how often do yall usually write SO..when theyre deployed or gone. Is 2-3 times a month going over board? and i want to tell him all thats going on here..but i dont know if i should tell him about some of the negative stuff thats been going on. and how often do u email or leave messages for them? cuz again i dont wanna go overboard and have him be like damn she never stops lol.

oh and for care packages does anyone have an estimate of how much it would cost to send it over? and when theyre on mission when do they usually get them?

and is it normal that when u get a letter or a call finally in what seems forever..that u get so excited and start crying? cuz i feel like an idiot for doing that...especially with family in the same room.

My DB is in Korea.

I've sent him at least one letter a week and that's on top of emails and webcalls.

I've also sent 3 packages - I used the ever popular flat rate box. To a military address anywhere in the world, it's only $8.95.

I go back and forth on how many letters etc. I send cards mainly and then write emails - sometimes everyday, sometimes every week. and I guess i've been sending about a package a month...

My dh is in Iraq and I sent emails and pics of our baby daily... if I miss a day he calls me out on it and says that's the best part of his day :D. When he reads the emails he says that he feels like he's still a part of life at home for a few minutes. I send him a care package each week. Since the postage rate went up it's best to send the flat rate box because it's crazy what they charge otherwise. IF he is out on mission, the package will be waiting in his bunk usually when he returns.

When DH was deployed, I would email atleast once everyday & send a letter once a week. That is still my plan for the upcoming deployment as well.

I don't remember how much it averaged for shipping care packages. It varied depending on how much I was sending.

No I didn't cry with excitement when he would call but I would cry when we hung up.

I'm averaging about 1-2 letters a week and we email each other everyday. Planning to send a package once or twice a month also

the tears usually come at the end of the phone call, I try not to use my time on the phone with him crying so i just hold it in till we hang up sometimes

Well, DH is in Afghanistan, and it usually takes between one and 2 weeks for him to get a package. I send one out on the 1st and 15th, and it's usually about $10 to $20 each time. I write him one letter a week, and I e mail him 2 times a day:P I'll tell him if I'm having problems with work or the bills or something with the house, but I try to keep them upbeat so he doesn't worry too much. So I'll tell him that the car broke down, but I sure am glad we have 2 cars!:giggle I'm sure he can see through it, but oh well!!! When I e mail him, I'll tell him what my plans are for the day, whare I'm going, what I'll be doing and what I actually got done. He told me he likes it because it makes him feel like he's jsut at work and keeping up with everything.

i would send him like a card a week, and email him pretty much every day.

if you get the flat rate boxes from the us post office, they are like 8.95 to send no matter how much they weigh so you can really pack stuff in there!

he never wrote me one damn letter the whole time he has been deployed, but when he would call in the beginning i would be overwhelmed and i would cry. i also know i would cry if i got a letter from him. totally normal to be emotional!! :hugs

When DH was in Iraq I sent him motomails or letters everyday or every other day and packages every week. Now that he is in Japan we talk everyday on the phone, but I still send him cards/letters a couple times a month and the same goes for packages

I e-mail at least daily (I'm forgetful and an internet girl, so it's often twice a day). I write letters daily as well, telling all the stuff (boring though most of it is) that I didn't e-mail about. I try to send those off once a week (though lately, they've been going out every other week).

I dunno if the letters are more for me to pretend he's around, or for him to feel included, but either way - they're a good marker of time.

And, yes, I have absolutely cried after DB has called. The first time he called, I had a hard time not crying throughout. :screwy

This is just for deployment though. When he's just away (at a distance) we try to talk daily, then maybe e-mail if not, and letters/cards only go out for important dates.

So, in grand conclusion - no, I highly doubt that's overboard. I think he'll appreciate that you're thinking about him, not be like "enough already," but, whenever I feel I'm going overboard, I just try to be more succinct in my e-mails for a bit, until I remember that I'm not a succinct person (as you can probably tell).

I wrote everyday...

I email him everyday, I write him a letter everyday. He told me he loves getting all the letters that they help get through each day. I send at least two packages a month, and the prices for my packages has been around 9 dollars or so.

