An argument insued this morning between Anya and I and it got me thinking...

What are your opinions on young girls and wearing underware?

For me I am completely and utterly AGAINST young girls aka my daughter at the young of almost 9 NOT wearing undies. I just don't think she is fully capable of making that choice. In her defense she is making it because she is lazy and hasn't done her laundry this week so she has no clean undies. So I don't know she didn't make the choice to try and be older. but it just got me thinking on the way into work about it.

Are there other parents who aremore lacked on the subject?

When is appropriate to allow your child to make the choice for themselves?

If your daughter came to you saying they hate wearing underware would you try and persuade them to wearing a thong?

Would you be okay with it?

What about those with boys? Would you be okay with your son "free balling" it everyday to school?

for me if they are wearing shorts or a skirt, sorry underwear must go on, but pants if she didn't like it then I wouldn't care too much. since it is more a comfort thing.

hmm i dunno let me think on this. i think at home is different than at school though.

My girls wear underwear period if they are awake. They have no excuse not to, they each have about a 100 pairs...I kid you not. Both sets of grandparents sent them each about 25 new pairs of undies to wear to school this year. Not the "bagged" kind either so they have some cute little boy short ones which they both prefer.

hmm i dunno let me think on this. i think at home is different than at school though.

:lmao you are too funny sometimes gurlie

Why is underwear a big deal? I get that in skirts and shorts they need to cover their parts and all, that is a given, but is there another reason I am unaware of?

Just asking... :P

Im thinking like Jillian, at home its a different story. At school, you never know what could happen that might end up in embarassment. Someone pants you, your pants rip, etc.

I was raised that it wasnt an option. Underware is exactly that! You are supposed to wear it under your clothes. I dont know, I guess I would do the same with Ellie :dunno And thongs? Uh NO! Not until she is in high school. And they will have to be approved by me first, no sexually geared thongs!

Personally I dont think it is a good idea to go without underware even as an adult for women. Maybe you should just try different kinds/styles. I remember when I was about 10 i switched to silk panties cause I thought they were much more comfortable. At her age, I wouldnt reccomend a thong yet though, personaly I would wait til she is like 16 or 17. thats just me. AS for boys I dont think it is as big of a deal for them to go without.

I think my kids should always wear underwear. The only time I'd consider letting my daughter not wear underwear is if she was wearing white pants but she would have to have a little longer shirt on.

There was one day Lily got herself dressed and didn't put on underwear. I didn't find out until the evening when she was putting on her pajamas. She had gone to school and everything. I asked her why she didn't put on underwear and she said she didn't feel like it. I explained to her she must always wear underwear.

I'd make sure she wore them since the jeans can creep up and be uncomfortable. I don't like the idea of her wearing thongs since they're also uncomfortable, and would probably have her mind on that rather than what it should be on. I'd tell her to wear a swimsuit bottom for the day.

I prefer both of them to wear underwear. That just gives them extra coverage if some crazy kid decides to pull down their pants. I don't see underwear as a need, but I'll pretend it is when I'm dealing with them.

Why is underwear a big deal? I get that in skirts and shorts they need to cover their parts and all, that is a given, but is there another reason I am unaware of?

Just asking... :P

For me because they are little girls and they don't need their "stuff" hanging out there. I don't care if they wear it bed or not...or even under their jammies..but if they are awake and dressed..damn straight they better have it on! ;)

I had a friend growing up who didn't wear underwear at night ( i know different topic completely) but that was how her parents raised her, the felt it was a waste of underwear to wear it after a bath at night since you got up and put fresh underwear on. To me I don't see a big deal in not letting your child not wear underwear under pants. It could be a comfort thing.

Personally I dont think it is a good idea to go without underware even as an adult for women. Maybe you should just try different kinds/styles. I remember when I was about 10 i switched to silk panties cause I thought they were much more comfortable. At her age, I wouldnt reccomend a thong yet though, personaly I would wait til she is like 16 or 17. thats just me. AS for boys I dont think it is as big of a deal for them to go without.

They probably are, but that isnt a good idea. Cotton is the best way to go, because it lets you breathe down there and you dont get bad things such as a yeast infection etc.

Why is underwear a big deal? I get that in skirts and shorts they need to cover their parts and all, that is a given, but is there another reason I am unaware of?

Just asking... :P


I think our argument more stemed form her avoiding her chores :banghead

As for not wearing undies it just one of those things that literally bugs me since her pants are always falling off her hips I just don't like it. I think if there were pants out that would fit her bony skinny bootie then it wouldn't bother me so much.

