Ever since DB got the internet in his room, I have been able to talk to A LOT more then I have been in the past 5 months. Even though it is only online, it's something, which is good enough for me.

But the other day when I was talking to him for the first time in 6 days, I started to get really upset. I was on the phone with my friend, and just started crying :tears. I have no idea why, we were having a perfectly normal conversation, everything was fine. I guess it all just got to me. It was the first time that I've ever been upset while talking to him, usually I'll just get upset when I go for a long period of time with no word from him.

I felt like I needed to tell him that I was upset, and how much I miss him and all. My friend who I was on the phone with suggested to tell him, so that he could make me feel better. But then I got to thinking- I don't want him knowing I'm upset, and then in turn make him upset, when there's nothing he can do about it right now. I don't want to distract him from his work and all. :worried

I know I need to be strong for him. Did I make the right decision in not telling him? :confuzzle

One time, a few weeks ago.. My DF was supposed to be going on a pretty serious mission, I cried pretty hard and heavy on webcam. I didnt want him to see me cry, but I couldnt hold it back, he said he knew how much I cared after seeing it.

But, if he doesnt know, maybe you shouldnt worry him :dunno Everytime DF and I used to talk VIA IM, we had our cams on, so he saw everything I did.

The communication is amazing when they have the internet in their rooms. I was totally spoiled by it.

I think its different for every guy. My db told me that he doesn't mind hearing that i am upset or if i've had a horrible week or whatnot because then he knows whats going on, and he tries to help as much as possible. I asked him if it bothers him that I say " I miss you alot" and such and he said no, because then he knows that I care for him and that i'm missing him like he is missing me

but that is just the kind of guy db is. Does it seem to upset your SO if you tell him you miss him? If so then maybe it was best not to say anything.

i agree that it is different for every guy. i know that db told me he didn't want to know when i was upset when he was over there. i have sent him some emails when im having a rough day, and i only cried to him on the phone once this whole deployment. i mostly cry to my mom and friends, because i know it makes him feel bad that there is nothing he can do to make me feel better or happy while he is there.

you probably made the best decision, because you don't want to worry him/stress him any more then he most likely is.

i agree too that internet in their cans is a lifesaver. we talked almost every single day for the past 3 months thank god for that one saving grace!

you know your db and your relationship better then anybody else so do what makes you feel the best about it. i think you made the right decision though.

I try to not bother him with the everyday stresses... like our daughter is cranky butt from teething, etc. but if I'm really upset I let him know. I think he feels like he's helping by just giving me encouragement... which he is because sometimes that's all I need. I always make sure he knows that I don't blame him for not being there and making life harder, just that I'm upset in general.

I think that was a good call on your part. I think DB feels kinda helpless being that he is so far away and can't comfort me so keep a lot of stuff to myself. I just lean on friends or PM one of the girls on here.