.. my husband thinks she is afraid of the dark. When we do put her in the crib sometimes she will go to sleep but she wakes up at midnight, and my husband doesn help, he mangaes to sleep through her crying. And i am so tired that I end up just bring her to bed with us... I need advice bad cause I don't know what to do... also she likes to hit people, I don't like it but my husband laughs when she does it or tells her to hit me... it really pisses me off should i be mad at him or her???

Yikes, she is a baby. No sense in being mad at her. Its not her fault. :)

I am so glad we have a no kids in OUR bed policy. Saves us this MAJOR trouble. Good luck.

About the sleeping in the crib, sh has a bumper on her bed should I take it off so she can see me in her room??/ And also we have a discipline problem because I don't want to swat her all the time but when you tell her no she does what she wants any way... she doesn't listen at all and it drives me nuts..

If she is trying to see you, then take it down. Sometimes just telling her that you are there will be enough.

For discipline (I love Supernanny) get down on her level, tell her what you need to say while looking her straight in the face, and tell her the consequences. If she doesn't listen, enforce them. Those could be standing in the corner, the swat on the diaper, or whatever you feel would best work for her. If you have tried the swat and it isn't working, then it probably never will, so go with the corner, or maybe make her sit in a chair or something like that. I'm pretty sure Supernanny has a website and she has some awesome tips. I just wish she had been around with my first 2 kids, but I'm still thankful she was here for number 3!