Im thinking like Jillian, at home its a different story. At school, you never know what could happen that might end up in embarassment. Someone pants you, your pants rip, etc.

see that's what i was thinking. or god forbid a child has an accident (like at preschool or kindergarten) kwim?

okay so i have my opinion: at home or with family i think it's fine if they want to go commando but skirts and shorts need to have underwear/panties on. school absolutely they need to have panties/underwear because of what kat said

They probably are, but that isnt a good idea. Cotton is the best way to go, because it lets you breathe down there and you dont get bad things such as a yeast infection etc.

the part on the crotch was cotton, the pantie itself was silkish.:wink

you could always try the barely there line of underwear it feels like you aren't wearing anything and it's seamless

for me if they are wearing shorts or a skirt, sorry underwear must go on, but pants if she didn't like it then I wouldn't care too much. since it is more a comfort thing.

:yes...also I would probably ask her about the thong and let her try them out.

I think our argument more stemed form her avoiding her chores :banghead

As for not wearing undies it just one of those things that literally bugs me since her pants are always falling off her hips I just don't like it. I think if there were pants out that would fit her bony skinny bootie then it wouldn't bother me so much.
March her hiney to the laundry room and have her throw a load of undies in.

My opinion - kids should wear underwear. Period. Not thongs, no Nothing, Underwear.

Thankfully, this issue hasn't come up at my house. But if/when it does, undies will be mandatory until they are on their own. Personal opinion, I guess.

I thought it was unhealthy to NOT wear underwear :dunno Something about bacteria down there and the stuff in jeans and other clothes not being a healthy mix if their is no barrier, like underwear.

I was taught that you always had to wear underwear...and that's what I teach my kids. *shrug* if when they're adults they want to ditch the undies, more power to them, but as long as they're underage and in my care, they'll wear those damn underwear and like it!
Thongs? not until they're 16+ and buy them themselves, with their own money. Heck, I don't own thongs, I find them to be completely uncomfortable. I also find not wearing undies to be totally uncomfortable. To each their own, but like I said, as long as they're in my house, undies are required.

Why couldn't Anya have just turned her underwear inside out?!?!?!




























































j/k!!!!!!! :lmao


For me, underwear will be a MUST. I think it's totally disgusting to NOT wear any underwear at all!

I had thongs at 10 or 12, but that was when the stretchy black dress pants were really in style...and panty lines, ewwwwwwwww.

Why couldn't Anya have just turned her underwear inside out?!?!?!




























































j/k!!!!!!! :lmao


For me, underwear will be a MUST. I think it's totally disgusting to NOT wear any underwear at all!

Okay seriously I read the first part and was like :duh I never even friggen thought of it :lmao

Thankfully, this issue hasn't come up at my house. But if/when it does, undies will be mandatory until they are on their own. Personal opinion, I guess.

I agree with this...

Okay seriously I read the first part and was like :duh I never even friggen thought of it :lmao

HAHAHA!!!!! :D

I remember in high school, this guy in one of my classes wore the SAME thing to school everyday for like 2 weeks in a row, because it was a punishment from his parents. I BET he never disobeyed his parents again after that...LMAO!!!
I'm sure he washed his clothes, but still, I'd be embarrassed!!!

I'd make my kids wear underwear. Just like when DD is old enough to need a bra, I'll make her wear one. When she's like in high school and I have less say over her wardrobe (she will NOT go out looking like a hooker but will give her more freedom), she can go without if she wants-I probably wouldn't even know at that point.

An argument insued this morning between Anya and I and it got me thinking...

What are your opinions on young girls and wearing underware?

For me I am completely and utterly AGAINST young girls aka my daughter at the young of almost 9 NOT wearing undies. I just don't think she is fully capable of making that choice. In her defense she is making it because she is lazy and hasn't done her laundry this week so she has no clean undies. So I don't know she didn't make the choice to try and be older. but it just got me thinking on the way into work about it.

Are there other parents who aremore lacked on the subject?

When is appropriate to allow your child to make the choice for themselves?

If your daughter came to you saying they hate wearing underware would you try and persuade them to wearing a thong?

Would you be okay with it?

What about those with boys? Would you be okay with your son "free balling" it everyday to school?

This whole thread has me laughing... I have never heard of a child not wanting to wear underwear (unless at home with jammies) ... She obviously needs to was some clothes. Does she wash all her own clothes?

