Hi everyone I'm new here and hoping to get some support. It's been about a week since my husband left on his 7 month deployment to Iraq, and I'm taking it harder than I thought we have 2 little girls and I'm trying to be strong for them but it's very hard, ever since my husband left I could not eat anything,I will make food for my kids and I will throw my food away, I can't sleep, I just feel so sad. I heard from him once since he was gone and I'm hoping that he will call again because alot of wives say they talk to their husband by phone or email everyday and I feel that my husband is not calling me because he don't want to talk to us or does not miss me and the kids. I know it's stupid but my mind is racing about the WHAT IF'S can someone please give me advice.

We have been married for 3 1/2 years and this is our first deployment.

:hi!..its not stupid, What if's are always normal honey. Idont have much advice, but to try and keep busy and stay positive. I know its easier said than done, but just try to stay strong. I dont think he isnt calling you purposely and if he is, it might just be easier for him that way for right now.
If you ever just want to chat you can always PM me :)

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Firstly, WELCOME!!! You're not alone here. If you can't eat meals, try and snack. At least then you will be getting something into you. I know some people prefer to sleep during the day when their SO's are away, I find it easier. Stay strong.

If he just left a week ago, he's not in a place to be able to call on a regular basis. Give him some time to get into Iraq and settle into his new job and surroundings. Once he gets a routine down, he'll figure out how to make more time to call or get on the computer with you. The beginning of the tour is always the worst because we are missing them so much and having so little contact with them. You are allowed to feel that way, it's an adjustment for everyone involved. It will get easier, just remember it's your job to keep things together back home so that he doesn't have to worry about that on top of everything else. What ifs are going to enter your mind, just stay strong knowing that he is well trained and will come back to you. My dh left when our baby was 6 weeks old and won't be back until she's 15 months... it's hard, but you get into a routine, remember to be there for him, and you take care of yourself. :grphug

I haven't been through a deployment yet but I have survived 4 years of my hubby being in medical school so I have spent A LOT of time alone with my kids. My advice for you is to try to stay as busy as possible. Join a playgroup, wives club, etc.. I used to be pretty quiet and shy but now whenever I get a chance at "adult" conversation I pounce on it :giggle This site has really helped me a lot, too. The girls on here are very supportive and really know how to cheer me up when I'm having a "down" day. Welcome to the site, I hope things start to get easier for you :hugs

If he just left a week ago, he's not in a place to be able to call on a regular basis. Give him some time to get into Iraq and settle into his new job and surroundings. Once he gets a routine down, he'll figure out how to make more time to call or get on the computer with you. The beginning of the tour is always the worst because we are missing them so much and having so little contact with them. You are allowed to feel that way, it's an adjustment for everyone involved. It will get easier, just remember it's your job to keep things together back home so that he doesn't have to worry about that on top of everything else. What ifs are going to enter your mind, just stay strong knowing that he is well trained and will come back to you. My dh left when our baby was 6 weeks old and won't be back until she's 15 months... it's hard, but you get into a routine, remember to be there for him, and you take care of yourself. :grphug

Thanks for making me feel better I really don't know what to expect. I'm relieved to know that he probably didn't call yet because of work related issues.

[QUOTE=SailorWife2B0620;1242816]:hi!..its not stupid, What if's are always normal honey. Idont have much advice, but to try and keep busy and stay positive. I know its easier said than done, but just try to stay strong. I dont think he isnt calling you purposely and if he is, it might just be easier for him that way for right now.
If you ever just want to chat you can always PM me :)

Thanks, I will PM you just let me know when I'm bothering you too much:giggle

Thanks everyone for making me feel better

Hi, I've gone through the same anxiety about not getting the same amount of contact as some of the SOs on here. My BF went to Afghanistan and he didn't even email for 3 weeks - I was incensed. But he was exhausted and typical mil fashion they'd got all messed up, the plans had changed, everything was broken, their stuff hadn't arrived, etc... So then I felt a little silly. I still don't get much contact which is really hard - but it varies so much depending on where they are posted and what the facilities are like. Its a really difficult time for all of us. Keep strong