When my DH was deployed I chatted with him almost everyday and when we didn't chat I always sent him emails. Sometimes on days that we did chat things would happen after so I'd send him an email. I never sent any care packages but I might this time around. :) Every so often I would get a call but not much since it's so much cheaper to just chat online.

I email him just about every day. He said he gets more emails than some of the married guys on his boat... lol.

I usually just tell him how my day was and that I can't wait to see him... I asked him if I sent too many emails.... and he was like "heck no, keep them coming!!" :)

Stuff to read when he gets bored.

Uh oh I feel like a stalker! I send DB a motomail everyday...sometimes two. Then a card or tiny package (envelope size) each week, and big packages every two weeks. Every few months I send a few boxes. He loves it, says it makes him happy knowing someone is thinking of him.

how often do yall usually write SO..when theyre deployed or gone. Is 2-3 times a month going over board? and i want to tell him all thats going on here..but i dont know if i should tell him about some of the negative stuff thats been going on. and how often do u email or leave messages for them? cuz again i dont wanna go overboard and have him be like damn she never stops lol.

oh and for care packages does anyone have an estimate of how much it would cost to send it over? and when theyre on mission when do they usually get them?

and is it normal that when u get a letter or a call finally in what seems forever..that u get so excited and start crying? cuz i feel like an idiot for doing that...especially with family in the same room.

my b/f is in iraq.. i send him a package at least once a week, if not more. during the week i write him a letter every day, date it, and then stick the letters i have been writing in his next package. i don't email him very often because he hardly is ever able to check it and when he is, he has only a limited amount of time.

flat rate boxes are $8.95 i think. it takes a week for my b/f. on his first tour it took 2-3 weeks. but it all depends on where they are and if the mail system is operating normally and everything.

and yes it is normal to get excited and cry when you hear from him!! i always do! :hugehug

When my DH is away, I write every day. Even if it's just a short little note saying I love him. I don't think 2-3 times a month is overboard at all, I would actually say to shoot for at least once a week.

if 2-3 times a week is overboard, then the 2-3 times a week i wrote means i'm nuts.

whatever you're comfortable with & have time for should be just fine

I think im a bad girlfriend.... I didnt do any of this stuff nearly as much... DF and I talked daily VIA IM and webcam, if he wasnt calling me. So, I didnt feel like the hand written stuff was nessasary. He mailed ME packages, cards, flowers, letters.... But, he was coming home soon. :dunno If he would have been there longer after we got together, I would have mailed more stuff.

Emails, thats different.. I emailed a different song and the lyrics daily, with pictures of everything around here and poems.

Just do what you are comfortable with. I go in spurts. I was sending a letter every day and emails every couple of days on top of that when he had email. Then he got IM so the letters slowed down some but the emails sped up. Then he lost IM so now the letters have sped up and the emails have slowed down a lot. :D

Pretty much the only thing that I stay constant with are the packages and he gets those about once a week. I spoil him ROTTEN! One week it is his supplies and one week it is snacks and one week it is just fun stuff.

I used to have a "system" to how often I wrote but now it is more like whenever I am thinking of him I write. I write whichever way I think he will get it. So I end up writing a LOT. :D

i do email or motomail just about every day...we talk on the phone almost every day...so far i've sent about a package a week using flat rate boxes, and i'm not much of a crier, but at random times i just start crying, either because i'm so happy or so sad...:dunno

I did it daily or more than once daily:yes:D

When my guy was deployed, I'd write him a letter and a motomail everyday.

My DB is currently in Iraq on a 10 month long tour of duty. For the first couple of weeks I emailed him everyday almost like a journal to myself and to let him know what was going on in my life. When he finally got internet access at camp he said how thrilled he was for all of the emails and he actally printed them out so that he could have something to look forward to each day. Now, we have fallen into a routine where we talk almost every night on yahoo messanger. We've spoken on the phone a few times as well. He says he looks forward to some form of communication each day. So I know for him, something each day will help him get through this. I guess it really depends on the person.


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what is motomail??? i've never heard of it.

i wrote him a few times a week and sent a package monthly

well, tried to. sometimes life gets in the way.