I think anyone not wearing underware is gross(thats just me, i know alot do) so I would never consider my DD doing it. When she is over 18 and lives on her own she can not wear them if she wants.

when I was a kid a urologist told me "stop wearing underwear" and i looked absolutely mortified... then he said "well, at least not to bed"

So that is what I did for the longest time.

I think as long as you cant see their butt or crotch then it is fine to go without, really.

I guess the most important thing is though, jeans can only be worn ONCE if you dont wear undies!

I am laughing at this because my ODS would be mortified if he was told he could go commando. For him underpants are a must but t-shirt & shorts should be optional. I would make her wash some clothes and in my opinion she is FAR FAR to young for a thong.

My daughter would cringe at the thought of no underwear...lol

When I have kids, they will wear underwear. Period. And no thongs until they are at least sixteen. I feel they are unhealthy.

At home is diff from being in public (at home if they don't want to wear underware fine) but in public yes. Expecially if they are wearing shorts or a skirt. Just my 2 cents

Drawers are a must..... dd came home from her brothers with a couple pair that look like eye patches... I don't allow that and they have found their way to the trash...

i dunno how anyone can stand to go w/o underwear

I thought it was unhealthy to NOT wear underwear :dunno Something about bacteria down there and the stuff in jeans and other clothes not being a healthy mix if their is no barrier, like underwear.

I was thinking the same thing. :shrug

What if the seam in a pair of pants irritated a little girl's private parts, and you had to take her to the doctor? What if the doc thought her irritation was from friction caused by being molested or something?

Sounds far fetched, but I've heard of crazier things happening..

DS's parts are pretty sensitive anyways.. He still gets rashes if we're not careful..

Ok I dont personally wear underwear. I dont like underwear. I dont like how they feel, I dont like feeling them ride up in my butt crack, I dont like panty lines. So I dont wear them. At all. Ever. Havent for many years. After this baby is born I know I will have to wear them while I am recovering and I am not looking foreward to it.

Thats why I dont like to wear em. If my daughter decides she doesnt like wearing them at some point I will understand cause I am the same way...lol

well in my opinion and in my house I feel that everyone should wear underwear no matter if they are of age or not. I feel very uncomfy without undies on. I like having that extra protection and for little boys and girls i feel its a must for them to wear it.

I think underwear are always a necessary thing for both boys and girls. Going without undies makes me feel really gross and my pants ride up so bad that it's miserable. Wearing a skirt without undies is something I wouldn't even try. I'd feel completely naked:suspect IMO thongs are just disgusting..for anyone...period:tired

When is appropriate to allow your child to make the choice for themselves? When they move out of my house.

If your daughter came to you saying they hate wearing underware would you try and persuade them to wearing a thong? If the choice was None to a thong then yes I would advocate for a thong but of course she must be old enough to wear one. She's 9 now and if she asked me for a thong it would be a quick Hell No!

Would you be okay with it? I would not be okay with the girls not wearing undies. When they are out of the house then they can do whatever they want clothing-wise. Until then I will have a say in what they wear.

What about those with boys? Would you be okay with your son "free balling" it everyday to school? All kids will be required to wear undies.

at that age i never knew of it as a choice. we always wore underwear.

Ok I dont personally wear underwear. I dont like underwear. I dont like how they feel, I dont like feeling them ride up in my butt crack, I dont like panty lines. So I dont wear them. At all. Ever. Havent for many years. After this baby is born I know I will have to wear them while I am recovering and I am not looking foreward to it.

Thats why I dont like to wear em. If my daughter decides she doesnt like wearing them at some point I will understand cause I am the same way...lol


me too. during pregnancy and post partum, though... that's a diff story. i'm a clean person...i shower at least twice a day.... to me, there's no difference in having undearwear against my bare crotch or pants. i've never had any issues with it being "gross down there" so i'm not too concerned about it.

if i wear a skirt, i wear underwear....


ETA: in my family, i think it's genetic :giggle neither or my biological parents (i found out later in life) and my little sisters wear it.

I'll always give her undies to put on, but if for some reason down the road she decides she doesn't want to wear any because of comfort I'm ok with that as long as she isn't doing it with skirts or dresses. Also... someone said something about skinny butts and pants staying up. I think this might be a problem we have with her. IF that's the case I'll probably tell her she needs to wear them because if she bends over some pervert might see her crack... that's just not appropriate for a 9 year old, imo, especially since they're on the cusp of puberty, developing, discovering boys, etc. I don't want anybody thinking my child's a hussy!

When Kaitlyn's a teen I'm ok with thongs as long as they don't say something retarded like "tease" or "sexy". That just isn't necessary!